Have your parents been honest with you about your conception?

[Bossino]

I was born 6 years after my brother, my parents actively tried to have me, I was extremely planned, they went to fertility clinics and all that, my brother was planned and came year after my parents were formally married but they had known each other for 15 years before that. As a result my brother is well adjusted and rounded as am I. My parents are traditional and Nigerian immigrants so they have different morals/perspectives on family. I feel it's EXTREMELY important that black folk wrap they heads around the whole family planning and not having kids when you have no business doing so concept. In fact if we have a shot of "overcoming" this is one of the main things we gotta be doing

I've never got full details but I know the majority of how it happened.
Kinda random, but is a planned pregnancy really a thing? Myself, my kids, and damn near everybody I know was made on some "ooops" shyt...

In addition to reading my post above, YES IT IS, and please do it with your kids if you don't already have any

 

[Bossino]

I've always wondered what it did to people psychology, to know that they weren't planned, or were conceived through some kinda less than ideal situation.

Go outside and bring it up in convo with acquaintances/coworkers, flat out accidents (outta wedlock), people only wanted by one parent, and people who come from broken homes STAY tryna front like there are/were no possible drawbacks/negative effects/consequences on their life in any way. Talking bout

"I mean, I turned out alright"

 

[The God Poster]

Nope .... Never came up

 

[Westbama Heartthrob]

Wasn't planned at all. I was born in November so I had to have been conceived in February. My dad's got a birthday and Valentine Day's is the week after. So you already know the deal.

Sometimes I'm just like damn, I'm here because a rubber busted.

Fukks me up sometimes. I feel like I either gotta do some GOAT level shyt or I'm just fukking up.

At the same time@ them 1% chances

 

[ADK]

Well my dad was 17 and my mom was 18 so I think they were planning me out

 

[Paper Boi]

nah my parents ain't talk to me about fukking eachother.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

I was planned, my parents wanted me bad. I'm the Golden the child.

I'm the only person in my family who got my grandfathers blessing. I was born to defeat generational curses

 

[WaveWhisperer]

Nah it wasnt planned



Worked out though

 

[BlackDiBiase]

they dont need to, all my siblings are 2 years apart. same initials too lol.

 

[Bossino]

nah my parents ain't talk to me about fukking eachother.

Fam the thread is moreso about whether you popped up or if you were planned for, not the night you were conceived, and the positions utilized.


It's a conversations parents have with kids around the teenage years and up if they ever have it. Ya parents never gave a timeline of their lives prior to you that you could at least infer from?

 

[Bossino]

Wasn't planned at all. I was born in November so I had to have been conceived in February. My dad's got a birthday and Valentine Day's is the week after. So you already know the deal.

Sometimes I'm just like damn, I'm here because a rubber busted.

Fukks me up sometimes. I feel like I either gotta do some GOAT level shyt or I'm just fukking up.

At the same time@ them 1% chances

I feel the same, but it was because I was planned it's like, they put they careers and advancement to the side to conceive then raise me. I gotta do something to be equally as if not more accomplished or in a sense it was all for not. Granted I didn't ask to be born but you know how that shyt go

 

[1 other person]

No, but I doubt my conception was planned. My mother and father was together about 3 years after my birth. I remember talking to my father before he passed away and he told me that he loved my mother. I think it was the guilt talking - he was an absent father in my life. I didnt reconnect with him until right before his passing. I then went and told this to my mother, about what he had told me. I could see the scorn in her face as she mentioned that if he was in love, that he would have stayed. I have never seen my mother like that and I'm 34. She had hidden that side from me throughout the years. So yea, that told me all I needed to know.

 

[born of fire]

yes. i was planned, my parents were (and still are married). they had some fertility issues before i was born but when my mom found out she was pregnant she was very cautious to tell anyone just to get past that safety period of knowing you won’t miscarry. my dad was excited i was a girl cause he already had two boys from previous relationships.

 

[Caca-faat]

I wasnt planned at all for either of my parents. My mom was probably happy she caught the big fish. Daddy not so much. Ended up going to live with him at 3. He became a single dad at 37/38, he must have been pissed! None of his kids were planned, all girls he had to raise by himself at some point or another.

 

[Jahbarri]

Not planned , I’m not suppose to be here... neither is my son.. fortunately where both here due to god .found out my father wasn’t my father at 7 when my aunt snitched on him in 2000