How do ya'll live with your parents after 22...

[@OffHalsted]

How to Squat in Abandoned Property

 

[Easy-E]

U have options my G...

Motel 6Bring a can of lysol thoDamn bed bugs n shyt

Hotel beds. Period. Don't even ask me how

 

[MufasaChoppa]

get your bands up lil nikka. flip a pack or somethin lil bih

i was out the house right before i turned 21

 

[who_better_than_me]

I moved out for good at age 22 but even then i never had no issues. Its all about respect. A lot of parent say you grown when you 18 but they dont really respect the transitions when its their kids. If they raised you, in there eyes your still their kid. I used to see it all the time with my friends. I was over my homegirl house one day after we gotta afternoon ckass to go out and as she's talkin to her ma, her ma was cleaning up and told her to wash the dishes. She said aight but was taking her time and picked up a magazine. Her ma said, "put that shyt down and get in their to them dishes!!! fukk that magazine!!!" She walked in their without a word like. shyt was random as shyt to me cuz a minutes before theyre talking about their day and fam and then that shyt happened.

Coudnt have been me. Especially in front of company. shyt was disrespectful. She wasnt even there to make any of them dishes. That shyt always stayed with me whenever i look at her or her ma.

That shyt all comes down to parents not really respecting you as an adult cuz they raised you or seen you grow up.

I always made sure to let any adult know that i was fukkig adult and we were equals after i turned 18. Cuz they'll test. I got a cousin whose 20 whose stepdad forces him to shave his facial hair and underarm hair. Nigguh tried to shyt with me years ago and i grew a fukking sunni beard to let him know.

 

[Gil Scott-Heroin]

I moved out for good at ate 22.but ege. Tilt en i never had no issues. Its all about respect. A lot of parent say you grown when you 18 but they dont really respect the transitions when its their kids. If they raised you, in there eyes your still their kid. I used to see it all the time with my friends. I was over my homegirl house one day after we gotta afternoon ckass to go out and as she's talkin to her ma, her ma was cleaning up and told her to wash the dishes. She said aight but was taking her time and picked up a magazine. Her ma said, "put that shyt down and get in their to them dishes!!! fukk that magazine!!!" She ealked in their without a word like. shyt was tandom as shyt to me cuz a minutes before theyre talking about theirnday and fam and then that shyt happened.

Coudnt have been me. Especially in front of company. shyt was disrespectful. She wasnt even there to make any of them dishes. That shyt always stayed with me whenever i look at her or her ma.

That shyt all comes down to parents not really respecting you as an adult cuz hey raised you or seen you grow up.
Im always maklde sure to let any adult know that i was fukkig adult and we were equals after i turned 18. Cuz they'll test. I got a cousin whose 20 whose stepdad forces him to shave his facial hair and underarm hair. Nigguh tried to shyt with me years ago and i grew a fukking sunni beard to let him know.

WHERE THE fukk THEY DO THAT AT?

shyt, it sounds like he's trying to emasculate dude. I ain't never heard a nikka getting forced to shave his underarm hair.

 

[Dreamzeedream]

I moved out for good at ate 22.but ege. Tilt en i never had no issues. Its all about respect. A lot of parent say you grown when you 18 but they dont really respect the transitions when its their kids. If they raised you, in there eyes your still their kid. I used to see it all the time with my friends. I was over my homegirl house one day after we gotta afternoon ckass to go out and as she's talkin to her ma, her ma was cleaning up and told her to wash the dishes. She said aight but was taking her time and picked up a magazine. Her ma said, "put that shyt down and get in their to them dishes!!! fukk that magazine!!!" She ealked in their without a word like. shyt was tandom as shyt to me cuz a minutes before theyre talking about theirnday and fam and then that shyt happened.

Coudnt have been me. Especially in front of company. shyt was disrespectful. She wasnt even there to make any of them dishes. That shyt always stayed with me whenever i look at her or her ma.

That shyt all comes down to parents not really respecting you as an adult cuz hey raised you or seen you grow up.
Im always maklde sure to let any adult know that i was fukkig adult and we were equals after i turned 18. Cuz they'll test. I got a cousin whose 20 whose stepdad forces him to shave his facial hair and underarm hair. Nigguh tried to shyt with me years ago and i grew a fukking sunni beard to let him know.

