Have you ever dated someone who had stronger feelings for you than you had for them?

[MikelArteta]

I've slept with 16 women
Been engaged
Been in numerous relationships
Had over 1000 matches on tinder twice
Last woman I slept with was a model



Never clubbed, never bar hopped, never said yo ma, never said I love you first, never expressed feelings first, never made the first move.

If you aren't speaking from experience, then you really can't speak about how terrible it is. In the fictional relationship that you were describing, the girl didn't like the guy at all, it seems. I'm talking about relationships where they both like each other but one person clearly like the other perosn more.

You'll probably be single for a very long time if you continue to not approach or pursue women. Most won't approach and pursue you.

 

[killacal]

If you think I'm such an idot & do not wish to participate in this discussion without being name calling & being childish, then stay out of my thread and put me on ignore. Thanks

How about I do none of that and keep negging you

 

[Giselle]

i have experienced it....

yes

turned out bad because i was young and realized other women are more attracted to you when you already have a girlfriend.

Yes more than a couple of times.

It didn't work out. Eventually I said some shyt to break her heart

You all aren't giving enough detail. But I am noticing a pattern here. It didn't work out.

you're annoying. people have already given you examples and admit theyre the ones who messed it up.

lets see how many men come in here and tell you their success stories of loving their GF more than she loves them.

Most of them aren't giving details, they are just saying "yes".

There are many examples/stories of successful relationships where the men liked the women more in the thread that I linked. But only one story of a successful relationship that where the woman had stronger feelings for the man.

 

[The Jewnited States]

Well at some point when one side likes the other side more, they will want to spend more time or want more commitment from the other side than they are willing to give.

In my case I ended up telling her I didn't wanna hang out ALL the time and talk ALL the time. She took that as me not loving her enough and that was it. Could never level the playing field again

 

[King Poetic]

yup.. all older milfs

even when i told the woman i will never married or settle down she still will call me and text me even when i don't respond in 2 or 3 weeks to none of her texts or calls..

i would stop by and tell her... she would still throw sex in my face... i guess she felt she would never find another guy

 

[Heretic]

You all aren't giving enough detail. But I am noticing a pattern here. It didn't work out.



Most of them aren't giving details, they are just saying "yes".

There are many examples/stories of successful relationships where the men liked the women more in the thread that I linked. But only one story of a successful relationship that where the woman had stronger feelings for the man.

In my situation it was usually the girl wanting to move faster than I did. Situations where the girl would be in love or throw that term out there or talk about marriage or babies after only a couple of weeks. It would make me distant honestly.

Example of one such situation, I had aa girl that I did like a lot but after about 2 months I noticed certain things I didn't like such as she had terrible money management and was always broke despite having a good job. Would always tell me how much she loved me and how she could see herself with me forever. Well she always wanted to bring up marriage and kids but I realized that I didn't want to even consider the possibility until she got her affairs in order, she never did, she actually got worse some kind of way. I started to distance myself from her and eventually told her she was too irresponsible.

 

[karim]

This is the thing, you all keep saying this, but have never experienced that type of relationship, so how would you know. You have no proof to back up anything that you are saying. It's all talk.

I only dated woman who chased me. I never approach woman, I let them approach me. I rejected most woman I dated at first, on the one hand because I'm very selective in who I open up to, and on the other hand because it helps weeding out the attention whores. I'm not good at small talk or flirting, simply because it bores me. So I don't do it. Either you have an in depth conversation with me, or I'm monosylabic. Some woman find it off putting, but most think it's intriguing. Woman are also not used to getting rejected or being ignored, and when it happens, they think something must be wrong with them. So they start chasing, in order to convince themselves that they are still attractive and interesting.

As far as the relationship goes, I realized at some point that getting rejected and having to chase after a guy fukks with a womans self esteem. That can harm the relationship, because you have to deal with stuff like jealousy or bad communication, because the woman is afraid to get rejected again if she says something you don't like. It can also lead to a situation where you take the woman for granted, which ultimately makes her leave you. I'm Single at the moment, which means all m relationships have fairen at some point so far. I don't know if they would have worked out better if it had been the other way around. I'm a very detached person and it takes me a long time to develop deep feelings for someone, so I haven't experienced a relationship where I'm more into the woman than she is into me yet.

 

[duncanthetall]

This is the thing, you all keep saying this, but have never experienced that type of relationship, so how would you know. You have no proof to back up anything that you are saying. It's all talk.

I did. I think I posted in this thread already. Told her I loved her when i was drunk because she said it. And had kinda made a habit of saying it. So I finally said it. In the morning when I sobered up I told her it was a mistake.

She broke up with me a few days later.

Really didnt matter because I kept hitting it up until......3 or 4 months ago? And we've been broken up for over a year

 

[RealAssanova]

yes until it gets to a point where it becomes annoying.

