My friends complain about the same thing. I've never used dating apps or online dating, but I feel like that alone is not the place to form a relationship. Kind of seems desperate if a woman is using these sites to get a relationship, because if you're out and about you can meet men much more organically and take it from there. But in any case, I agree with you. There's literally no incentive for young men to get in relationships when sex is offered so quickly and easily. Relationships are time consuming and difficult, and they can put a cramp on your life when you're young and trying to do you. On the other hand, it seems like I always meet men who are interested in more than just fukking, men that want something more exclusive, so the issue could be her. I know I'm not really ready for a relationship right now, so I feel bad once I realize that the man wants something more serious than what I can offer--which honestly is just companionship because I'm not into casual sex, or hooking up just because.
Anyways, I feel for this younger generation--gender roles are all fukked up, the dating scene is all fukked up, and there really isn't much incentive to commit to someone that will dispose you when they're good and ready(which often is pretty soon after yall get together). The other issue is that if she's choosing wrong, that's why she's not meeting men that want to commit. I have two close friends. One of them has never been in a relationship before, she'll be thirty soon. But, get this... She has a revolving door of men in her life. When I say revolving, she has guys in different states that give her access to their credit cards. She has a child the father is not involved. She has a phone full of men that she goes on dates with. She's an attractive girl, and nice and all, but I got to keep it real. If a woman has been dating multiple men for a damn near decade, and can't meet a one that commits to her? That's a red flag.
The truth is that I know she's a hoe. Love her anyways lol. I also know that she chooses the wrong men. Then she gets frustrated when they don't want to commit to her. There is a reason they don't. The other girl, same way--constantly choosing men based off how they look and what not. It's a sad road when you don't realize that you're actually part of why men ain't committing to you. I don't know what this girls circumstances are though.
Anyways, I feel for this younger generation--gender roles are all fukked up, the dating scene is all fukked up, and there really isn't much incentive to commit to someone that will dispose you when they're good and ready(which often is pretty soon after yall get together). The other issue is that if she's choosing wrong, that's why she's not meeting men that want to commit. I have two close friends. One of them has never been in a relationship before, she'll be thirty soon. But, get this... She has a revolving door of men in her life. When I say revolving, she has guys in different states that give her access to their credit cards. She has a child the father is not involved. She has a phone full of men that she goes on dates with. She's an attractive girl, and nice and all, but I got to keep it real. If a woman has been dating multiple men for a damn near decade, and can't meet a one that commits to her? That's a red flag.
The truth is that I know she's a hoe. Love her anyways lol. I also know that she chooses the wrong men. Then she gets frustrated when they don't want to commit to her. There is a reason they don't. The other girl, same way--constantly choosing men based off how they look and what not. It's a sad road when you don't realize that you're actually part of why men ain't committing to you. I don't know what this girls circumstances are though.
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