Why does he force him to shave??.

 

[who_better_than_me]

Why does he force him to shave??.

I have no idea. Hes not military either. I just remembered chillin with my cuz back in November and saw him growing out his facial hair (had a lil goatee) and the lil nigguh was cyse'd and then i came up for the holidays and ma'd was looking at my big beard and she told me you know your cousin was forced to cut his.

 

[who_better_than_me]

WHERE THE fukk THEY DO THAT AT?

shyt, it sounds like he's trying to emasculate dude. I ain't never heard a nikka getting forced to shave his underarm hair.

Seems a lotta older males in dc from my fathers generation have these control issue, like they hate for the next genration to have an individuality. Man im 28 now but back when i was 19 older males stayed trying to tell me shyt or do shyt their way. An older male family member once took me to the back room and tried to lecture me for an hour because i was ironing and my grandma suggested i creased my pant and i said," no thanks , that aint me.". age 18-21 had some really annoying moments like this.

 

[Straw Hat Luffy]

21 and still live with my parents op. I remember a couple months back I made a thread about how I was kicked out arguing with my step dad.
We got into a argument on how I drink to much, all I said was we all got our own things like you and your and all my friends love weed, I just love beer.
He got aggressive and then I got aggressive back because one, I was tipsy, and two he was being a dikk that entire week.
When I got kicked out my friends all said you should have just said ok, my mom said the same thing when I moved back in.
I understand I should have okay. But everyone should understand that I expressed my view in a non disrespectful way but he didn't understand that.
A lot of people in this thread who says parents still view their kids as children is true. That's how my step dad viewed me in that situation. I viewed it as we were talking and having a simple conversation, he took it as a dictatorship, as if i was 10 years old again, asking why can't stay up for another hour to watch wrestling.
I get it and appreciate that and my parents strictness.

OP don't move out just because you have some little altercations. Dealing with your parents bytching doesn't compare to the harsh real world. I mean unless they trying to throw hands or 100 percent want you gone then you should leave. But if they're just nitpicking at shyt no reason to take offense because people bytch. People who are roommates or in relationships still go through that shyt even if they pay the bills or do the best of their abilities

And don't leave just because people in this thread said they moved out at a certain age. What worked for them is not guaranteed to work for you. I know people who moved out at our age is so far doing great and then I know some who are struggling. A lot of people around my age in my area have died from overdoses, suicide, and other situations they shouldn't have been in. I know a lot of dudes who moved out simply to party 24/7 and so they can fukk any bytch they want. Yeah that's what we all wanna do but moving out simply because of that when you have no actual goal, starts a bad relationship with you and your parents, and simply because everyone you know moved out, is not the right choice.

My dad and uncle both moved out before 20, and now they both have kids out the ass and both live with their mom as grown ass men. I know some friends whos entire family lives with their grandparents still. My aunt and her kids been moving from house to house the last fifteen years. My other cousins and their mom move from house to house every 3 to 4 months.

Only move out when its time and your financially straight because if not, when your older you will move back in with them or you will be living house to house, or crashing at friends houses.

 

[Reginald Noble]

Damn I feel sorry for these nikkas.

To be honest I don't think a lot of yall parents wanted yall.

That's why I am real careful about having kids. This is not normal to hate your children and treat them like shyt.

 

[Mr.Big Meat McGee]

Seems a lotta older males in dc from my fathers generation have these control issue, like they hate for the next genration to have an individuality. Man im 28 now but back when i was 19 older males stayed trying to tell me shyt or do shyt their way. An older male family member once took me to the back room and tried to lecture me for an hour because i was ironing and my grandma sugeeste i creased my pant and i said. I thanks , that aint me.. age 18-21 had some really annoying moments like this.

I'm 18 rn living with my parents and I can confirm this rn. My parents are hella controlling... they recently forced me to cut my hair. Really gotta get my money up and get my own place cause this shyt is really starting to piss me off.

