How is it that women are able to move on so quickly?

[Lithe]

I'm a woman, but I'm more like a man in terms of how I handle the ending of relationships. I take it very hard (because I love very hard) and it always takes me a while to move on. I have to do healing from the loss of that person, and then healing on myself, because it's easy to beat yourself up thinking you weren't good enough, or whatever.

I don't do all this plan A, B, C shhhh. If I'm with you, I'm with you and you're the only one I actually want to be with, or else I'd just be single. Which is why I'm almost always single! Why? Because this way I can get to know several guys and form some kind of bond without having to worry (I've dated insecure men in the past... No thanks, too much unnecessary drama, but it's women like the plan A, B, C that helped make them this way) that my man is going to be mad/want to start an argument. I'm really a loner although I have plenty of people to talk to. I just take relationships very seriously and I'm faithful until the very end. Acquaintances are many, friends are few, and the person with whom I'm in love will always be one.

But I have witnessed chicks having a good man and they still have guys there to be there "just in case." They lack the ability to feel complete without a man. I don't look to a man to complete me, but I do wish to be complemented (compliments are nice also) by a man! That's the difference between me and most women I've met so far. Any time a guy has ever offered me the "just in case" position, I cut all ties. I'm not your backup. That's disrespectful to the relationship a person is in, and really to the individual. It also shows that someone doesn't have much faith in their relationship if they need other people hanging around for validation, and that's not any kind of romance or relationship for me. People really don't understand this, though, so I'm "weird' because I don't go looking for attention or feeding too much into the attention I do get.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Women are always plotting their next move. There was a study from a year or two ago that said 1/2 of MARRIED WOMEN had already picked their backup plan. 1/5 MARRIED WOMEN have already talked about it with the other brother! Now, imagine how many GFs out there are gassing some dude at work on the side. They might not make a move, but they're always leaving doors open. The BBD is real

Second, I can't find the article from about 10-15 years ago but married women are also squirreling away money so they can buy shyt without their husband's approval or walk out. My moms bought my first car (nothing special) with money she had hidden away cause my dad said hell no!

By the time your woman comes to you talking about leaving, she's already had the plans in motion for months or years. Might as well let her go and hope she doesn't take too much with her.

That's not a good relationship. If I were married my money is my wife's money and vice versa.

Finances is one of the problems many relationships fail.

 

[SheWantTheD]

women are always keeping those friend zoned guys at bay or their inboxes flooded with thirsty as dudes who are ready and willing to fill that gap with the quickness. Most guys give up their females just for one and it doesn't work in the end and you know like I know how dry it gets when you don't have someone and try to get at females...there's always games and when you're in a relationship there's females ready and waiting. smdh

This is very true. How many memes, YouTube comedy sketch videos, vine videos etc are about some chick going off on her dude for liking some chick's picture? When chicks got dudes sending them dik pics and sh in their DMs.

How many chicks on instagram never post a picture of their boyfriend? Fuk they do that for?! Oh wait I already know...

How many times I see a chick post a pic of food she ate on a date but you never see the dude?! This is why I have a love and hate relationship with the internet and social media.

 

[Giselle]

Because she been done over it, breh. Women be still in relationships looking at the exit door like

Men love hard
Women love often

Plus, women are checked out mentally a loooong time before things are officially over

Males do that as well from what I've heard/seen.

I think everyone does that actually. You stop liking the person before you dump them. You make sure that you don't have any feelings left.

 

[Soon]

This is very true. How many memes, YouTube comedy sketch videos, vine videos etc are about some chick going off on her dude for liking some chick's picture? When chicks got dudes sending them dik pics and sh in their DMs.

How many chicks on instagram never post a picture of their boyfriend? Fuk they do that for?! Oh wait I already know...

How many times I see a chick post a pic of food she ate on a date but you never see the dude?! This is why I have a love and hate relationship with the internet and social media.

A lot of Women want guys that make them smile and gives them attention, not guys who make them happy and feel loved.

They rather smiling over happiness, they rather attention over love. Why do you think most guys never go the love route?

If you ending up wifing this type of chick, you deserve everything you get. Cause so many other guys have already slutted her out.

 

[SheWantTheD]

I'm a woman, but I'm more like a man in terms of how I handle the ending of relationships. I take it very hard (because I love very hard) and it always takes me a while to move on. I have to do healing from the loss of that person, and then healing on myself, because it's easy to beat yourself up thinking you weren't good enough, or whatever.

