I've seen some black women that are worst than dudes when it comes to keeping a roster. Once they become serial daters with access to any dude they want why settle for one guy? The only thing that puts a wrench in their plans is these high status dudes getting snatched up by pawgs and exoticals. What these women hate most is competition because they know men like variety. Just look at all these famous black women that arent married Sanaa Lathan, Mya, Ashanti etc. These women are considered the cream of the crop yet perfectly fine getting ran through by athletes and entertainers. Yet nobody ever questions them about marriage like they do the average black man.
Fewer people are getting married because there’s a shortage of economically-stable single men
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I'll read the rest of the thread so if I'm rehashing points already made, my bad.
This article is anti-BM rhetoric but they tried to finesse by not naming Black men specifically like they've always done in these articles.
If marriage is indeed at an all time time low it is because men of all stripes are realizing that marriage is major risk with bad odds.
If the marriage goes south, you will lose your home, which is a major investment in and of itself, free access to your children, and a large portion of your income.
Let's not even get into the emotional scarring.
The family court laws are archaic and punitive, so a fair outcome for all parties is not the goal.
The goal is to literally make the man pay for many years for the failure of the marriage.
Pre-nuptial agreements could prevent much of this carnage, but men have been shamed by society into not asking their future wives to sign one.
It is actually seen as vindictive to protect yourself in the case that your ex-wife will attempt permanently alter your well being for the sake of a vendetta or spite.
These are the cold hard facts. With so much information at our fingertips, men are more aware of divorces gone awry than ever.
I'm not saying that marriage should be avoided, but one must choose carefully and wisely.
It's definitely not always the woman's fault a marriage fails.
Some dudes know good and damn well they cant be monogamous and wife up anyway.
Successful men know that that they have other lifestyle options than marriage and will remain dateable for life because of that success
The other side if this is these articles will have you believe that there is no wealth in the Black community and save for atheltes and entertainers, all Black men are penniless.
Despite the long lasting effects of Reaganomics and the continuing efforts of the GOP and their corporate cronies, Black people are slowly starting to learn how to grow and manage wealth.
Financial literacy is a more frequent topic amongst Black people these days. So for Black men who are the first in their bloodline to be well off, best believe they're looking at marriage options with a fine tooth comb.
The rise of this City or Hot Girl culture is thinning those options rapidly.
TL:DR: Brehs aint trying to take the divorce L. Especially ballin brehs. More twerking and see through clothes, less wifeable women.
This article is anti-BM rhetoric but they tried to finesse by not naming Black men specifically like they've always done in these articles.
If marriage is indeed at an all time time low it is because men of all stripes are realizing that marriage is major risk with bad odds.
If the marriage goes south, you will lose your home, which is a major investment in and of itself, free access to your children, and a large portion of your income.
Let's not even get into the emotional scarring.
The family court laws are archaic and punitive, so a fair outcome for all parties is not the goal.
The goal is to literally make the man pay for many years for the failure of the marriage.
Pre-nuptial agreements could prevent much of this carnage, but men have been shamed by society into not asking their future wives to sign one.
It is actually seen as vindictive to protect yourself in the case that your ex-wife will attempt permanently alter your well being for the sake of a vendetta or spite.
These are the cold hard facts. With so much information at our fingertips, men are more aware of divorces gone awry than ever.
I'm not saying that marriage should be avoided, but one must choose carefully and wisely.
It's definitely not always the woman's fault a marriage fails.
Some dudes know good and damn well they cant be monogamous and wife up anyway.
Successful men know that that they have other lifestyle options than marriage and will remain dateable for life because of that success
The other side if this is these articles will have you believe that there is no wealth in the Black community and save for atheltes and entertainers, all Black men are penniless.
Despite the long lasting effects of Reaganomics and the continuing efforts of the GOP and their corporate cronies, Black people are slowly starting to learn how to grow and manage wealth.
Financial literacy is a more frequent topic amongst Black people these days. So for Black men who are the first in their bloodline to be well off, best believe they're looking at marriage options with a fine tooth comb.
The rise of this City or Hot Girl culture is thinning those options rapidly.
TL:DR: Brehs aint trying to take the divorce L. Especially ballin brehs. More twerking and see through clothes, less wifeable women.
No, I’m saying your statement didn’t make sense to me. The black women I know that truly want to be married are married. The ones that are lukewarm are dating and figuring personal shyt out first. The ones that don’t care about marriage are living life the same way they did in their twenties with nfg.
And Ive never had a conversation with them about the last line—because it’s strange. I’m wondering how that would even take place in a convo? I don’t think we ever sat down and examined the marriage rates for bm vs bw or even talked about it that in depth.
