Hours after 1st Date She Let Another Man Hit | Boyfriend finds out 4 Months Later

[Scaaar]

He's a man so he needs to break it off (I see he did) because men want "ownership" over their women. Anything that messes up the fantasy is devastating for them. Might as well dead it instead of torturing them both.

To thr GF:
Damn bytch delete them old messages.

I was confused why she was holding on to them. Everybody knows when you get in a committed relationship all old texts and photos gotta disappear

 

[Apprentice]

My nikka you have posted on here recently how you've been struggling to keep a roof over your head. You need to get that situation stable before you get all up in grown folks conversations....

I posted that 6 months ago. Wanna see my crib now?

Lol nikkas be on the Coli tryna get personal cuz they life fukked up, post a picture of yourself

You’re and old out of shape man tryna pick fights on here because you’re probably upset about your life

I struck a nerve fasho, stop spending money on women who don’t like you. That’s why you 40+ unmarried

 

[Scaaar]

What if one person is not doing that, assuming the other one is and the other one is still out there messing around. That is a very common occurrence where one person will find out and get mad that the person they are dating is fukking someone else, just for the person they are dating to say they are not "serious" yet.

I have never heard of a situation where two people meet for the first time on a date hash out how many dates they should go on before they start fukking other people. Again, if you are dating for a serious relationship then you need to be monogamous and if you are just going out to see what you can fukk, then do you but be honest with the other person.

Bro again y'all are so fixated on what can possibly go wrong you don't even give it a chance to go right. If this is the first link up why are you even worried about all of this shyt!?! How about just get to know her. Spend time with her, go on dates with her. Just because you choose to move and date a certain way that doesn't mean everyone else does. We're not a monolith. If they don't align just move around. Y'all take things way too personal in the initial stages. Y'all are attached and want ownership over her and you ain't even went on a first date yet

 

[Apprentice]

He sholl came in here wolfin with all that red pill talk. He one step from being a hobosexual trying to give relationship advice.

Not one red pill thing has been said

You guys are in here trying to convince yourself it’s okay to spend money on a women while she’s sleeping with other men, what type of nikkas are yall?

Even when I was homeless I was still slamming shyt, nikkas like y’all ugly as fukk spending bread on women

You need that red pill talk more than me

 

[Scaaar]

Not one red pill thing has been said

You guys are in here trying to convince yourself it’s okay to spend money on a women while she’s sleeping with other men, what type of nikkas are yall?

Even when I was homeless I was still slamming shyt, nikkas like y’all ugly as fukk spending bread on women

You need that red pill talk more than me

So you admit that you were a hobosexual out here. Got it

 

[Apprentice]

I struck a nerve on these hoe nikkas

Pro black website making fun of a young breh’s old situation cuz I asked why are y’all comparing y’all selves to women

But it makes sense y’all just like them bytches

Glad to know y’all spend bread on hoes who fukking behind y’all back

 

[Ahadi]

Once again comparing yourself to a women lol

nikkas happily spending money and courting a women so you can drop her off and a random nikka can come eat it from the back


You at home playing 2k telling yourself “it’s okay, it’s only the first date ”


If a bytch not letting you fukk first date and she getting gunned by another nikka, she wasn’t fukking wit u like that

Y’all in here talm bout “game” and “we weren’t exclusive yet” sound like some nikkas who have spent their whole life getting spun by women

The people who want to date / court are in the same pools, thats the issue.

If they both agree with courting , then its one person at a time.

If its dating (which is usually a silent agreement) you're open to dating multiple ppl. Just don't expect the same results / exclusivity as courting.

 

[Apprentice]

So you admit that you were a hobosexual out here. Got it

Yeah I admit I still get p*ssy in the worst seasons

Keep spending money on hoes who fukking nikkas behind your back, great strategy

 

[num123]

Bro again y'all are so fixated on what can possibly go wrong you don't even give it a chance to go right. If this is the first link up why are you even worried about all of this shyt!?! How about just get to know her. Spend time with her, go on dates with her. Just because you choose to move and date a certain way that doesn't mean everyone else does. We're not a monolith. If they don't align just move around. Y'all take things way too personal in the initial stages. Y'all are attached and want ownership over her and you ain't even went on a first date yet

My god some of you are retarded but whatever, i will play along.

In nothing I have said thus far said that you "own" someone after a first date or after that. All I am saying and like some others are saying is if you are dating with the expressed purpose of a serious relationship, you should not be fukking other people during that time. If you are dating in order to build a "roster" then more power to you.

If you are entertaining multiple people while fukking other people then be fukking honest with the people that you are trying to date. "I know this date is going real well but just want to let you know i am fukking other people and will continue until I think you are the one for me." is something people are not saying because they know what they fukking result would be.

Be honest with the person you are initially dating that you are fukking other women, but you won't because you know how that will go. But to be completely honest, if you do not see a problem slanging dikk to other women while dating someone then you really should not be dating.

