My wife of 15 years has been cheating for the last six months and I can’t make sense of it. She ended the affair immediately when I discovered a text message on her phone. She didn’t try to deny it and is willing to do whatever it takes to save our marriage and family. I’m in so much shock. I’m waffling between staying for the kids and wanting to leave. We haven’t told anyone about her affair, trying to deal with it ourselves for now.
Her choice of an affair partner has me completely baffled and disgusted. My wife has a director-level position at her company and decided to cheat with a man who works in the mailroom preparing boxes for delivery. From what I can tell from his Facebook page, he’s 8 years younger, covered in tattoos underneath his clothes, has two kids with his girlfriend, lives in a crappy neighborhood in the city, no education beyond high school, Spanish is his first language since all his posts are written in Spanish, and he’s very much into working out and his appearance. She doesn’t have an answer for why she would cheat with someone like him. My professional, career-oriented wife and suburban mom carried on an affair with a loser/thug type. To say I feel inadequate is a massive understatement. I have a successful career, I provide more than enough that my wife doesn’t have to work, but chooses to work. I asked her if guys like him have been her “type” all along and if she married me for appearances, she says no.
She says she got caught up in the attention he paid her. It started as “hello” when he was on her floor collecting packages, which turned into small talk about their weekends on Monday mornings, to regularly walking to the subway together at the end of the day. He was constantly telling her that he respects her ability to climb the corporate ladder, that she’s really smart and funny, and he admires her ability to juggle work and kids. She ate it all up. He asked her to get a drink after work six months ago and she agreed, telling me that she and her team had to work late to finish a presentation. They hugged and kissed after the drink. The next week, he invited her to his apartment for a drink since his girlfriend and kids were away. They had sex, unprotected. After that, they started meeting once a week after work at an hourly motel to have sex, never using protection. She always had a believable excuse whether it was working late, meeting a friend for dinner or drinks, going to the gym before coming home. I always believed her. I had no reason to suspect anything. I thought I was being a good husband by giving her the space she needed for herself.
She says she likes him, but doesn’t love him. She hasn’t admitted that she enjoyed the sex. I haven’t asked many questions about it because I’m disgusted that she would let someone like him touch her.
I’m embarrassed and humiliated for both of us. I don’t know what to do next, I’m not sure if I can forgive and move past this disaster. She has started looking for another job. I want to tell this guy’s girlfriend, but my wife doesn’t want us to have any contact with them.
idc how you spin it
i gotta cut something off and never hit again.
just read the first story. Dudes can be so obvious to shyt 