My main crew that I hang out with regularly? We still act like we did in our twenties, and not really pressed about marriage, we see it as if it happens it happens, if it doesn’t, it doesn’t. none of them want kids. I’m the only one that does. They just be looking at me like why...
I have other friends that are desperate for marriage though, so much so that they in dead end relationships with men that I don’t even know if they love, still waiting for that ring. so to answer your question, a lot of them arent thinking about what bm are doing collectively as far as marriage goes, they’re either concerned with the bm they already dealing with, or not that concerned at all.
As far as ir goes, if they see a breh with a ww or ling ling, they usually just clown him and snicker about it, but that’s the extent. Generally those aren’t the bm they’re attracted to so it’s more of a “look at this nikka right there” type of thing.
The best way to phrase it is
I want to get married. But I look around at prospects and I can't imagine being tied to one of these individuals
And even the decent ones suspect. Dudes hoping she don't switch up after being married or having kids. Next thing you know your in court fighting for your life against your former ride or die .
This shyt so fukked up I would rather just pay hoes. So GMB.
Understandable. I believe it’s twilight zone times. End of days. If you ever just to start to analyze so many things happening now, on the day to day, objectively, the conclusion you’ll come to about the future and marriage as a whole will either make you laugh because of the potential fukkkery that marriage will become or it’ll disturb you. I laugh.
Oh shyt, the bolded made me laugh too lol. I know my son’s father be feeling like that(not fighting for his life but more like damn I never thought this woman that swore she loved me and would always be there would end up being a cold bytch ) I did switch up, so I can’t even say his feelings aren’t warranted lol.
I can understand where you coming from with those concerns.
Marriage is a thing of the past. Which means the family which is the bedrock of society is more transient. It's one of the reasons I don't push black agenda like everyone else on here.
If we can't even keep black families together we will definitely be assimilated by white people for the most part.
Not to mention when they get these artificial wombs up and running eventually raising children is gonna be a responsibility of the government. The future is both spooky and exciting.
Artificial wombs for trannies I’m assuming?
Thank God i’ll be dead before shyt gets as crazy as I think it will.
Not for trannies. Just outside of humans period. Think of those pods they had people inside of in the matrix. The prototypes for helping out premeys born at 20 weeks should be up and running in five years.
Between ivf and those that will be close to half a pregnancy. I expect them to figure out the other half in the following 20 years. I will be 50. By the time I'm 70 I expect to see the beginning effects on society at large.
All of these articles about why Black people are not marrying always points at Black men, but there was an actual scientific study that sought the opinion of married black men as to why Black women are single.
Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study
Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study
Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study
Married Black Men’s Opinions as to Why Black Women Are Disproportionately Single: A Qualitative Study
I gotcha. But I’m rarely incensed at people unless they start with me.
I did.So ur new at this? Your bolded states cities in the us. Plus it’s stating that women entering the workforce are the reasons for wage growth in cities not ppl as a whole just moving to citiesThat’s why no one cites that study
Did u even read it?
I also read several others which indicate that increased female participation in the workforce actually improves the economy here and abroad.
Please break it down if u got economic insights because all the latest studies I see indicate otherwise.
When more women join the workforce, everyone benefits. Here’s why
But please enlighten me b/c most latest studies have indicated positive economic benefits of women entering the workforce.
In Economics specifically America there’s supply and demand. Once there was an over supply of ppl agnostic to gender wages decreased.
If there was an over supply of labor american companies can push out more product for less wages.
The only studies you’re going to find to support your thesis will be limited to developing international regions or gives parameters to specific areas in America like (handpicked cities).
Wages as a whole have increased. But their increase hasn’t stayed up with inflation. For most Americans, real wages have barely budged for decades something your study just seemed to forget about. Funny how that works
wages haven’t increased since the largest influx of people entering the workforce at once. This isn’t an anti feminist or anti woman point. It’s just economics and math. If it was women or we had too many immigrants enter into America at once during the 50’s, the results would be the same. It finally was fully established in the early to mid 80’s
at this point it doesn’t matter bc most middle class families need two ppl, bc now that is the norm.
my post isn’t anti women, it’s just the way economics work.
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The study is dated now but still applicable. I say dated because women are having worse outlooks on the prospects of marriage. The decreased tabooness of prostitution for starters.
IsThatBrothaMouzone?
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No...we agreed to do it for a year and then gave it up.
Both of us enjoyed it and might try it again in the future, but that faucet is turned off for now.
She was pulling brehs way better looking than me but I had women cooking me dinner and legit trying to get me to move in with them. We saw that there were others with lots of good traits but we wouldn't trade each other for anyone.
Interesting but