How hard is a real relationship supposed to be?

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My relationship is pretty transparent and I am around my girl a lot. We live together. We've both had problems with abuse and partying. However we met when were both both doing well and secure.

2 years later, things are generally good but sometimes my girl goes off about seemingly nothing. She screamed at me because she had the hiccups the other day. shyt like this happens every other week.

Clown me if you want. She pays most of the billsn while I pay for most of the fun we have. I cook and clean. All this while steadily growing my own business. She finally breaks down and says she needs me to make more money.

Now, I wanna add that even with all the stuff I said I do, I've actually had traditional day jobs here and there that she asked me to quit because I was never around.

Anyway, my girl gets piss drunk and spazzes but when she sober, everything is seemingly ok. She cries when she faded and says I'm too good for her, but straight...constantly tells me im the best bf ever.

Is this normal stuff that I need to man up about, or am I playing myself by staying with her? I mostly know how I want to handle this, but O figured I'd ask for other perspectives cuz all I ever really do here is post goofy stuff.
 

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You need to sit down with her and figure out yalls future.
Cuz right now it seems y'all are at a crossroad involving money and that shyt will not get better.

You mentioned you have a business. Is it growing? Whats the ceiling for potential? Whats the expected time period for when you will start breaking even/making a profit? The answers to these questions are important because this is how you will have to present them your chick.
 

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My relationship is pretty transparent and I am around my girl a lot. We live together. We've both had problems with abuse and partying. However we met when were both both doing well and secure.

2 years later, things are generally good but sometimes my girl goes off about seemingly nothing. She screamed at me because she had the hiccups the other day. shyt like this happens every other week.

Clown me if you want. She pays most of the billsn while I pay for most of the fun we have. I cook and clean. All this while steadily growing my own business. She finally breaks down and says she needs me to make more money.

Now, I wanna add that even with all the stuff I said I do, I've actually had traditional day jobs here and there that she asked me to quit because I was never around.

Anyway, my girl gets piss drunk and spazzes but when she sober, everything is seemingly ok. She cries when she faded and says I'm too good for her, but straight...constantly tells me im the best bf ever.

Is this normal stuff that I need to man up about, or am I playing myself by staying with her? I mostly know how I want to handle this, but O figured I'd ask for other perspectives cuz all I ever really do here is post goofy stuff.



You're brave for sharing your story breh :to:
 

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My relationship is pretty transparent and I am around my girl a lot. We live together. We've both had problems with abuse and partying. However we met when were both both doing well and secure.

2 years later, things are generally good but sometimes my girl goes off about seemingly nothing. She screamed at me because she had the hiccups the other day. shyt like this happens every other week.

Clown me if you want. She pays most of the billsn while I pay for most of the fun we have. I cook and clean. All this while steadily growing my own business. She finally breaks down and says she needs me to make more money.

Now, I wanna add that even with all the stuff I said I do, I've actually had traditional day jobs here and there that she asked me to quit because I was never around.

Anyway, my girl gets piss drunk and spazzes but when she sober, everything is seemingly ok. She cries when she faded and says I'm too good for her, but straight...constantly tells me im the best bf ever.

Is this normal stuff that I need to man up about, or am I playing myself by staying with her? I mostly know how I want to handle this, but O figured I'd ask for other perspectives cuz all I ever really do here is post goofy stuff.


no such thing as a perfect relationships. And women will be women, if they want to fight with you or get angry at you even the littleness thing will set them off.

If you've been together for 2 years and truly care then try counselling. I used to laugh at counselling and ish but it helps having a mediator, or actually being able to get your point across .

Get rid of the alcohol, and you shouldn't have quit that job its typical women

you work to much hours = your never around
you don't work alot = you need to make more money, or i need my space
 

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fukk that.
Why would you get into a relationship that would stress you out.
Remember it's your choice, you're choosing right now to make your life harder staying with her.
You're not married, you can leave at any time. You don't owe that bytch nothing breh.
 
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.fukk i deleted both of the response posts in this dbl. Sorry y'all. I appreciate the feed back. :snoop:
 
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you make her sound bipolar. i can't tell if you're exaggerating or being honest. either way, you shouldn't have quit your job just because she asked. what type of shyt is that?
Im being honest and i honestly have thought maybe she is bipolar. I have a receptive personality that seems to attract people like that. And part of the reason I agreed to quit those jobs was because it gave me more time to focus on researching, building my brand, and learning to code.
 

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I don't know about normal, but it isn't a healthy relationship. Your girl still has issues and you may do too. Y'all should both go get help and try and be drug free. Why are y'all still getting faded? How old are y'all? If you guys have children together, do you still plan on getting faded?

Also, you will never win giving up things for your chick... not for yourself and nort for her. She complained that you didn't see her enough because of work so you leave your job. Then she complains that you don't bring in enough money. You shouldn't have left your job in the first place and tell her to go find a hobby or something.

People may view arguing as normal in relationships, but in my opinion I believe it is verbal abuse and arguing isn't a place within healthy, positive relationships.

Y'all also need to address why y'all do drugs.. most likely some deep rooted issues that y'all haven't healed from.
 

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Ask her what's really up, cut back on partying. Find out why her need for more money is causing her to act this way.
 
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