 

[Diondon]

I was confused why she was holding on to them. Everybody knows when you get in a committed relationship all old texts and photos gotta disappear

 

[BrehWyatt]

Then he needs to get over it. He's not entitled to her p*ssy off of just one date. It's her body and her choice. And she could have really liked him even if she wanted to not rush into fukking him and wanted to get to know him. You do realize women categorize men too, right? Women like sex too. There are men that are dateable, men that are good enough for one hook up, and men who are cool enough for a fwb situation. It is what it is.

Her lying isn't a good look, but I understand why she lied. She most likely knew he couldn't handle it and he and proved it.


Regarding being the first choice, he's not entitled to her p*ssy. She has her own reasons for not wanting to have sex with him early on. She chose to be a relationship with him in the end until he went digging, so she clearly liked him.

All of what you said is well and good. He's not entitled to anything, and she very well could not have wanted to rush. Her reasoning is her reasoning. But reading through that thread provides more info that may be key to this whole thing.

- She was setting up her next play 20 minutes after the date (according to that thread, the timing of that bothered him). A good first date will have you trying to set the next one up ASAP as opposed to setting up your next session.

- The guy who posted about said that their first date was fairly run of the mill but from what he gathered, she didn't seem all that into him, so he didn't try to make any moves. Later, he found out that wasn't the case and she actually liked him. He mentions a running joke among the friend groups being that they had to be convinced to do a second date, and the third date is where they got on track.

- When confronted, she said that the person she ended up fukking was someone she had dated in the past, but that person didn't want a relationship with her. About a month after the OP and the girl got together, the other cat reached out to her but was promptly shut down and blocked. She also said that if it were the other way around, she wouldn't like it either.

- Guy said he has a "no sex on the first date" rule he goes by. Perhaps if not for that, she doesn't have to set up the next play.

 

[folasade]

What if one person is not doing that, assuming the other one is and the other one is still out there messing around. That is a very common occurrence where one person will find out and get mad that the person they are dating is fukking someone else, just for the person they are dating to say they are not "serious" yet.

I have never heard of a situation where two people meet for the first time on a date hash out how many dates they should go on before they start fukking other people. Again, if you are dating for a serious relationship then you need to be monogamous and if you are just going out to see what you can fukk, then do you but be honest with the other person.

If the other person is not doing that, then that's their choice. You can't get mad at the other person for having casual sex when you've chosen not to in the early stages of dating.


You've never heard of that situation because that's not it goes in the real world. You don't need to hyper-fixate on what the other person is doing so early on. It's just one date and you might not even see them again. Now if you are going on multiple dates and you aren't having sex or if you want exclusivity, you should communicate that in a normal way and ask what they want and state what you want. If that doesn't align, move on and don't take it personal.

 

[Braman]

This one is pretty simple.

Out of sight out of mind. What a woman does before yall are official is never, ever, EVER, something you should concern yourself with. E-V-E-R.

So do not ask. Bc you don’t wanna know. Her behaviors will tell you everything anyway.

One of the funniest things that’s accepted by new nggas is this whole ‘body count’ shyt. Ngga how and why do you even know?!? Nah ngga you tender. You should assume they ALL hoes. So if you asking and investigating, oh you thought she was different? Lol Yea you tender

Now with all that said….if you somehow find out like the OP, well now you can’t unsee/unknow and you might as well leave her. Actually, here’s a simple graphic to sum this up:

 

[verbalkint]

I feel like not scheduling yourself to get fukked immediately after our date isn't a big ask but I guess I'm a prude

 

[Scaaar]

My god some of you are retarded but whatever, i will play along.

In nothing I have said thus far said that you "own" someone after a first date or after that. All I am saying and like some others are saying is if you are dating with the expressed purpose of a serious relationship, you should not be fukking other people during that time. If you are dating in order to build a "roster" then more power to you.

If you are entertaining multiple people while fukking other people then be fukking honest with the people that you are trying to date. "I know this date is going real well but just want to let you know i am fukking other people and will continue until I think you are the one for me." is something people are not saying because they know what they fukking result would be.

Be honest with the person you are initially dating that you are fukking other women, but you won't because you know how that will go. But to be completely honest, if you do not see a problem slanging dikk to other women while dating someone then you really should not be dating.

Again like I said you're right telling people up front that you're dating other people at the same time. But you also can't control what they do. That's why we all have free will/free choice to make our own decisions. I'm upfront with everyone but I get tested throughout the year and have my paperwork so telling them that I'm dating other people doesn't move the needle. But asking someone on the first date about their sex life and who they're having sex with is dumb and invasive. You're supposed to be getting to know them and seeing if you have chemistry outside of sex. But a majority of y'all have whittled yourselves down to what y'all can provide and sex so that's all y'all have to fall back on when it comes to interacting with women. That's why y'all are so hard pressed about what she's doing with her body.