How can we really blame a man for being deadbeat when women make the final decision on sex?
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360crazy
360crazy please say the crazy!
Both parties made a final decision to have sex with each other. I would have to assume both parties realizes the risk attached to said sexual activity. It seems reasonable to hold both parties equally accountable.
Exactly.....a relationship should be two-fold. They are certain responsibilities that go along with being a man, while being in a relationship. I think a man that that doesn't care of his seeds, isnt worthy of that title. I mean c'mon bruh you knew what was doing when you took that journey on down to the tree of life. Furthermore, if you dont want a child and know that thats not what you want, both parties should take necessary precautions.
Not for nothing but there are dudes who don't switch it up until she gets pregnant or the baby is delivered....
Yagirlcheatinonus
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If the money they take out our paychecks didn't go to these women it would go somewhere else. At least the kids are eating and have somewhere to stay. I do believe its wrong when women abuse those handouts. But some people act like these women are coming up off those handouts that's not the case.
I'm black bruh, my mentality and simply seeing my seed is what steered me
Another thing about what you said in regards of people needing to step up...
Thing is even if you don't love the woman.... If I could put up with someone who is bi-polar and some more ish, nikkas gotta suck it up
I completely agree with this.
Being a single father though, I see the double standard.
Lack of programs for single dads, and people in general not giving as much of a fukk.
You need to blame the stupid nikkas who think they are allow to be deadbeats because the woman makes the final decision bullshyt. They are making a bad name for men like you. They tell society that men don't have to or want to take care of their kids. They don't believe you exist, therefore, there are no programs for you. I
you for doing the right thing regardless of your feelings towards the mother of your child.
While I agree with most of what you said....I do think they are some exceptions where blame can clearly be assigned.
If a man clearly doesn't want this baby and is making it known to the woman (for whatever reason), if she goes ahead and has it anyways then IMO the blame goes to the woman. (mind you that I'm assuming the dude is using contraceptive, if you fukking raw then this does not apply to you)
If a man lets it be known either b4 or after the pregnancy that he wants the baby...then it's on him.
Look I'll concede the argument that once you start fukking you are doing so with the full knowledge that having a baby is a possibility. In some cases though woman choose to bring children into this world knowing that its more than likely not a good idea and in some cases these men are leading these woman on.
Because you shouldn't be a deadbeat. 
If you make a child it's your job to raise that child. The problem is that there is no balance. If a man wants to keep a kid and the woman wants an abortion it's "
Tough luck nikka" but if he doesn't want the kid and she decided to keep it it's " Tough luck nikka". Where are the programs and assistance for men who do decide to step up to the plate. Men who step up to the plate get it worse than men who are triffling deadbeats. That's a problem.
There are plenty of men paying child support, having their wages garnished, being ordered to appear in court, or even being locked up for failure to pay child support. The government knows they exist.
If you make a child it's your job to raise that child. The problem is that there is no balance. If a man wants to keep a kid and the woman wants an abortion it's " Tough luck nikka" but if he doesn't want the kid and she decided to keep it it's " Tough luck nikka". Where are the programs and assistance for men who do decide to step up to the plate. Men who step up to the plate get it worse than men who are triffling deadbeats. That's a problem. You need to blame the stupid nikkas who think they are allow to be deadbeats because the woman makes the final decision bullshyt. They are making a bad name for men like you. They tell society that men don't have to or want to take care of their kids. They don't believe you exist, therefore, there are no programs for you. I
There are plenty of men paying child support, having their wages garnished, being ordered to appear in court, or even being locked up for failure to pay child support. The government knows they exist.
Field Marshall Bradley
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I'm concluding that deadbeat dads are to blame since men are leaders
You wanna be led?
Black Women :sims:
If i know you are a thief and i invite you into my home, leave all my shyt out in the open, and go take a nap. How can i get mad when my shyt is gone?