Have you ever dated a woman who was raped/molested?

[A Woman's Opinion]

Most girls have been sexually abused. It's not just hood bytches, or internet hoes. This is not an issue of social class.

The girls that are constantly left unsupervised with the opposite sex are the ones that are abused. It's about access and opportunity. That's why perverts prey on single mothers.

I'm saying this to anyone in eyesight of this post....

Understand, Brothers rape and fondle their sisters. Cousins rape and fondle their cousins. Uncles. Family friends. Etc. All they need is opportunity. I'm sure some of them men posting and condemning the behavior in this thread have kissed, touched or molested a female relative. Have humped a cousin.

The truth is... young boys do it exploring their sexuality at a young age, and not knowing better. They just see a girl. They don't understand it's their sister or cousin. They are going through puberty and acting out sexual desires and confusion. And it doesn't help that boys aren't encouraged early to control themselves sexually. Especially young black boys. They are sexualized and hear it all in music. It is girks who are constantly told to dress a certain way or act a certain way to be treated with basic respect. (Misogyny)




I'm not normalizing it, but I'm saying this... DO NOT LEAVE YOUR DAUGHTERS ALONE WITH BOYS OR MEN EVER! Not even their own brothers! Explain to them early about "bad touch", and to not allow anyone to touch them in appropriately. And teach your sons early NOT to touch. And if it happens to tell YOU no matter what the predator says.


I'll tell you guys a story...

A font on LSA was sexually abused by her brother for years. He was only a few years older than her. Every time her mother would go to the store and leave them alone he would do it. He would force her to perform oral sex on him for candy and toys. She was far too young to understand what she was doing, or what was happening to her. It wasn't until she got older that she realized, and was severely damaged. She constantly suffered with throat infections as a child. Her mother didn't know what was going on. Clueless.
It was a very sad story, but I'm telling you.


It's closer to home than you think. You have to be attentive and PROACTIVE! You can't assume it won't happen to you or only certain people. And most importantly. NEVER LEAVE YOUR LITTLE GIRLS ALONE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. EVER. NOT EVEN FOR 10 minutes.

 

[King Poetic]

i been around women who been more abused than ever been molested

and it's one reason i don't get involve with a lot of women because u get look at as those men more times than often

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

All the ones I know were hoes

 

[Kenny West]

Most girls have been sexually abused. It's not just hood bytches, or internet hoes.

I'm gonna stop you right here because I can see the enourmous amount of feelings being caught from people intentionally taking what I say out of context. Not to invalidate the rest of what you wrote because I agree with a good amount

I'm talking as a man to other men who claim most if not all the women they meet have been raped or molested. If that's the case I'm saying where they meet women is playing a bigger part in that that they expect.

It's funny because if these dudes were judging women off of the symptoms of sexual abuse then claiming all they meet are "hoes, gold diggers, thots who chase abusive men" yall would be on some "choose better" "that's cause all yall look for is hoes and you ignore blahblahblah" "this is what you get for chasing ig thots" etc. but instead now nikkas will insinuate that majority of black women are rape victims/damaged just for the sake of disagreeing with me

I'll just drop facts and leave the spinning to you guys

In 2005-10, females who were age 34 or younger, who lived in lower income households, and who lived in rural areas had some of the highest rates of sexual violence

Source https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvsv9410.pdf

Poverty is among the root causes of sexual violence and often has a daily presence in a victim’s life.

Sexual violence also can jeopardize a person's economic wellbeing, often leading to homelessness, unemployment, interrupted education and health, mental health, and other daily stressors and struggles. In turn, living without one's basic needs met can increase a person's risk for sexual victimization causing a difficult situation.

Statistics show that poverty increases people's vulnerabilities to sexual exploitation in the workplace, schools, and in prostitution, sex trafficking, and the drug trade and that people with the lowest socioeconomic status are at greater risk for violence (Jewkes, Sen, Garcia-Moreno, 2002).

How are poverty and sexual violence related? | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR)

There are also disparities in rates of violence when marital status and children are taken into account. Single women with children living in the home have the highest rate of sexual victimization: 2.3 times that of single women with no children living in the home; 3.6 times that of married women with children living in the home; and 9.1 times that of married women with no children in the home.

https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/22/...-rape-and-sexual-assault-in-america.html?_r=0

 

[MindOverMatter]

Most girls have been sexually abused. It's not just hood bytches, or internet hoes. This is not an issue of social class.

The girls that are constantly left unsupervised with the opposite sex are the ones that are abused. It's about access and opportunity. That's why perverts prey on single mothers.

