How to get over crush on a friend brehs

[Ashley Banks]

Rhymes with Bill Burr.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

what if she’s a good friend she just don’t want to hump you?

This is a one in a million type scenario you are discussing here. I guess in this rare instance maybe the friendship is actually a true friendship but it's likely not.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

aint you married?

Sounds like the husband lost too but that's their business

I'm joking, good for y'all

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

I know that, I literally said I asked the question outside of the ops post. what is your problem, nobody said you had to respond to me. The point of a thread is to have a discussion people change topics all the time in threads, if you don’t like it ignore me. It’s simple but I’m still going to ask questions.

I dont mind having discussions. I just don't like when yall women do all the whataboutism and refuse to acknowledge valid points like you seem to be doing right now.

Every question you asked, I answered and you're not even willing to try to see it from a man's pov

I get that women innately stay on code with one another in these kinds of situations but at least try to look at what we're saying. I really broke it down if you reread what I said.

 

[Flywin Lannister]

but you would really stop being friends with a girl just because she isn’t interested in you like that?

Obviously

it is not “just” it is the foundation of the relationship:

one wants friendship
one does not want friendship

That is like

One team mate wants to play like a team
The other wants to play a solo sport

A friendship is based on the mutual understanding of mutual interests and goals: friendship

A relationship is based on the mutual understanding of pursuing and interest in romance/sex

When one wants something totally different, there is no more friendship. There is a friend (a real one) and a scorned person who feels rejected

 

[Ashley Banks]

This is a one in a million type scenario you are discussing here. I guess in this rare instance maybe the friendship is actually a true friendship but it's likely not.

I don’t think it’s that rare, I doubt a female is hanging around a guy she doesn’t like, like that just to be around him. I’m talking a simp situation just plain old friends.

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

Obviously

it is not “just” it is the foundation of the relationship:

one wants friendship
one does not want friendship

That is like

One team mate wants to play like a team
The other wants to play a solo sport

A friendship is based on the mutual understanding of mutual interests and goals: friendship

A relationship is based on the mutual understanding of pursuing and interest in romance/sex

When one wants something totally different, there is no more friendship. There is a friend (a real one) and a scorned person who feels rejected

And more to the point, in a case like this it's not out of the ordinary for the man and woman to be using each other. The man or woman might want sex and the other man or woman might want to string the other along so to either have that person on standby in case their relationship falls apart of for various other reasons unrelated to relationships/sex..

It's damn near impossible for it to be 100% friendship from both parties. Don't let anyone try to spin it, it's rare that the friendship is legit when it's opposite sex.

 

[Ashley Banks]

Obviously

it is not “just” it is the foundation of the relationship:

one wants friendship
one does not want friendship

That is like

One team mate wants to play like a team
The other wants to play a solo sport

A friendship is based on the mutual understanding of mutual interests and goals: friendship

A relationship is based on the mutual understanding of pursuing and interest in romance/sex

When one wants something totally different, there is no more friendship. There is a friend (a real one) and a scorned person who feels rejected

That makes sense, I guess I just don’t get why you can’t just get over it if you like that persons friendship enough to want more why isn’t worth still trying to be friends with them?

 

[shopthatwrecks]

deleting this thread..

u will come back to it everytime u get a response or quote... n memories of her will pop up..

 

[Saysumthinfunnymike]

just plain old friends.

what does that mean in on your end? What do you and your guy friends do? Do you hangout? Is your husband cool with the other guy going to dinner with you? Do y'all text? Do y'all text or chat and your husband is right there?

I really do think it's rare.

 

[Ashley Banks]

I dont mind having discussions. I just don't like when yall women do all the whataboutism and refuse to acknowledge valid points like you seem to be doing right now.

Every question you asked, I answered and you're not even willing to try to see it from a man's pov

I get that women innately stay on code with one another in these kinds of situations but at least try to look at what we're saying. I really broke it down if you reread what I said.

I read what you said, I still don’t see the point in losing a friend because you have feelings for them. I guess I just value friendship differently.

 

[Amare's Right Hook]

Talking to other men.

 

[Dwolf]

What the best way

Flirt with them a lot. If they don't like you like that it will be weird and they will distance themselves from you.

 

[Ashley Banks]

what does that mean in on your end? What do you and your guy friends do? Do you hangout? Is your husband cool with the other guy going to dinner with you? Do y'all text? Do y'all text or chat and your husband is right there?

I really do think it's rare.

He’s friends with my husband too and we have a group chat with some other friends, I don’t usually text him outside of the chat unless I need to ask him something specifically.

We send each other memes on IG throughout the day though, we’ve only gone out to eat together once but he said I eat too slow so we never did it again, we have the same taste in movies and shows (psychological thrillers/horror) so we talk a lot about shows and movies we like. You know, normal friend stuff.

 

[Dwolf]

I read what you said, I still don’t see the point in losing a friend because you have feelings for them. I guess I just value friendship differently.

How many friends you got that you have feelings for?