Halle Berry On Failed Marriages: I chose BOYS, not MEN

[hayesc0]

Classic blame shifting. Yes, those men may have not been the best choices for serious relationships. But broken women choose broken men. It seems like some women overlook this even when they finally get that "I get it now" moment. That THEY are just as much part of the problem as the men they dated.

Your choices are a reflection of your values. People with proper values tend to value substance over shine. People with poor values tend to value shine over substance.

When a person values substance, they tend to pick things that are quality and built to last. They pick people and things based on how they add value to their life and future. Since their choices are quality, they tend to come with less drama. Because things that are built with quality tend to be made from material that last and last with good performance. Same goes for quality people.

When a person values shine, they tend to pick things that are look good on the outside without checking the quality of the inside. They pick people and things based on how they make them look to the outside world, not based on what's good for them as a person. Since their choices are not quality-based, they tend to come with drama and depreciation. Because things that are built with shine are not meant to last and/or perform for the long haul. Same goes for shine people.

In every situation, one must start with themselves and review their choices before pointing the finger outward. One can only control what they do and how they react. So, if someone continues to find themselves in the same situation over and over, then the "others" are not the issue. They, themselves, are the issue.

It seems Halle was dating/marrying the same person, just in different packages. She needs to look herself in the mirror and clown herself for being a "girl" who chooses the same kind of "boys" to be in going nowhere relationships.

Peace

I agree and this seems to be for men and women they are quick to turn on the one that comes along that was actually good for them.

 

[Benjamin Sisko]

wow!!!! so the best person Detroit could find to lecture 300 black men is fcking halle berry? thats pathetic man whoever the organization is should be ashamed of themselves...

The person who organized that hates black men. No way a woman would let Taye Diggs lecture a room full of black women.

 

[Weaver31]

where'd you get that from?

two of the men she married were white and both her kids were with white guys. they've given her the most grief by far

They get child support from Halle too.

 

[richaveli83]

If she marries an settles down with a good black man now

Her life is almost becoming a Tyler Perry movie

 

[Man On Fire]

Classic blame shifting. Yes, those men may have not been the best choices for serious relationships. But broken women choose broken men. It seems like some women overlook this even when they finally get that "I get it now" moment. That THEY are just as much part of the problem as the men they dated.

Your choices are a reflection of your values. People with proper values tend to value substance over shine. People with poor values tend to value shine over substance.

When a person values substance, they tend to pick things that are quality and built to last. They pick people and things based on how they add value to their life and future. Since their choices are quality, they tend to come with less drama. Because things that are built with quality tend to be made from material that last and last with good performance. Same goes for quality people.

When a person values shine, they tend to pick things that are look good on the outside without checking the quality of the inside. They pick people and things based on how they make them look to the outside world, not based on what's good for them as a person. Since their choices are not quality-based, they tend to come with drama and depreciation. Because things that are built with shine are not meant to last and/or perform for the long haul. Same goes for shine people.

In every situation, one must start with themselves and review their choices before pointing the finger outward. One can only control what they do and how they react. So, if someone continues to find themselves in the same situation over and over, then the "others" are not the issue. They, themselves, are the issue.

It seems Halle was dating/marrying the same person, just in different packages. She needs to look herself in the mirror and clown herself for being a "girl" who chooses the same kind of "boys" to be in going nowhere relationships.

Peace

Good post. But it isn't that deep. She's just nuts.

 

[richaveli83]

I feel sorry for her children. What kind of example is she setting for her daughter. Don't take responsibility for your mistakes, blame someone else especially a man. Her son is going to be confused as hell as well too.

Notice that the brothers she dated/married all found love after breaking up with her and are currently in successful marriages

 

[Piff Perkins]

Gotta dap her on her quest to date or marry every shade of the color spectrum. Only thing left now is to marry an albino.

diversity

 

[rapbeats]

In on this mf

Give her credit for taking accountability tho

SHE ONLY took half accountability. she said it was her fault for choosing boys and she wanted to do men things.