I'm saying this to anyone in eyesight of this post....

Understand, Brothers rape and fondle their sisters. Cousins rape and fondle their cousins. Uncles. Family friends. Etc. All they need is opportunity. I'm sure some of them men posting and condemning the behavior in this thread have kissed, touched or molested a female relative. Have humped a cousin.

The truth is... young boys do it exploring their sexuality at a young age, and not knowing better. They just see a girl. They don't understand it's their sister or cousin. They are going through puberty and acting out sexual desires and confusion. And it doesn't help that boys aren't encouraged early to control themselves sexually. Especially young black boys. They are sexualized and hear it all in music. It is girks who are constantly told to dress a certain way or act a certain way to be treated with basic respect. (Misogyny)




I'm not normalizing it, but I'm saying this... DO NOT LEAVE YOUR DAUGHTERS ALONE WITH BOYS OR MEN EVER! Not even their own brothers! Explain to them early about "bad touch", and to not allow anyone to touch them in appropriately. And teach your sons early NOT to touch. And if it happens to tell YOU no matter what the predator says.


I'll tell you guys a story...

A font on LSA was sexually abused by her brother for years. He was only a few years older than her. Every time her mother would go to the store and leave them alone he would do it. He would force her to perform oral sex on him for candy and toys. She was far too young to understand what she was doing, or what was happening to her. It wasn't until she got older that she realized, and was severely damaged. She constantly suffered with throat infections as a child. Her mother didn't know what was going on. Clueless.
It was a very sad story, but I'm telling you.


It's closer to home than you think. You have to be attentive and PROACTIVE! You can't assume it won't happen to you or only certain people. And most importantly. NEVER LEAVE YOUR LITTLE GIRLS ALONE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. EVER. NOT EVEN FOR 10 minutes.

People do not want to accept this reality. Don't want to talk about it don't want to fathom it. Victims are silenced often times because people don't know how to deal with it so they would rather turn a blind eye.

Everything you said was nothing but the truth. I'm not even going to touch on the amount of adults that refer to young girls as "fast ass little girls". People know though but that would mean holding family accountable. Its sad.

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

all i know is if you have a daughter . . don't let your guard down!

my wife and i have a 18 month old daughter, the only 2 people (besides my wife and myself) that have ever babysat her is my mom and her grandma, both of which we trust obviously

-we already agreed, no sleep overs ever
-no leaving her in the care of uncles, cousins, etc. dont get me wrong my brothers and her brothers would never do something like that ever . . . but why take a chance
-teaching her how to fight and if need be putting her into BJJ classes

protect your daughters brehs

Same thing if you have a boy. You got to be careful out here with who you leave your children with regardless of their gender

 

[2 Up 2 Down]

I'm gonna stop you right here because I can see the enourmous amount of feelings being caught from people intentionally taking what I say out of context. Not to invalidate the rest of what you wrote because I agree with a good amount

I'm talking as a man to other men who claim most if not all the women they meet have been raped or molested. If that's the case I'm saying where they meet women is playing a bigger part in that that they expect.

It's funny because if these dudes were judging women off of the symptoms of sexual abuse then claiming all they meet are "hoes, gold diggers, thots who chase abusive men" yall would be on some "choose better" "that's cause all yall look for is hoes and you ignore blahblahblah" "this is what you get for chasing ig thots" etc. but instead now nikkas will insinuate that majority of black women are rape victims/damaged just for the sake of disagreeing with me

I'll just drop facts and leave the spinning to you guys

Source https://www.bjs.gov/content/pub/pdf/fvsv9410.pdf



How are poverty and sexual violence related? | Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape (PCAR)



https://www.nytimes.com/2014/12/22/...-rape-and-sexual-assault-in-america.html?_r=0

Not all victims of molestation report it

 

[Ian Ahbaa f/ Area51]

You clearly need more than just opportunity to commit these types of acts. You have to have some perverted sense of thinking as well. Your GAF gauge has to be on a lower level.

As a man raising a 9yo daughter whose already developing lm constantly on her about safety/awareness around strangers & honesty and openess between us. I realize many victims never even speak out about abuse because they fear being judged and that fear is real and understandable. I've really come to accept that chances are she'll be an uncomfortable sexual situation some day. I'm just doing everything I can to make sure it's not while I'm alive & breathing, or that she will be mentally & physically prepared.

shyt stressful

 

[choc_cardigan]

This thread has some truly disgusting replies. When did the alt-right red pills infect TLR? Jesus

I have unfortunately met alot of people, male and female that were molested, mostly by family members. I have met quite a few rape victims. Some of the responses in here are exactly why they never say anything.