 

[Reginald Noble]

21 and still live with my parents op. I remember a couple months back I made a thread about how I was kicked out arguing with my step dad.
We got into a argument on how I drink to much, all I said was we all got our own things like you and your and all my friends love weed, I just love beer.
He got aggressive and then I got aggressive back because one, I was tipsy, and two he was being a dikk that entire week.
When I got kicked out my friends all said you should have just said ok, my mom said the same thing when I moved back in.
I understand I should have okay. But everyone should understand that I expressed my view in a non disrespectful way but he didn't understand that.
A lot of people in this thread who says parents still view their kids as children is true. That's how my step dad viewed me in that situation. I viewed it as we were talking and having a simple conversation, he took it as a dictatorship, as if i was 10 years old again, asking why can't stay up for another hour to watch wrestling.
I get it and appreciate that and my parents strictness.

OP don't move out just because you have some little altercations. Dealing with your parents bytching doesn't compare to the harsh real world. I mean unless they trying to throw hands or 100 percent want you gone then you should leave. But if they're just nitpicking at shyt no reason to take offense because people bytch. People who are roommates or in relationships still go through that shyt even if they pay the bills or do the best of their abilities

And don't leave just because people in this thread said they moved out at a certain age. What worked for them is not guaranteed to work for you. I know people who moved out at our age is so far doing great and then I know some who are struggling. A lot of people around my age in my area have died from overdoses, suicide, and other situations they shouldn't have been in. I know a lot of dudes who moved out simply to party 24/7 and so they can fukk any bytch they want. Yeah that's what we all wanna do but moving out simply because of that when you have no actual goal, starts a bad relationship with you and your parents, and simply because everyone you know moved out, is not the right choice.

My dad and uncle both moved out before 20, and now they both have kids out the ass and both live with their mom as grown ass men. I know some friends whos entire family lives with their grandparents still. My aunt and her kids been moving from house to house the last fifteen years. My other cousins and their mom move from house to house every 3 to 4 months.

Only move out when its time and your financially straight because if not, when your older you will move back in with them or you will be living house to house, or crashing at friends houses.

I think when you move out and begin to pay bills they view you as an adult finally. You can come back when times hard but getting out initially will probably change their view on you whether they like it or not. It's all about the decisions you make as well. If they see you progressing in your career and making good job moves, paying an adequate amount of expenses while you are there they have to respect your word.

Roommates aren't much better as you mentioned. When I was in college I had a couple of spoiled little CAC children I lived with in Junior year and it was like I was their Black Daddy. Couldn't clean up a room to save their lives. Thank god mice and roaches weren't really in the area otherwise I would have moved out that spot way before graduation. So I wasn't that enthusiastic to move out too quickly right after college until I got a good footing underneath me.

My Moms although she doesn't agree 100% with what I've done with my life (maybe like 85% is OK with it) she respects my decisions because I chose what is so far looking to be a good Woman and a good Career. Over time her opinion of my life decisions will eventually reach 100%. When I initially moved out her approval was probably at like 50% or less LOL. Took about 5 years to get to this approval rating. Every Mother has high hopes for their child. My Pops is far easier to please he is just glad I am with a Woman and not a Gay Man but in some ways that is more difficult because he wants a grandchild and I'm like nikka you know damn well kids cost money especially in NYC.

 

[agnosticlady]

Damn I feel sorry for these nikkas.

To be honest I don't think a lot of yall parents wanted yall.

That's why I am real careful about having kids. This is not normal to hate your children and treat them like shyt.

I keep saying.....Some of y'all are only here because your parents couldn't afford an abortion

 

[Bay Area]

I have my whole life to live by myself, I enjoy spending as much time with my fam as I can because they arent gonna be here one day

Also I live in the Bay and I wont be able to live comfortably on my own out here until I get my degree or a state job.

 

[Lo-Co]

honestly i want to graduate and build my up money first. but i dont want to stay home forever. i just try to do things that i know need to be done. the smallest things, take out the trash, do the dishes, clean the litter box, clean the bathroom, clean the couch, clean the tub
just whatever is possible to minimize the stress and to keep that anger and stress away from me.