"Get your money up" is the worst advice to give to someone struggling with women

[VertigoKnight]

The better advice would be to get yourself in a better place mentally before thinking about females.

Bad energy, desperation and lack of confidence are sensed very easily by most women. Get your mind right and get yourself happy before chasing anything.

You as a man should be happy within yourself whether you have a woman or not.

 

[Kwabena]

No, it isn't bad advice.
It's perfectly valid advice and really it's firm life advice.

And when I personally advise someone to "Get their money up", I don't mean to just increase your
salary. I mean to have a solid understanding of your finances and your financial goals.
Are you investing solidly and regularly into low or no cost index funds ? Which sectors
are you investing in ? Why are you doing so ? Is related to the field you work in ? Or something
you just love ? Are you currently paying down a property ? Do you make a salary north of $60,000 a year ?
Can you save enough to completely pay off your debts ? etc.

The advice isn't saying "Money will get you women", it's saying "it'll allow you to build the life you
want and the women come".

And I say to do this while firmly investing yourself like :
Personal Grooming.
Personal Fitness.
Pursuing Lifestyle/Hobby things.
Pursuing additional education & skill building of some kind.
Increasing your networth and so on.

I've said this before on here when I was making 1/3rd of what I currently make
and I'm still marching forward towards my goals. Don't get hung up on women brehs,


If you a guy is looking to attract women and he isn't an attractive choice, he might need that hard hitting advice.
If might hurt his feelings to know that his character or personality will take the backseat to his situation but with
the way a lot of modern dating goes, that's typically how it is and if someone isn't equipped to deal with that then
unfortunately they lose.

Somebody wants actionable advice on how to attract more women NOW. Not only is this advice (with regards to investments) not time-conscious, it's not practical either

 

[bill riser]

For those of y'all that need lessons in the game, my man Jason Black has got y'all covered

 

[Kwabena]

It takes at most 6 months to a year to learn a skill or a trade, some can be learned in a month if you put the work.


Nothing happens overnight, So while you sit around bytching and crying you gonna keep on getting the results that you've always gotten. You not being able to attract a woman speaks to bigger problems that you need to address.

Mastery can take years. What kinda trades you nikkas learning lmao? No way you understand the intricacies of a field like say mechanical engineering in a month.

How does one get a high-paying job by half-assing expertise?

Now you're just being facetious.

 

[Silkk]

Mastery can take years. What kinda trades you nikkas learning lmao? No way you understand the intricacies of a field like say mechanical engineering in a month.

How does one get a high-paying job by half-assing expertise?

Now you're just being facetious.

Took me a month to get my A+ certification in 2014 when I was 23, I went from $11.00 to $28 an hour. I now make 80k base salary not including investments. Takes less than a year to get certified for most trades and skills.

You can either keep bytching and crying or you can get on Youtube, Udemy, Go into the six figures forum, actually learn something and put the work in. It's your life though

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

More money can mean more power for a man. It's about living more comfortably, improving your confidence and improving your options with women.

Like it or not society looks down on men that are broke even though it's not a deal breaker for every man. A lot of dudes feel like losers and are too stressed out about their life to get anywhere with women when they're broke.

The problem is broke dudes are getting sack still.

 

[Kwabena]

Took me a month to get my A+ certification in 2014 when I was 23, I went from $11.00 to $28 an hour. I now make 80k base salary not including investments. Takes less than a year to get certified for most trades and skills.

You can either keep bytching and crying or you can get on Youtube, Udemy, Go into the six figures forum, actually learn something and put the work in. It's your life though

This trajectory to 80K isn't as straightforward as you're making it seem

 

[Silkk]

This trajectory to 80K isn't as straightforward as you're making it seem

You do realize that 2014 was 5 years ago.....?

 

[cartierhoe]

I never took it as getting your money up to end up giving it all away to women. Sure it was always meant to raise your value.

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

The problem is broke dudes are getting sack still.

"Like it or not society looks down on men that are broke even though it's not a deal breaker for every man"

 

[Insensitive]

Somebody wants actionable advice on how to attract more women NOW. Not only is this advice (with regards to investments) not time-conscious, it's not practical either

Well the advice is actionable, anyone on this website can act on all of this advice and it's all very practical
easily searchable financial, social and physical fitness advice. Anyone worth their salt looking to change
their circumstances is already doing this or is seeking the answers to do so. I didn't get to where I am
overnight, it took years of grinding, working hard, lots of "No's" from women, jobs, opportunities etc.

And I mean, if you think trying to build a solid financial, social and health focused life isn't "Practical",
I don't know what to tell you breh, however, I'll entertain that aspect of your post.


Barring the most poor and destitute just about anyone can begin to look into gaining more skills:
Community College
Social Programs
The Internet and various online courses.

Becoming more fit and thus potentially more physically attractive :
Several FREE programs which give actionable, scientifically sound advice on
weight lifting, dieting etc. are available online.
Some examples being MyFitnessPal, MaxOT, Body weight programs etc.

And several FREE resources of improving ones financial situation.
Youtube, Reddit and various articles are solid sources of information.


With that said : Attracting more women "NOW" doesn't happen for ANYONE even "over night" celebrities getting paid
for club walk through's and having models throwing their panties at them HAD TO put in some kind of time to get what
they eventually came into.

If someone is delusional enough to think there's some magic trick that'll bring women to them "NOW", then I say let them
wallow in their delusion and let someone else pick up the females they clearly aren't trying to get at.

A lot of this thinking is also applicable to the opposite sex too.


Also It's one thing to SAY IT but I LIVED IT.
I went from making $10 an hour to being a hop, skip & a jump from six figures (ten years to get to this point) and the quality of life improvements
I've experienced in that period have been astounding, the women I get to pick from improved substantially as well.

 

[Peter Popoff]

It means having the funds to step your dress game, style and luxury up. Has nothing to do with the woman. If you can dress good while getting funds from a sugar mama, you good.

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

"Like it or not society looks down on men that are broke even though it's not a deal breaker for every man"

I got that. It’s in regards to women still entertaining broke men.

 

[RTF]

Moreso about blowing your money on superficial things to IMPRESS WOMEN.

Dudes stocking shelves at Home Depot buying bottles in VIP. Got a decked out Charger...that he parks right into his momma's driveway every night.

This.

Most dudes just take this as ‘go and stunt’ and it does work to some degree..

IF you want to looo attractive to women

1. Get in shape. If you look slim but also that you work out, women will like it.
2. Look fly. Whatever that means to your target audience. Understand what that means to your target audience.
3. Should probably be #1 but be confident. Be bold. Women respect it. Part of this is taking a lot of shots. Unless you’re super saucy, you gotta take a lot of shots.

 

[Ashley Banks]

So lemme dissect this post

1. Increase income
2. Increase spending on frivolous items (suits, cars, jewellery, etc.) so you can impress women

Sounds like an insidious recipe for debt

1. Always a positive.
2. Is it frivolous if you like it? Buy the things YOU like. There’s no need to go out of your way to impress anyone, you’ll be your best self and they’ll automatically be attracted to that.

most men I know like to dress nice for themselves, like nice cars for themselves, like jewelry for themselves, have nice homes for themselves. The women are an added bonus. I’m sure they do it with the thought that women might like it but they also like it so it’s not done with JUST women in mind.