I don't do all this plan A, B, C shhhh. If I'm with you, I'm with you and you're the only one I actually want to be with, or else I'd just be single. Which is why I'm almost always single! Why? Because this way I can get to know several guys and form some kind of bond without having to worry (I've dated insecure men in the past... No thanks, too much unnecessary drama, but it's women like the plan A, B, C that helped make them this way) that my man is going to be mad/want to start an argument. I'm really a loner although I have plenty of people to talk to. I just take relationships very seriously and I'm faithful until the very end. Acquaintances are many, friends are few, and the person with whom I'm in love will always be one.

But I have witnessed chicks having a good man and they still have guys there to be there "just in case." They lack the ability to feel complete without a man. I don't look to a man to complete me, but I do wish to be complemented (compliments are nice also) by a man! That's the difference between me and most women I've met so far. Any time a guy has ever offered me the "just in case" position, I cut all ties. I'm not your backup. That's disrespectful to the relationship a person is in, and really to the individual. It also shows that someone doesn't have much faith in their relationship if they need other people hanging around for validation, and that's not any kind of romance or relationship for me. People really don't understand this, though, so I'm "weird' because I don't go looking for attention or feeding too much into the attention I do get.

Nah you aren't an anomaly or some sort of exception. There are a lot of women like this, and maybe some not by choice if they aren't that attractive or they don't have the skills to lead on multiple men at a time. I was curved recently by a chick I was dating, and it definitely seemed like it was because there was another dude in the picture. I wasn't just a jumpoff, we actually dated and I know most chicks won't drop a chill dude (especially as one as sexy as I am ;) lol) unless they got another dude on deck. Anyways, she was giving me the hot and cold so I was like ight she must have lost interest, so I backed off completely.

Then she wanna start chasing me but I still wasn't having it thinking she just liked the attention I gave her. When the school semester was almost over I was like what the heck, I'll give this chick a second chance but she on probation. We went on another date and everything was cool. She invited me back to her place and I tried to get it on but she wasn't having it mind you this chick probably wanted the D pretty early on but she wasn't that straightforward with it. She initiated touching and would always tell me she's cold like she want me to snuggle up with her. I'm not a public display of affection dude so I was like nah fuk it in my mind.

Winter break rolls around and she lives in another state so I can only contact her via text, etc. This chick straight goes ghost on me, then hits me with the friend-zone when I try flirting with her over text. I said hell no and that she might as well lose my number (I didn't mean that 2nd part but she ain't hesitate). I ran into her on campus when the new semester starts and it's pretty late like after 7, and she asks me where I was coming from in a way like she thought I was just blowing some chick's back out. This chick ain't want nothing to do with me, was never my girl, but she hates the thought of me being with another chick...

I don't know why I wrote all this lol. I was really feeling this chick and thought we had something special.. I still think about this chick at least once every day

Oh yeah well I'm pretty similar in that if I fall hard I fall hard. I don't have it in me yet to fuk random chicks I find physically attractive but don't see myself in a relationship with. Maybe if I get done wrong by more women the savage in me will come out. But yeah there are a lot of girls in college that are like you. A lot of them virgins, don't really have dudes hitting them up like that etc.

 

[SheWantTheD]

A lot of Women want guys that make them smile and gives them attention, not guys who make them happy and feel loved.

They rather smiling over happiness, they rather attention over love. Why do you think most guys never go the love route?

If you ending up wifing this type of chick, you deserve everything you get. Cause so many other guys have already slutted her out.

what type of chick? instagram attention hos?

 

[Soon]

what type of chick? instagram attention hos?

If you meet a chick, and she responds to charm and attention, and to not personality and affection...you got another one.

Most guys see these traits, they just don't understand the psychology.

Even Vivica A. Fox admitted that she never found love and is old & single cause he was going after guys for superficial reasons like he makes her smile and gives her attention. While Angela Bassett has been married for 20 years.

If you see a women has a bird brain, you deserve everything you get if you even entertain a 5 minute conversation with her...most likely her body count is approaching triple digits.

I avoid these types of shallow and superficial women. They belong to the streets.

