sounds like a alcoholic. if yall are having money problems already, might not work out in the long run. that's all a bytch cares about.., keep thinking she's loyal 
How hard is a real relationship supposed to be?
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It doesn't really sound all that bad. People around here don't think people in relationships should ever argue. It's going to happen good girl or not.
From what you said it sounds like she works a lot and pays all the bills. So she may be feeling too much pressure and like you need to contribute financially. Finances can bring out the worse in people especially when it's unbalanced and you aren't married. She's probably super stressed about money and the frustration comes out when she's drunk, in other words when her inhibitions are lowered. It really doesn't sound like there's other things going on unless there's actual emotional abuse that you're not telling us about.
Yes this is normal. When a partner feels like they do more than the other, people feel used or manipulated, tired and panicky. You may feel that way if you are doing all the cleaning and she doesn't help. This is normal. You have to find a way to take some pressure off, to make her feel like the world isn't on her shoulders while still staying true to your needs as well.
From what you said it sounds like she works a lot and pays all the bills. So she may be feeling too much pressure and like you need to contribute financially. Finances can bring out the worse in people especially when it's unbalanced and you aren't married. She's probably super stressed about money and the frustration comes out when she's drunk, in other words when her inhibitions are lowered. It really doesn't sound like there's other things going on unless there's actual emotional abuse that you're not telling us about.
Yes this is normal. When a partner feels like they do more than the other, people feel used or manipulated, tired and panicky. You may feel that way if you are doing all the cleaning and she doesn't help. This is normal. You have to find a way to take some pressure off, to make her feel like the world isn't on her shoulders while still staying true to your needs as well.
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I think it's stress, too. That's why I'm focused on being level headed.
Paying a bills late sometimes isn't really money problems. That's typical for most Americans. We never go without. I think we just need to reevaluate our priorities as we move into our 30s.sounds like a alcoholic. if yall are having money problems already, might not work out in the long run. that's all a bytch cares about.., keep thinking she's loyal
listen man, as soon as a woman complains about the money you make... your relationship has a clock ticking over it. is not a feeling that's going to go away for her. maybe she'll hide it, but it'll always be there nagging at her breh. just be prepared for the worst
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People on the board have met me you dumb ass.They've seen me in TinyChat too. Try again
Now lets get back to your White girlfriend who doesn't respect you and who's snorting away her money so she needs you to make more.
why are you throwing rocks at a god? Go sit down somewhere.
A god?
Your girl emotionally abuses you and you are asking should you just lay down and take it. A god? I think not. You said a WW with an substance abuse problem was perfect even though she rather you make more money rather than have you stop spending on here habit. Someone should go in on you.
But you're right the servers are too fukk up to go back and forth. Good luck.
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not true at all. why are y'all so doom and gloom trying to scare this man. all they need to do is change something thats happening now. things are fixable in most situations.
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you guys sound pretty normal. you've been through abuse before...would you say you feel emotionally abused at times?
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anything short of making more money isn't going to solve anything.
my cousin just went thru this.. dated the same woman for years, but she always complained about the money he made.. it ended up being the end of the relationship. women always keep a mans income in the back of their mind. anyone thinking different is a damn fool
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Almost never feel that way. I normally feel lucky. She's not normally opinionated and clearly looks up to me. It's almost only when she drinks too much. I'm bad at being supportive of her dialing it back because I'm a pretty happy and casual drinker.
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Don't listen to these guys saying you need to break then. People get frustrated at times in a relationship and these guys don't understand that two humans who decide to be together can get upset every once in awhile. Alcohol will bring out anyone's gripes; it's the nature of the substance. If it sounds reasonable, talk to her about it when she's sober. Ask her how she's feeling. She'll ask you too because you made the gesture to talk about what's going on inside. After that you can bring up that you notice she has more concerns when she drinks. Anything to bring out the conversation and get it started. You guys sound pretty open and healthy. Don't be afraid of conflict. Remember you're a person living with another person. Conflict is natural and has a resolution.
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There may be other things going on in that situation. Finances usually cause problems if people are struggling or people feel like they are being overworked with no benefits or empathy from their partner. Consider that woman may have some deep rooted issues with struggling financially as well like if she grew up poor and hungry or lacking some type of basic security like a safe home or electricity or clothing. It's not an excuse but just a reason to understand that it's not all women. Otherwise if she was just superficial that's shytty.