 

[Black Cobain]

Wouldn't call it dating but..

Her biological dad raped her when she was a preteen multiple times, he got killed in prison

After that her stepdad started doing it then after that they had "consensual" sex, it only stopped because her mom and him divorced

She was pretty much your normal, nerdy chick but was very open minded when it came to sex..I didn't understand why but up until she told me I wasn't really concerned

That's all I'm gonna say about that.

 

[Kenny West]

Not all victims of molestation report it

1.You didn't comprehend my post at all....That had nothing to do with what we were discussing, you saw a rape statistic and had to get that off your chest. I understand.

2. You can say that about literally any crime. From theft to bribery.


I'm not downplaying how much it goes unreported tho, it's more than practically any other crime. Still nobody can quantify truly how much that is and a lot of guesstimations are used make results more eyecatching


Example

The National Crime Victimization Survey is the primary source of data on RAINN’s site. NCVS, an annual study conducted by the Department of Justice’s Bureau of Justice Statistics (BJS), is the largest and most comprehensive crime measure in the United States. Researchers interview more than 150,000 Americans each year to learn about crimes that they’ve experienced. Based on those interviews, the study provides estimates of the total number of crimes, including those that were not reported to law enforcement. Learn more about how BJS measures rape and sexual assault.

Despite the large size of NCVS’ sample, the number of sexual assault victims identified each year is relatively small. To account for that, we generally use an average of the five most recent years of data, which smooths out anomalies in the year-to-year data.

About RAINN's Statistics | RAINN

 

[yardman]

I was with a girl who got raped and molested.
Shorty had a good heart but something was off about her, something was missing.
Everything clicked when she told me.
I stayed with her ass when she told me that she would commit suicide if I left her.
When she found someone to replace me is when we broke up.
​

 

[MaxPain]

Most girls have been sexually abused. It's not just hood bytches, or internet hoes. This is not an issue of social class.

The girls that are constantly left unsupervised with the opposite sex are the ones that are abused. It's about access and opportunity. That's why perverts prey on single mothers.

I'm saying this to anyone in eyesight of this post....

Understand, Brothers rape and fondle their sisters. Cousins rape and fondle their cousins. Uncles. Family friends. Etc. All they need is opportunity. I'm sure some of them men posting and condemning the behavior in this thread have kissed, touched or molested a female relative. Have humped a cousin.

The truth is... young boys do it exploring their sexuality at a young age, and not knowing better. They just see a girl. They don't understand it's their sister or cousin. They are going through puberty and acting out sexual desires and confusion. And it doesn't help that boys aren't encouraged early to control themselves sexually. Especially young black boys. They are sexualized and hear it all in music. It is girks who are constantly told to dress a certain way or act a certain way to be treated with basic respect. (Misogyny)




I'm not normalizing it, but I'm saying this... DO NOT LEAVE YOUR DAUGHTERS ALONE WITH BOYS OR MEN EVER! Not even their own brothers! Explain to them early about "bad touch", and to not allow anyone to touch them in appropriately. And teach your sons early NOT to touch. And if it happens to tell YOU no matter what the predator says.


I'll tell you guys a story...

A font on LSA was sexually abused by her brother for years. He was only a few years older than her. Every time her mother would go to the store and leave them alone he would do it. He would force her to perform oral sex on him for candy and toys. She was far too young to understand what she was doing, or what was happening to her. It wasn't until she got older that she realized, and was severely damaged. She constantly suffered with throat infections as a child. Her mother didn't know what was going on. Clueless.
It was a very sad story, but I'm telling you.


It's closer to home than you think. You have to be attentive and PROACTIVE! You can't assume it won't happen to you or only certain people. And most importantly. NEVER LEAVE YOUR LITTLE GIRLS ALONE WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX. EVER. NOT EVEN FOR 10 minutes.

 

[Marco Andretti]

Yea..she didn't let me finger her lol


Said it brought back too many memories lol


Got the top .. tried to fukk ..


Shut happens . . Left thru the same window I came in at lol ..

Lessons learned

 

[Ian Ahbaa f/ Area51]

Contrary to the beliefs of many, this is not a healthy way to raise children. Having them in constant fear of present and perceived danger doesn't not build strong and stable mentalities and belief systems.

Maybe a decade or 2 ago I would agree but with children growing up as fast as they are (mainly due to information technology n social networking) there's really almost nothing they can't get their eyes ears & hands on. Awareness is key in this day & age. I'm not trying to raise a paranoid schizo.. but a child of mine could never be a gulable ditz with my influence in play.