I'll let that slide on the first one. you were young. we can chalk that up to the game. the 2nd one. you were fully grown. STOP IT. sure she admitted to being with guys for superficial stuff. but that still aint enough self reflection for my liking.

she then did it again a 3rd time marrying what she calls a boy.


So that tells me halle, ya fine as hell but youza a crazy broad. its that simple. we know the dudes you were with were not right. but neither were you and guess what. get ya crazy together first. being crazy is not wanting to do grownup things. as she suggested.

thats what people need to hear. take FULL 100% responsibility for choosing badly and why you chose so poorly over and over and why did it end the way it ended every single time. at some point its on you. maybe you aint supposed to be married. maybe your desire to be hitched was incorrect from the jump. everyone isnt MEANT to be married per se. some are meant to be single(not alone, God got you). but God may have had another plan for Halle, who knows. you mess around a force a marriage multiple times because you're stuck in this "i gotta get a man" even if she choose good MEN so to speak. they could still fold when they realize how nuts she was because she was so ready to Get married and not understand what BEING married is all about.

and last thing for yall ladies in here. when you keep choosing poorly. you're doing it for a reason. #1 thats all you know how to choose in your current state of mind(you parents situation was shakey or horrible), y#2 our daddy wasnt about nothing or wasnt around(not always his fault could've passed away early on in life.), #3 you are choosing for superficial reasons #4 you are so ready to be ready you will marry the first thing that comes your way almost #5. you choose low because you are low(fix you, then you will choose better). 6.some choose low on purpose. to always feel like they arent the problem. if you have obvious bad choices with obvious issues/problems. they will almost always be the main reason why things arent working not you. what happens when you run into a great MAN and your flaws are then exposed because this time it aint him?

 

[rapbeats]

This dumb c*nt is an embarrassment to our race.

which one?

 

[rapbeats]

jlo and halle have been married like maybe 3 times each and still not on some hoe bitter shyt they still want love thats a good look to me.

as for oprah you can write an enyclopedia on how many times she has shytted on black men and put herself on a pedastal she is bitter a failed actress and is still not loved as you would think i could go on but thats another thread.

. shytting on a 21 year old chris brown
. shytting on russell simmons, common, and a bunch of hiphop execs at the same time on her show
. shytting on ice cube when she did a show on his creation (some black reality show)
. interviewing superhead but no major hiphop stars
. not been a voice for rico law improvement
. only contributing to womens aid
. only contributing to black cinema with films like the butler, precious, 12 years a slave type shyt
. her whole mentality
. her top 10 egotistiacal quote
. proudly saying she will never allow her self to love again
. being the black mother of america with no children
. have a black man steadman living in your front yard for decades
. etc
. etc

im not bragging or telling you how to live your life but i make a good sum just knowing shyt like this, you know that for years and all these new media darlings you can see what they do and how its done. oprah aint shyt

of course jamie,will,jada and them wont tell you that because going to her 'all white' 'all red' chairty balls and parties and whatever is too much to lose as well as the exposure sitting on her couch and getting interviewed can do or should i say used to do. its a new age, info at an all time high really look her up if you care maybe you dont thats cool that type of shyt aint for everybody.

but i see how you are trying to shyt on 2 good women in halle and jlo (who was with a black notorious hiphop star well well ill-advised if she was trying to make a long lasting career in mass media) but whatever

i agree with you 100% on harpo. BUt do you know why that is with harpo? You do realize she was raped as a child right? That changes a boy and a girl and will affect their lives forever. Dont blame her, blame those that raped her.

 

[loyola llothta]

halle went straight hotep god damn.

 

[The_Truth]

“As women, we need our men to stand up and be men,” she told the group, who hail mostly from colleges and universities across the nation. “Take care of us and serve us. When you do that, we will fall over and bow at your feet. But you have to start it, because God made you first.”

Should say this to a crowd of white men being that that's who got her pregnant.

 

[Londilon]

She is a bed wench, she really doesn't have any right to call any man a boy.

 

[Londilon]

 

[agnosticlady]

Why would I be? Halle needs to stop acting like she's not part of the problem in her marriages.

I legit think that she has a few screws lose. When she started calling her daughter black that definitely confirmed it.