 

[Greenhornet]

women are just for creating ...problems and solutions

 

[Lithe]

Nah you aren't an anomaly or some sort of exception. There are a lot of women like this, and maybe some not by choice if they aren't that attractive or they don't have the skills to lead on multiple men at a time. I was curved recently by a chick I was dating, and it definitely seemed like it was because there was another dude in the picture. I wasn't just a jumpoff, we actually dated and I know most chicks won't drop a chill dude (especially as one as sexy as I am ;) lol) unless they got another dude on deck. Anyways, she was giving me the hot and cold so I was like ight she must have lost interest, so I backed off completely.

Then she wanna start chasing me but I still wasn't having it thinking she just liked the attention I gave her. When the school semester was almost over I was like what the heck, I'll give this chick a second chance but she on probation. We went on another date and everything was cool. She invited me back to her place and I tried to get it on but she wasn't having it mind you this chick probably wanted the D pretty early on but she wasn't that straightforward with it. She initiated touching and would always tell me she's cold like she want me to snuggle up with her. I'm not a public display of affection dude so I was like nah fuk it in my mind.

Winter break rolls around and she lives in another state so I can only contact her via text, etc. This chick straight goes ghost on me, then hits me with the friend-zone when I try flirting with her over text. I said hell no and that she might as well lose my number (I didn't mean that 2nd part but she ain't hesitate). I ran into her on campus when the new semester starts and it's pretty late like after 7, and she asks me where I was coming from in a way like she thought I was just blowing some chick's back out. This chick ain't want nothing to do with me, was never my girl, but she hates the thought of me being with another chick...

I don't know why I wrote all this lol. I was really feeling this chick and thought we had something special.. I still think about this chick at least once every day

Oh yeah well I'm pretty similar in that if I fall hard I fall hard. I don't have it in me yet to fuk random chicks I find physically attractive but don't see myself in a relationship with. Maybe if I get done wrong by more women the savage in me will come out. But yeah there are a lot of girls in college that are like you. A lot of them virgins, don't really have dudes hitting them up like that etc.

I honestly just don't care to lead multiple men on at once, because I invest emotionally and mentally first. Hell, it's difficult enough for me to trust even one... I wouldn't entertain the thought of many, and I'm not into pretending I feel any way that I don't. I just don't have time for that nonsense. It's not a game to me, and I don't like when that's been done to me--to just be there "as backup." I don't like playing games with peoples' emotions/trust and it's very disrespectful to think it's all fun and games. I just believe that if someone offers you a piece of their time/effort/energy, you need to respect that. Be straightforward and intentional.

I don't care who you are, what you look like, how many dudes/girls hit you up all day... You can be replaced. Matter of fact, if you think it's cool to play with someone like that, and keep them around as a "just in case," you deserve to be replaced because you're keeping them from someone who could truly value them and have a real relationship with them. I don't buy into this whole lifestyle that nobody wants to settle down, everyone wants options all the time. Maybe for a season, yes. But eventually, I think more people than not, would like to be with that "special someone."

As for that chick, she seems like she's immature, honestly, and just loves the attention. I'm very much a "one and done" type of woman. You have one chance (if you gain my trust) to show me that we could work... Don't mess it up, because I will cut you off indefinitely. Every single time this has happened, the guy has come back and every single time, I have let him know that I value myself, my time and my heart too much to invest anymore energy in someone who's not willing to give me the same in return. I am in college, and I am a virgin, I do get a lot of attention, but that's not an issue. I just don't care for superficial ties, so I don't even waste my time entertaining a man who I wouldn't seriously be in a relationship with. No thank you!

 

[SheWantTheD]

I honestly just don't care to lead multiple men on at once, because I invest emotionally and mentally first. Hell, it's difficult enough for me to trust even one... I wouldn't entertain the thought of many, and I'm not into pretending I feel any way that I don't. I just don't have time for that nonsense. It's not a game to me, and I don't like when that's been done to me--to just be there "as backup." I don't like playing games with peoples' emotions/trust and it's very disrespectful to think it's all fun and games. I just believe that if someone offers you a piece of their time/effort/energy, you need to respect that. Be straightforward and intentional.

I don't care who you are, what you look like, how many dudes/girls hit you up all day... You can be replaced. Matter of fact, if you think it's cool to play with someone like that, and keep them around as a "just in case," you deserve to be replaced because you're keeping them from someone who could truly value them and have a real relationship with them. I don't buy into this whole lifestyle that nobody wants to settle down, everyone wants options all the time. Maybe for a season, yes. But eventually, I think more people than not, would like to be with that "special someone."