 

[The Mad Titan]

I have, My Ex fiance had way stronger feelings for me than I did for her, she even changed where she planned on going to school, where she was going to live and all of that. And Initially I didn't appreciate it like I should have, if I did we'd be married and together now. We got into a falling out one day, and I told her I needed to clear my mind and needed space. I told her over and over this wasn't a break up but give me a bit of time to process things, I wasn't cheating neither was she. I wanted to understand what I was getting into and the responsibility I was taking on again over and over I told her this wasn't so I could run around and play games and I just wanted to let her know what was going on if I seemed more distance than usual. This probably took more no more than 2 weeks in which we keep contact and everything the entire time.


I then started to try and show her more and more how much I appreciated her in my life. Of course the more my feelings grew the more she became blase, funny how that works out. Of course she is in a terrible situation now and wishes she would not have took me for granted. Last time I spoke with her, she told me that she can't get serious with guys because of how high I raised the bar.



Its much better for a woman to be infatuated by her man,more than the other way around. Sure men can abuse that power, but it makes for much better relationships when done right. Regardless of what a woman say's I haven't come across one that really enjoy there man being into them more they are into there man.


A man that knows how to show you attention is one thing, a man thats always up under a woman. Calling and texting, and whispering you sweet nothings is another, eventually it gets old. And become's simpish...

 

[Reece]

Yes. I experienced being both before. The girl I chased....I was in the friend zone at first. With some game I ended up pulling her and was with her two years. We broke up (I dumped her) and about two months later I realized our argument was petty. But the tears had dried, she wasn't feeling me no more I tried to get her back and nothing I could do could make her change her mind. I had to finally be real about it and say that I was never really her first choice. I chased her. If it was up to her, we'd never gone out. That's why she could move on, toss 2 years in the garbage and not bat an eye, eventhough in my mind I thought we'd always work it out somehow.

Now being the other. The girl loved me more than I loved her, mostly because the first girl hardened my heart. That relationship was pure bliss while we were together. I could call her at 2am for something and she'd get it. She'd do anything for me and because of that, I was willing to do WAY more for her than I did for any other chick. Had I not moved 800 miles away we'd prolly be married but I did and somebody else wifed her up

Moral of the story. If you're a man, don't marry the woman you love, marry the one that loves you. Your life will be a lot easier. You want a chick heads over heels for you. Check the Notebook movie. The fiancé got his azz played because he loved the girl more than she did him. Her dream dude was Noah. She did him a favor by going back to Noah because she'd never be a good wife to him because she would've settled and been constantly thinking about who she really wanted.

 

[resurrection]

Yeah the admiration was nice but the clingy, needy, complainy stuff wasn't

 

[Giselle]

I have, My Ex fiance had way stronger feelings for me than I did for her, she even changed where she planned on going to school, where she was going to live and all of that. And Initially I didn't appreciate it like I should have, if I did we'd be married and together now. We got into a falling out one day, and I told her I needed to clear my mind and needed space. I told her over and over this wasn't a break up but give me a bit of time to process things, I wasn't cheating neither was she. I wanted to understand what I was getting into and the responsibility I was taking on again over and over I told her this wasn't so I could run around and play games and I just wanted to let her know what was going on if I seemed more distance than usual. This probably took more no more than 2 weeks in which we keep contact and everything the entire time.


I then started to try and show her more and more how much I appreciated her in my life. Of course the more my feelings grew the more she became blase, funny how that works out. Of course she is in a terrible situation now and wishes she would not have took me for granted. Last time I spoke with her, she told me that she can't get serious with guys because of how high I raised the bar.



Its much better for a woman to be infatuated by her man,more than the other way around. Sure men can abuse that power, but it makes for much better relationships when done right. Regardless of what a woman say's I haven't come across one that really enjoy there man being into them more they are into there man.


A man that knows how to show you attention is one thing, a man thats always up under a woman. Calling and texting, and whispering you sweet nothings is another, eventually it gets old. And become's simpish...

Calling and texting, and whispering you sweet nothings is another, eventually it gets old. And become's simpish...

Men wouldn't like women doing that to them either.

Its much better for a woman to be infatuated by her man,more than the other way around. Sure men can abuse that power, but it makes for much better relationships when done right.

I don't think so.

Regardless of what a woman say's I haven't come across one that really enjoy there man being into them more they are into there man.

I have and there is a thread full of stories on it in the link to my other thread.

http://www.thecoli.com/threads/did-you-reject-your-current-gf-wife.296202/#post-12357839

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

I've been on both sides and like @street heat said the woman has to love more for it to work.

 

[Giselle]

Yeah the admiration was nice but the clingy, needy, complainy stuff wasn't

That's the second reason why I think that it wouldn't work. The first is that the women will probably be taken advantage of.