Y’all make fun of programs but that’s they need
Socialization + activity that wears them out and that’s of genuine interest. They need to be constantly challenged mentally and physically. Especially when growing up in a shytty environment, they will crave dopamine due to constantly being stressed out, on edge and uncomfortable. Disruption of the home life and community contributes to it. Saw this said the other day, what white people call “impulsivity” in us is what they call for themselves adhd, and what is “adhd” might just be general restlessness in everyone but on a continuum. Everyone in this country has neurotic ticks especially boys. Stopping the anti social behavior + a feeling of belonging + productive engagement in controlled settings will help. Especially if there is some type of meritability, social mobility and a part of something bigger than them within it to instill a sense of self esteem.
They have to let that anger and angst out. That’s why we love shyt like running and track, it gives us that dopamine and lets us feel like we can escape the bullshyt. Then when our dopamine is fulfilled physically we can utilize our mental capacity better and Vice versa
The parents have to do more than talk there has to be structure and boundaries. There’s having kids and then there’s raising kids. The world is not automatically a daycare when they leave your vicinity.
I was reading vagabond and when Musashi was about to pop his dad his dad was ready and told his ass “I know EVERYTHING about You” and it made me think parents don’t know shyt about their own kids habits or anything.