Found my bio "father's" Facebook (rant)

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I understand your father.... it is what it is.

Real talk, blame ya mom and man up.

I'm sure you do understand him, bytch nikkas stay on their own code. As a Reigning Defending Father of the Year 9 Years running, you & the cowards that leave your own children in the bushes are less than trash.

Just to clarify that I'm not being sarcastic, you ain't shyt, OPs Dad ain't shyt, & anyone you raise with those values won't be shyt.
 

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Is that the only thing you can rely on? "I don't care on!"

Right is and wrong is not decided based on what you feel about a person. If someone snatched your purse at night, you're not going to turn around and think that they are a good person because you were just some next bytch to them.

You could have kept your dignity and declined the offer. Instead you used the olive branch extended to you as a means of stealing from them. If you valued yourself, you would feel ashamed.

Could have, but it's not how I was raised. My foster family scammed their real family members all the time. I've robbed before, I kept it pushing. I'm not gonna get a cookie when I die for being a good person. Can't eat dignity.

But shyt just for you, I'll tell her I robbed her. Give her the $700 I got for her laptop, and I'll give her back her tablet. TV's on my cousin though... I'll even buy her kids a gift. shyt they need a inspiration like me in their life.

Update: She's in jail, if her dad gives me her inmate number I'll put it on her jpay.
 
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Don't care what happened between your parents. His responsibility and number one priority should have been you. To abandon a child because you don't get along with the mother or don't want to be a father is weak and pathetic. No amount of excuses can make up for the lost years and pain he has caused you. If I were you I would make my presence known. Invite him somewhere and demand answers. Don't hold on to the hurt. Get if off your chest so you can heal. He needs to understand the impact of his actions.
 

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I wanna thank everybody for the love and positivity!

I feel like I should update y'all on what's going on. A lot of y'all suggested that I contact her and I agreed with y'all. I sent her a Facebook message after I made this post, which was around 2am.

The Facebook message read as follows:

" Hello, are you “Father’s” daughter? The reason I asked is because we may share the same father. I am 22 and my full name is “My name”. I think my mom accidentally misspelled my last name because he wasn’t around at the time that I was born.

About 3 years ago out of the blue, my aunt called me and said that “Father” wanted to give me his phone number. I wrote down his number but I didn’t have any desire to contact him. About a few weeks ago, I had a burning curiosity to learn about my family on “Father” ’s side, so I use the phone number to find his facebook page. When I found his facebook page, I found what looks to be a graduation picture with you and him in it. I thought that you may have been my sister so I did some extra research to find your facebook page.

I found your Facebook page but I was not sure if “Father” told you anything about me which is why I was so hesitant to contact you because I didn’t want to ambush you. My mom use to tell me that I may have a half-sister on my father’s side. I always assumed that she would be a few years older than me but it appears that you’re a few years younger. I know this may be too much to process but I would like for this to stay between us.

I haven’t contacted him and have no desire to. I just want to gather all the information and see where I want to go from there. I would like to get to know any aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins from “Father”s side of the family. I’m sorry about all this, I just really want to know about the other half my family, I hope you understand! If this is too much for you, I sincerely apologize, please disregard this message. I don’t want to cause any problems."

She hasn't responded yet. She doesn't appear to be active on Facebook
Y'all think I approached it the right way?:lupe:
 

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I wanna thank everybody for the love and positivity!

I feel like I should update y'all on what's going on. A lot of y'all suggested that I contact her and I agreed with y'all. I sent her a Facebook message after I made this post, which was around 2am.

The Facebook message read as follows:

" Hello, are you “Father’s” daughter? The reason I asked is because we may share the same father. I am 22 and my full name is “My name”. I think my mom accidentally misspelled my last name because he wasn’t around at the time that I was born.

About 3 years ago out of the blue, my aunt called me and said that “Father” wanted to give me his phone number. I wrote down his number but I didn’t have any desire to contact him. About a few weeks ago, I had a burning curiosity to learn about my family on “Father” ’s side, so I use the phone number to find his facebook page. When I found his facebook page, I found what looks to be a graduation picture with you and him in it. I thought that you may have been my sister so I did some extra research to find your facebook page.

I found your Facebook page but I was not sure if “Father” told you anything about me which is why I was so hesitant to contact you because I didn’t want to ambush you. My mom use to tell me that I may have a half-sister on my father’s side. I always assumed that she would be a few years older than me but it appears that you’re a few years younger. I know this may be too much to process but I would like for this to stay between us.

I haven’t contacted him and have no desire to. I just want to gather all the information and see where I want to go from there. I would like to get to know any aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins from “Father”s side of the family. I’m sorry about all this, I just really want to know about the other half my family, I hope you understand! If this is too much for you, I sincerely apologize, please disregard this message. I don’t want to cause any problems."

She hasn't responded yet. She doesn't appear to be active on Facebook
Y'all think I approached it the right way?:lupe:

I tried to avoid you're thread, I feel I should say something.

I think you should have talked it over with your mother first. Maybe there's things you don't know. Then contact him. After him then your sister.

If your dad didn't reply, slander his name to all his friends
 
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I tried to avoid you thread, but here I am.

I think you should have talked it over with your mother first. Maybe there's things you don't know. Then contact him. After him then your sister.

If your dad didn't reply, slander his name to all his friends

His dad was claiming him as a dependent on his taxes while not being in his life at all. I don't care what the moms did, that is foul. Why does he get the benefit of the doubt.
 
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He kept saying "Father " tho.

:mjlol:
I could just picture him typing hella soft , letter by letter.

@YoungJeanGerri

Most if the time " less is more " . You should of just introduced yourself as her half brother and waited for the rest after.

It was overwhelming tbh, but if she anything like her daddy she gonna take advantage of your kindness and not reply

:lolbron:
 

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He kept saying "Father " tho.

:mjlol:
I could just picture him typing hella soft , letter by letter.

@YoungJeanGerri

Most if the time " less is more " . You should of just introduced yourself as her half brother and waited for the rest after.

It was overwhelming tbh, but if she anything like her daddy she gonna take advantage of your kindness and not reply

:lolbron:
I didn't actually use "Father", I used his real name in the Facebook message to her. I didn't want to put personal info in here.

You prolly right tho, less is more. I thought she would have wanted clarification of the situation.
 

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I'll never understand how some men can abandon their kids like this

Most these men arent in relationships with these women. At the end of the day often times it's two adults having casual sex, chick ends up pregnant and wants to keep it for whatever reason. If a dude lets it be known he doesnt want you to have the kid and you still do then it is what it is. Doesn't sound right, but if someone lets something be known (assuming they are informed) and you still have the kid then thats on you. The joys of Pro Choice. Woman Chooses to keep a kid and the dude chooses to get the hell on.
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