As for that chick, she seems like she's immature, honestly, and just loves the attention. I'm very much a "one and done" type of woman. You have one chance (if you gain my trust) to show me that we could work... Don't mess it up, because I will cut you off indefinitely. Every single time this has happened, the guy has come back and every single time, I have let him know that I value myself, my time and my heart too much to invest anymore energy in someone who's not willing to give me the same in return. I am in college, and I am a virgin, I do get a lot of attention, but that's not an issue. I just don't care for superficial ties, so I don't even waste my time entertaining a man who I wouldn't seriously be in a relationship with. No thank you!

Damn. I bet if I saw you on campus and tried to holla you'd probably flake or ignore my text messages thinking I'm a fuk boy. But in actuality I approach girls on campus but not that much cause of insecurities, fear of rejection, and I get all up in my mind. I get numbers but the girls end up not texting me back lol. I wasn't really feeling most of those chicks though, only approaching them for practice with talking to women.

 

[Lithe]

Damn. I bet if I saw you on campus and tried to holla you'd probably flake or ignore my text messages thinking I'm a fuk boy. But in actuality I approach girls on campus but not that much cause of insecurities, fear of rejection, and I get all up in my mind. I get numbers but the girls end up not texting me back lol. I wasn't really feeling most of those chicks though, only approaching them for practice with talking to women.

Why would I do that? You can talk to someone and get to know them, without playing mind games. Doesn't mean they aren't a cool person... I'm saying, don't play with someone's emotions once you know there's something more than "this person is cool to talk to." Be intentional. If you talk and y'all hit it off, explore that. But don't be "on" one day, then "off" the next. That's annoying and childish. I don't understand why men and women can't just talk to each other as individuals and human beings who both might enjoy companionship from the other. It doesn't always have to lead to anything romantic or sexual. That's where people end up getting it wrong a lot of times and end up missing out on what could be a great relationship, although platonic. There's levels to this.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Why would I do that? You can talk to someone and get to know them, without playing mind games. Doesn't mean they aren't a cool person... I'm saying, don't play with someone's emotions once you know there's something more than "this person is cool to talk to." Be intentional. If you talk and y'all hit it off, explore that. But don't be "on" one day, then "off" the next. That's annoying and childish. I don't understand why men and women can't just talk to each other as individuals and human beings who both might enjoy companionship from the other. It doesn't always have to lead to anything romantic or sexual. That's where people end up getting it wrong a lot of times and end up missing out on what could be a great relationship, although platonic. There's levels to this.

Yeah you right, I'm just kinda jaded from all the girls that flaked, played hard to get, games etc.

 

[Lithe]

Yeah you right, I'm just kinda jaded from all the girls that flaked, played hard to get, games etc.

I understand, been there before and it's easy to become jaded.

You just have to guard your heart and watch the signs to see if she's worth that investment or not. If not, back out.

 

[AB Ziggy]

I honestly just don't care to lead multiple men on at once, because I invest emotionally and mentally first. Hell, it's difficult enough for me to trust even one... I wouldn't entertain the thought of many, and I'm not into pretending I feel any way that I don't. I just don't have time for that nonsense. It's not a game to me, and I don't like when that's been done to me--to just be there "as backup." I don't like playing games with peoples' emotions/trust and it's very disrespectful to think it's all fun and games. I just believe that if someone offers you a piece of their time/effort/energy, you need to respect that. Be straightforward and intentional.

I don't care who you are, what you look like, how many dudes/girls hit you up all day... You can be replaced. Matter of fact, if you think it's cool to play with someone like that, and keep them around as a "just in case," you deserve to be replaced because you're keeping them from someone who could truly value them and have a real relationship with them. I don't buy into this whole lifestyle that nobody wants to settle down, everyone wants options all the time. Maybe for a season, yes. But eventually, I think more people than not, would like to be with that "special someone."

As for that chick, she seems like she's immature, honestly, and just loves the attention. I'm very much a "one and done" type of woman. You have one chance (if you gain my trust) to show me that we could work... Don't mess it up, because I will cut you off indefinitely. Every single time this has happened, the guy has come back and every single time, I have let him know that I value myself, my time and my heart too much to invest anymore energy in someone who's not willing to give me the same in return. I am in college, and I am a virgin, I do get a lot of attention, but that's not an issue. I just don't care for superficial ties, so I don't even waste my time entertaining a man who I wouldn't seriously be in a relationship with. No thank you!

You're a rare case I never encounter these days on my campus. Why aren't there any broads like you.