Actually6Foot3
Veteran
i find it interesting how this is the conclusion people come to.
that he must think hes better than others because he doesnt act the same way you do
How to stop being aloof and distant?
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i find it interesting how this is the conclusion people come to.
that he must think hes better than others because he doesnt act the same way you dojust based off son's postsi find it interesting how this is the conclusion people come to.
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if changing is an option you aren't emotionally detached
you just aren't good at communicating/managing emotions
i live with it because i know i am only truly responsible for my own emotions
i am not responsible for others lack of emotional intelligence
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you just aren't good at communicating/managing emotions
i live with it because i know i am only truly responsible for my own emotions
i am not responsible for others lack of emotional intelligence
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MoroccanBoy
Madness
i find it interesting how this is the conclusion people come to.
Thats the conclusion people come to in real life when you are trying to speak to someone and they are blanking you and being aloof. Plus op admitted to that himself. Got nothing to do with acting differently than to how I or anyone else acts.
Solo ✧✦✧
King of the eXoticals. "FIRsT and LAst wARNiNg"
Well first off you're not an a$$hole because you're not some friendly positive dude that people want to run to for entertainment and to help them feel better about themselves. I don't get why people call themselves a$$holes and think they're in the wrong because of potential flaws they have when they're trying to correct these potential flaws. Just because someone appears arrogant or like they're not interested in people doesn't mean they're bad people or they should change. There are plenty of social extroverted dikkheads in society. A lot of people like to control others and force them into being what they want you to be and trying to fit into what others want isn't a good way to live. Making some adjustments is cool and I support fixing your flaws instead of ignoring them but don't place people on too high of a pedestal.
It doesn't make sense to go from being introverted to extroverted. People are different so you're not going to get a straight answer on how to care about people more and how to increase your desire to talk to people just by asking us. The only thing that helped me improve was bettering myself so I could be more comfortable in my own skin. Being more confident in myself leads to me being in a better place mentally which leads to me being more relaxed and makes it much easier for me to interact socially. It's hard for me to care about listening to other people and worrying about their problems when I have my own problems in life or I'm not in a good place mentally at the time.
Again, we're all different so you may need a different solution to solve your issue but this is just from my perspective
It doesn't make sense to go from being introverted to extroverted. People are different so you're not going to get a straight answer on how to care about people more and how to increase your desire to talk to people just by asking us. The only thing that helped me improve was bettering myself so I could be more comfortable in my own skin. Being more confident in myself leads to me being in a better place mentally which leads to me being more relaxed and makes it much easier for me to interact socially. It's hard for me to care about listening to other people and worrying about their problems when I have my own problems in life or I'm not in a good place mentally at the time.
Again, we're all different so you may need a different solution to solve your issue but this is just from my perspective
Yaboysix
That nikka
"ALOOFNESS"... That's what they call-in it? "in my head "..
I'm all in this thread..i didn't know there were terms for the things I feel..
Breh, how you know I jack off alot? Is this shyt related? What happens when I leave the porn /meat beating alone? Lol
I'm all in this thread..i didn't know there were terms for the things I feel..
Breh, how you know I jack off alot? Is this shyt related? What happens when I leave the porn /meat beating alone? Lol
It's worrying if you also have no motivation to do things other than socialize (study, work, leisure etc.)
Not making a diagnosis (it's just one possibility), but if you generally don't feel any emotion at all in life, you might have a dopamine deficiency.
I'd take a look here and see how many symptoms you have: Low Dopamine Levels: Symptoms & Adverse Reactions
Porn addiction, like all addictions, is reliant on dopamine. Look up "Your Brain on Porn". "porn dopamine" would also be a good keyword.
Basically after so many extreme dopamine hits (like seeing more naked women than all your ancestors have in one day), you eventually need more stimulation to provide the same level of excitement. It's similar to a heroin junkie who ups their dose until they OD.
I wouldn't be surprised if you had many symptoms of a dopamine deficiency. Read here: Low Dopamine Levels: Symptoms & Adverse Reactions
Not making a diagnosis (it's just one possibility), but if you generally don't feel any emotion at all in life, you might have a dopamine deficiency.
