im tired of being angry and frustrated....seriously what can I do to stop being so cynical? Im tired of being of being so angry and miserable...Im so competitive that I cant play video games anymore because I hate losing so much i contemplate breaking the controller against the wall....I really do need some mental help...so thats not even an outlet......Ill admit it, the first step is to admit u have a problem...im not crazy or nothing so my issue can be fixed i assume
I need a step by step plan...I just want to find peace... Im not looking for happiness, but just being content
what it some of the things yall do?
How to be positive? Well first off, you have to make the decision that you want something better. If you're not even willing to say that, then no amounts of motivational videos will ever change that until YOU do. That's the first step.
The second step is to realize that you're not going to go from 0-100 overnight, this is something that's going to take a bit of time. If you're the type to typically be miserable 50% of the time and positive 50% of the time, then work to get to at least 51% positive. Then 52%, 53%, and so on. Every journey begins with a single step.
Thirdly, be grateful for everything. Even the bad. Because we can never see the bigger picture while it's in the middle of being drawn. We only see it when it's completed and that's when we marvel at how incredible it can be. Same goes for life. Be proud of those hard times and struggles, because that's when you're forced to become stronger. You don't grow in times of peace, you grow in times of conflict when you're tested. And don't let something disappear be the moment in which you finally decide to appreciate something. Appreciate it NOW. Because we should never take anything for granted, especially the people in our lives that we love.
Fourth, understand the power of thinking from multiple perspectives. I get the idea of being a "realist", but that's still no excuse for being negative. C'mon now. Thinking negatively does you no good, it stresses you out and clouds your mind. Being a realist is seeing things from a factual POV. There's nothing wrong with that at all. The problem is, we're the ones who put our emotions into the mix and that's why things can get complicated. So for every negative situation, try looking on the brighter side, because there usually is one.
Fifth, make sure you know whether or not that you have depression. If you are depressed, GET HELP. Contrary to what you might think (not assuming you DO in fact, have depression, but let's say for argument's sake you do), it's not weak of you to seek out help. It's the strongest thing you could ever do, it's our egos that make us believe that we should do things on our own. But you can't carry everything on your shoulders. Not forever. Sometimes you need to ask for help, that's what family and friends are for.
Sixth, don't compare yourself to anyone else. That's a surefire way to make yourself feel depressed. People may have certain things that you don't, but you don't know what their situation is like. And unless they're either at their breaking points, had their whole life exposed or are looking for a charity case, nobody puts their woes on display. People only share what they're comfortable with sharing. So logically, why would they reveal their weaker side to the world? You're the only YOU you've got. And no matter what you lack, you've got something that's unique to you. Find things about yourself that you love, and be appreciative of that. If there are people rubbing it in your face that you lack something, don't pay them any mind, because it's usually those same people who are lacking a lot more. Focus on you, and it'll all come together.
And finally... Accept the fact that one day that you'll die, and you're really only here for an undetermined amount of time. Who knows when you'll go? Nobody does. But that shouldn't be a depressing thought... that should be motivating! Why? Because at the end of it all, all those moments meant something. That's why it's important to be so present in the moment. Because it's RIGHT NOW which matters the most. You can't do anything about the past, because that's just filled with regret and you can't do anything about the past. And you can't do anything about the future except prepare, because anything else will just scare the hell out of you and stress you out beyond belief. So you may as well live life with a smile, have fun, and look good doing it.
“You will be truly cheerful in life the day that you realize that no matter what is happening around you, being anything other than cheerful will not make it any better.”
Hope that helps.
I'm going to do this right now. I want 2016 to be a year of greatness.
stay focus hombre
