I think balance is really the key, I've been on both side and they never work out.
If they feel you more than you feel them, ultimately little things which may not mean much to you may mean the world to them and cause a rift.Which starts the push and pull cycle. You not feeling her too much and shes sweating you, and she falls back cuz shes feeling like you dont care, which provokes you to show you do care, Everything is gucci again until your effrots arent returned and you fall back a bit. To which proveokes her to show you she does care. Cycle repeats.