Have your parents been honest with you about your conception?

[SnowflakesByTheOZ]

I asked my mom this recently, if I was planned . She replied and said no (which I kinda knew). She basically said they were doing what coupled do and shyt happened. As far as psychological effect on me ? None lol

 

[daemonova]

no, but i put 2 & 2 together

me too...

dad never talks about it, but you get the feeling he was in opportunist, you in the movie theatre, you don't turn down free popcorn, and he was a country kid from out of town looking to have fun

mom was just in over her head, not realizing what being grown up means (oh, I could write a thesis)

long story short, dad wanted more, a dime from a better family, so he chased after women who looked the part for the next twenty years, I can tell you that apple doesn't fall to far from the tree, difference between me and him is that I know all that glitter aint gold, I got that from my mom

 

[Mfalme_Perez]

I was born in December, so they must've made me in January. Not only was I not planned, I don't think my parents even knew each other for very long. My pops told me that they met in Thailand, did whatever they did and my mom ended up in Okinawa. She found out she was pregnant and had me in Japan. We all ended up back in the states and they got married in Kentucky.

 

[AllHolosEve]

I've always wondered what it did to people psychology, to know that they weren't planned, or were conceived through some kinda less than ideal situation.

I was born 6 years after my brother, my parents actively tried to have me, I was extremely planned, they went to fertility clinics and all that, my brother was planned and came year after my parents were formally married but they had known each other for 15 years before that. As a result my brother is well adjusted and rounded as am I. My parents are traditional and Nigerian immigrants so they have different morals/perspectives on family. I feel it's EXTREMELY important that black folk wrap they heads around the whole family planning and not having kids when you have no business doing so concept. In fact if we have a shot of "overcoming" this is one of the main things we gotta be doing






In addition to reading my post above, YES IT IS, and please do it with your kids if you don't already have any

Not planned , I’m not suppose to be here... neither is my son.. fortunately where both here due to god .found out my father wasn’t my father at 7 when my aunt snitched on him in 2000

Things like this is what made me ask. Another thread about Death made me think of this.

My mom was actually on birth control to avoid getting pregnant & God was like . I wasn't planned or supposed to live, by either parent.

I was a "miracle baby" & finding out I wasn't intended to be born made me more numb to the idea of dying in a world I wasn't actually wanted in to begin with.

My parents actively tried to prevent my birth. That is a fukked up feeling. My mom did her best for me once I came, but the knowledge she tried to not even have me?

 

[Cel 510 kid ados forever]

I was a planned birth

 

[number21]

No. I'm not interested tbh.

 

[letti cook]

the more i found out about my parents the less I wanna know

i asked my mom how they met....she got super defensive...then call me a week later, giving up details to which i had to before it got any further

on the surface, my conception seems

they were together for 8 years...married for 3

but i just KNOW it got some fukked up backstory that i dont need to hear

lot of fukkery went on with them 2

 

[duncanthetall]

I was planned. nikkas shoulda got a time machine and asked for my input first. Fade me dawg

 

[AllHolosEve]

the more i found out about my parents the less I wanna know

i asked my mom how they met....she got super defensive...then call me a week later, giving up details to which i had to before it got any further

on the surface, my conception seems

they were together for 8 years...married for 3

but i just KNOW it got some fukked up backstory that i dont need to hear

lot of fukkery went on with them 2

Yeah, that's what I was asking. I have the whole fukked up backstory & when my parents told the truth about their fukkery & my birth, I think that was the beginning of not caring.

 

[letti cook]

Yeah, that's what I was asking. I have the whole fukked up backstory & when my parents told the truth about their fukkery & my birth, I think that was the beginning of not caring.

my brother has a closer relationship with my mother so she told him his backstory when they were drinking one night

he was SHOOK

so yeah....im good

 

[FLATOP]

Why are yall asking your parents about how you were born

 

[Legal]

I've always wondered what it did to people psychology, to know that they weren't planned, or were conceived through some kinda less than ideal situation.

Can't speak for everyone else, but knowing that I not only wasn't planned, but they also stayed together because of me fukked young me up.

I always felt like a burden, and even though my father always made sure I knew he loved me and was happy to be my father, I always thought that maybe they both would've been happier if I wasn't around.

 

[Ya Sinning Mane]

Both my parents churchy.
So all they children planned.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

Imagine being conceived during a gang bang. Lol there's a chick from hs that got the football team to run a through her. A week later she found out and didn't know who the father was


It's so Demonic my friends

 

[Westbama Heartthrob]

I feel the same, but it was because I was planned it's like, they put they careers and advancement to the side to conceive then raise me. I gotta do something to be equally as if not more accomplished or in a sense it was all for not. Granted I didn't ask to be born but you know how that shyt go

I feel you. It's like we shouldn't feel guilty, but we still got that floating over our heads. I'm glad my parents have high expectations for me. It's good to have people that believe in you, but sometimes I wonder if I turned out to be the son they wanted. They always wanted me to be at the top of my class. I was an A B student, but I probably could have been valedictorian if I really tried in school. I just too focused on making music. I'm not as good as I want to be, but I feel like I'm too close to give up on it. It's the only thing that makes me feel "awake". I'm just kinda meh towards most stuff in life. I think that's why I get so lost in it. I feel that my parents are legit proud of me, but my parents always tell be to be the BEST I can be. I know it's because they want me to be successful, but I'm scared that deep down they just have learned to settle.

Another thing I've come to realize is how hard it much have been for my folks to raise me and my siblings. They didn't really have an example of everything to do, so I respect them for that. My grandparents on my mom's side split up, and my other grandfather died while my dad was around thirteen. It's stuff I've known since I was a kid, but I guess growing older makes you really take a step back on things. It's stuff that made me mad growing up that I realize was them trying to figure stuff out.