Have You Ever Fell Out With A Long Term Friend Over A Woman/Man?

[DatLBCGuy562]

Yep because I called her out on her gold digging ways in front of him.

Damn breh. And the dude sided with her over you?

 

[colicolicoli]

So. I called him. Just said hey. Be careful bro. That chick is manipulative, she said a few questionable things about you, etc.

This is where you messed up.

 

[Neuromancer]

Never.

 

[DatLBCGuy562]

This is where you messed up.

by giving a long time friend a heads up? Please explain....

 

[Strapped]

If dude knows you messed with her & he previously messed with her . Now he is acting silly , then he's not a good friend & is skeetsinternal like

 

[MoveForward]

Damn breh. And the dude sided with her over you?

To be fair, I said it in a rude way so I was disrespecting him by disrespecting his lady. I just don't bite my tongue and he told me she was withholding sex if he didn't buy her sh1t, her family members were borrowing money, and she didn't work.... I called her out while we were at dinner in front of our other friends and we ended up not talking for a couple of years.

He loves that broad though and it was none of my business.

 

[colicolicoli]

by giving a long time friend a heads up? Please explain....

You said they dealt with each other before and still talk occasionally so he should already know her personality, your "heads up" was unnecessary.

And you gave her an easy angle to play...that you're jealous and hating cause they are now together.

She could and probably did compare how he responded (gave you the blessing to date her without saying anything bad about her) vs how you told him negative things about her to further this angle.

 

[threattonature]

Fairly long read. Sorry in advance.

I was on Match.com about 6 months ago. A fairly attractive woman messages me. I respond and we start chatting. She seems ok, so we move forward and make plans to get to know each other and eventually meet...

We had been involved with one another for about 3 months when I send her a picture one day of me and a group of my guys after we finished hooping. She identifies one of my boys as someone she was involved with about 5 years ago who she occasionally kept in touch with. I told her I had to tell him. She was trying to get me to stay quiet, but I don't keep secrets from my homie.

So I go to my dog and tell him. Tell him she got at me on the site and it was purely coincidental, yadda, yadda, yadda. He gives his blessing and said he ain't tripping, to go forward. So I go forward off my boy saying that he ain't tripping. After talking to this woman a couple of more months, I was starting to get turned off. She was selfish, money hungry, manipulative, argumentative, and made herself a victim in every situation or disagreement between us. I tell her that I don't think we're compatible and cease contact.

A couple of months later, my boy posts a picture with the bytch on Facebook. Apparently, when me and this chick had stopped talking, she reached out to this dude (I'm guessing to make me jealous and to be messy) and this dumb nikka took her back because he's a simp and his ego was probably hurt that she chose up on me, even though his words to me said something different. Smh.

So. I called him. Just said hey. Be careful bro. That chick is manipulative, she said a few questionable things about you, etc. This dummy goes back and tells her everything that I said. She, of course, denies it and calls me a liar (would never lie to my homie period, never mind lie to him over a bytch) and this nikka believes HER and starts acting funny with me because his nose is wide open. So. I'm feeling a way now. Haven't spoken to him in 6 months. Don't plan on speaking to him again. 25 year friendship down the drain over a nothing ass bytch who won't be around in a year having the ability to manipulate his weak minded ass. Smh. There's other details that I'll share as the thread goes on that I left out, but I'm done with typing for now. Getting mad over again thinking about this shyt. Smh.

Twice.

1. My boy David is dating this female and right off I can tell shorty is shady. So one day me and my coworker was going out with David and his girl. My coworker is a pretty boy that girls throw themselves at. Night went cool. The next week we all supposed to go out again but David is sick. Yet his girl is texting my coworker and is still going to come out and meet us. I was already like how the fukk did my coworker get her number and he said she hit him up on facebook and gave him her number. We get out and she runs and jumps into my coworker's arms and gives him the biggest hug like he's her best friend even though they just met the week before. The whole time we out she's dancing all on him and being overly flirty. I tell David to watch his girl cause she's grimy. This fool goes back and tells her and after that anytime me and him was supposed to kick it she had an "emergency" come up to where he kept cancelling last minute which pissed me off cause it would be after I done drove 30 minutes to his spot to go. We fell out for a while over that.

Fast forward a couple years and he's with a new chick who I got real cool with. Great girl he should've wifed up. Instead he was dogging her out left and right to the point one night he had me and another friend of ours distracting her at a club so he could sneak out the back door with another woman. The whole crew could see how good of a girl she was. Eventually everybody else we ran with but me tried to holla at her behind his back and was snitching about him dogging her out. She catches him doing dirt and breaks up with him. We go out one night and both end up in the same club and both blowing up my phone (I was at this other girl's spot smoking before meeting him out). We get to the club and he tells me I'm not allowed to talk to her. I cuss him out and tell him I'm a grown man and can talk to whoever the fukk I want. I go up and give her a hug and he starts texting me that I'm not allowed at his house anymore and how we ain't friends. I was too old to be throwing hands so I kick it with his ex before leaving. His ex cusses him out and reveals to him that I was the only reason she stayed with him for so long and how I was the only friend of his that didn't try to fukk her. He then texts me talking about I was a bytch and had to go snitch. After that we stopped talking for months. Eventually he calls crying and tells me about some shyt he was going through that had his head all kinds of fukked up and how I was a true friend. I accepted but things were never the same again.

2. The third was a female friend. I had moved and been away for a year or two. Me, Jessie and one other used to roll tight every weekend. Both of them had boyfriends I had never met. We meet in a bar. T's boyfriend was cool when we met. Jessie's boyfriend was just ice grilling me after Jessie ran up and hugged me when I walked in the door. She introduces us and dude whispers to me that Jessie is his girl and not to get any ideas. That already had me tight. Then he's grabbing anything walking trying to get me to talk to them. I told him I had just came from fukking this bad bytch that morning so I ain't trying to just stick my dikk in anything so he can dead all that. Then Jessie sees her cousin talking to him so she wants to fight her cousin and I had to break up that fight. Then she sees her boyfriend talking to another girl so she tries to pull me on the floor to dance with her. He sees this and gets pissed so the two of them go outside about to damn near come to blows. I go out there to tell Jessie he was trying to hook me up. He yells "you need to take yo bytch ass back inside". I started looking around trying to figure out who he's talking to. Then T is grabbing me telling me to please go back inside (she knows my temper). When I figure out he's talking to me so I starting going towards him so T and her boyfriend and his cousin all jump on me holding me back while homeboy throws his fists up like he's trying to do something. Jessie starts cussing me out. That was the last time me and her talked.

For me when somebody that I'm that close with his just will to turn on me like that over somebody they're with I can't fukk with em or trust em cause what's to keep them from doing that shyt again.

 

[threattonature]

To be fair, I said it in a rude way so I was disrespecting him by disrespecting his lady. I just don't bite my tongue and he told me she was withholding sex if he didn't buy her sh1t, her family members were borrowing money, and she didn't work.... I called her out while we were at dinner in front of our other friends and we ended up not talking for a couple of years.

He loves that broad though and it was none of my business.

Yeah you fukked up lol. That's some shyt you pull ya boy to the side and tell him. I'm like you though, if I feel some shyt I throw it out there. Especially when I was younger. Now that I'm older I've learned to have more tact. But when a dude is all in love they ain't trying to hear anything like that. One of my close friends to this day refuses to hear how his girl is playing him for the money.