I'd take a look here and see how many symptoms you have: Low Dopamine Levels: Symptoms & Adverse Reactions
Porn addiction, like all addictions, is reliant on dopamine. Look up "Your Brain on Porn". "porn dopamine" would also be a good keyword.
Basically after so many extreme dopamine hits (like seeing more naked women than all your ancestors have in one day), you eventually need more stimulation to provide the same level of excitement. It's similar to a heroin junkie who ups their dose until they OD.
I wouldn't be surprised if you had many symptoms of a dopamine deficiency. Read here: Low Dopamine Levels: Symptoms & Adverse Reactions
NotAnFBIagent
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I deal with just about everything on that list
El Bajo Negro
Banned
You are who you are, there is nothing that has to be changed or fixed. You not broken lol
You need to be around people who fux wit u just the way you are.
You need to be around people who fux wit u just the way you are.
Dontay Flaco
fka King Napz
You don't.
Embrace it
EVILRICO THE GREAT
Rookie
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Iceson Beckford
Rich In Spirit.
Im trying to be more aloof and distant
I deal with just about everything on that list
Sorry to hear that. Me too man. Pretty sure my dopamine levels are low after reading about it.
I did stop exercising recently, but I can't remember if it's before or after I lost motivation. Still in good shape though.
For 2018, I am being consistent with exercise, reducing sugar, taking appropriate vitamins (I will get a blood test[1]), reducing unnatural stimulation [2].
[1] I wouldn't be surprised if we both had low Vitamin D levels
Assuming you're black and live in a place with winter and/or work indoors.There's also a supplement called 'L-Tyrosine' which is converted by the body to dopamine. I'll cop that.
[2] Not just porn, but initially fapping, or even scrolling for hours on social media or constantly checking social media. Basically stay as focused as possible for as long as possible.
Pomodoro technique. 25 minutes with 100% focus, no context switching. Then 5 minutes of fukkery. Repeat.
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NoirDynosaur
Yurrrrrrrrrr
Being emotionally avoidant there's always a reason why someone ends up like that. Either it was death, childhood trauma, not having a "safe" person to share emotions with, unsupportive family, life etc.
As a child towards my early 20s, I use to be very extroverted, social and engaging. I was always in the scene talking to mad people.
After dealing with a deaths of loved ones, traumatic situations and dealing with the real world, I decided to distant myself to protect myself. Self protection meant nobody can't hurt me if I'm stone walled. Less emotions meant I could think with clarity. The times I did show emotions people tried to exploit it or they looked at me like "deer caught in the headlights" LMAO.
Being emotionally detached is a curse but also a blessing. From a neutral POV, you'll see how illogical people can act over trivial matters. As a result ,you become more observant. Just focus on being a respectful person with common courtesy. Ask questions about people if you're genuinely interested in them don't fake it. There's nothing immoral about being socially selective, you're just picky who you spend your time with. Don't be afraid of expressing the real you, there's always gonna be those whose on the same wavelength as you.
Besides, one of the best things as being a man is being rational about making decision. Too much emotion can cloud our rational thinking but being too cold will make you a robot. Everything in moderation.
As a child towards my early 20s, I use to be very extroverted, social and engaging. I was always in the scene talking to mad people.
After dealing with a deaths of loved ones, traumatic situations and dealing with the real world, I decided to distant myself to protect myself. Self protection meant nobody can't hurt me if I'm stone walled. Less emotions meant I could think with clarity. The times I did show emotions people tried to exploit it or they looked at me like "deer caught in the headlights" LMAO.
Being emotionally detached is a curse but also a blessing. From a neutral POV, you'll see how illogical people can act over trivial matters. As a result ,you become more observant. Just focus on being a respectful person with common courtesy. Ask questions about people if you're genuinely interested in them don't fake it. There's nothing immoral about being socially selective, you're just picky who you spend your time with. Don't be afraid of expressing the real you, there's always gonna be those whose on the same wavelength as you.
Besides, one of the best things as being a man is being rational about making decision. Too much emotion can cloud our rational thinking but being too cold will make you a robot. Everything in moderation.
