How do you properly "cool out" a chick?

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Be honest and upfront. Otherwise, she’ll think she still has a chance, and that’s when you get the crazy behavior.

Ghosting also gets the crazy behavior.

When you simply say, “This isn’t working for me. I’m not interested. Do not contact me again,” she gets a clear message, as opposed to her thinking she can convince you she’s “good enough”.

That’s how women’s minds function. Even when she’s not that into you, if you reject her, she feels she’s not good enough. So she’ll rack her brain and think, “How can I make myself good enough?”

Maybe he just needs space

Maybe he’s just busy

Maybe he’s been heartbroken, and he’s afraid to love

This is also why I suggest men be upfront about only wanting sex. Most of the time, we know early on if we want to be serious with her, or she’s just serving another purpose.

Women are taught by other women that they can change us. Most of us know that’s not the case.

When you know, you know.

 

[Wiseborn]

I could never force myself to go the law, on a chick I was dealin wit, on that level....

aka snitchin....or doin somethin to fukk up her bag/life....

I'd expect the same from my lady/ex...

I've never heard of a dude going to the cops about his bytch working. The cops don't care. It's the same way with Lesbian abusive relationships. I know a cop who said he did many same sex DV calls; They didn't have to leave the house that they paid for like men who deal with women have to do.

 

[Wiseborn]

Be honest and upfront. Otherwise, she’ll think she still has a chance, and that’s when you get the crazy behavior.

Ghosting also gets the crazy behavior.

When you simply say, “This isn’t working for me. I’m not interested. Do not contact me again,” she gets a clear message, as opposed to her thinking she can convince you she’s “good enough”.

That’s how women’s minds function. Even when she’s not that into you, if you reject her, she feels she’s not good enough. So she’ll rack her brain and think, “How can I make myself good enough?”

Maybe he just needs space

Maybe he’s just busy

Maybe he’s been heartbroken, and he’s afraid to love

This is also why I suggest men be upfront about only wanting sex. Most of the time, we know early on if we want to be serious with her, or she’s just serving another purpose.

Women are taught by other women that they can change us. Most of us know that’s not the case.

When you know, you know.

This makes sense and this is what I'll do, I already have an out, I have to leave the country anyway. If she trips, I'll be gone anyway.

 

[Vilify]

They'll cling initially but they'll lose respect for you. A man being super nice kills attraction to women. Lack of attraction leads to distance.

It depends on the woman, her age and her past experiences. I know it goes against the coli narrative but some of these women are genuinely happy to finally land a nice guy.

 

[O.T.I.S.]

This is what I've done 75% of the time.

Facts

eventually she’ll be like:

“You don’t do things with me anymore...”

“You don’t take me nowhere...”

“You don’t talk to me..”

“You don’t invite me to things, You’re ashamed of me....”

“You’re talking to someone else (without zero evidence and usually I’m not talking to anyone)...”

Etc.,

Then I’ll be like:

“So what you trying to do then “



A passive aggressive way I know, but I’m literally not trying to cheat, I’m just bitter about shyt that has happened already and she hasn’t either owned up to it, apologized, tried to change, etc., and now I look at her differently.

I don’t hide my feelings or cheat, I just chill and go with my natural way of acting. Some girls try to hold on and make it work and thats cool, but now that I don’t give af as much as I used to, they usually catch on and feel like it’s better for them to end it on their terms.

and usually I be like “ok” because I’ve already checked out. It avoids all drama because they end it on their terms.

relationships... I’m all in but if you repeatedly do dumb shyt I’m not going to tell you I wanna leave, you will know it. Up to her if she wants to fix it or not.

but i never had nobody slashing my tires and shyt. Not yet in my 30+ years of dating. The chick usually has nothing bad to say about me

 

[Wiseborn]

It depends on the woman, her age and her past experiences. I know it goes against the coli narrative but some of these women are genuinely happy to finally land a nice guy.

This because I have serial relationships once I know it ain't going anywhere I want to leave, but usually especially if she's 30 or older If ain't nothing wrong with you she'll want you to wife, but if you won't wife she won't press you so as not to drive you away.

I figure giving her the shove is better at year two than year 15.

 

[G.O.A.T Squad Spokesman]

It depends on the woman, her age and her past experiences. I know it goes against the coli narrative but some of these women are genuinely happy to finally land a nice guy.

I've never seen a super nice guy be the leader of his household and never get cheated on.

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Be honest.​

Saves a LOT more drama than some scheme and you leave yourself available to use her at a later time with no 'bad blood' between you.​

 

[Strapped]

Expect slander and a whole lotta bs op

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

when you lay down the law from the get-go you never have to be scared of being honest with her. Just tell it like it is, no mind games. She'll respect you more for it even through the hurt

 

[Blankthawtz]

OP just play her this song...

 

[Max Power]

It's crazy, dudes here all trying to be nice and courteous while when it's time for women to end their shyt, they set up their new situation, drop you without a seconds hesitation and then tell everybody it was your fault

 

[⠀X ⠀]

Just pee in her bed a couple of times. If she doesn’t outright break up with you, it’ll definitely go over smoother when you break up with her

 

[Vilify]

Just pee in her bed a couple of times. If she doesn’t outright break up with you, it’ll definitely go over smoother when you break up with her

Hopefully you not speaking from personal experience

 

[CodeBlaMeVi]

How do you properly cool out a chick that you had a long term relationship with? i.e avoiding getting windows busted, tires flattened clothes burned when giving her the news that will blow her fuse?

Generally I try to get her to break up with me using the old It's not you it's me.

How do you have drama free break ups?

I want to hear from brehettes too

Be willing to call the cops and get them locked up.

They’ll mess up my life so have no issue returning the favor if they want to play. I’m pressing full charges with no worries or cares. I work for mine.