How would you feel if...

[onelastdeath]

Bad , but then again women don't truly fall in love. Only men fall in love.

 

[Turbulent]

why stay if you have to seek elsewhere for your basic needs?

because i'm still happy and she's still happy.

now again, why leave if i'm happy?

 

[Colicat]

because i'm still happy and she's still happy.

now again, why leave if i'm happy?[/QUOTE

Well then I guess a better question would be why are you happy with someone using you?

 

[Turbulent]

Well then I guess a better question would be why are you happy with someone using you?

because she's doing what i need her to do. she's playing her position and letting me do me without nagging me.

 

[Youseenmywork]

.... They would probably be too busy cheating to notice...

So negative... lol. Who hurt you ?

 

[Youseenmywork]

are we still fukking regularly?

even if we are the sex would probably be wack as fukk...I don't think i would do it unless she's ok we me getting some side.

EDIT: matter of fact, if i could get some side, this would probably be close to an ideal marriage...

 

[Youseenmywork]

but then every man would leave as soon as his wife's libido decreases.

the point of marriage in that case is that the man is happy because he's getting what he needs, that happiness she's helping support by playing her position is helping him maintain motivation and desire to provide for her and help her be happy as well.

Women logic sometimes is just....

 

[Colicat]

because she's doing what i need her to do. she's playing her position and letting me do me without nagging me.

You are not getting what you need if you have to search outside of your home for companionship....
It sounds like drama will be introduced because the side piece will want the lead role instead of being the understudy ....

So negative... lol. Who hurt you ?

At this stage in willing to go all in and bet that 85-90 % of coli dudes have cheated...

 

[AllHolosEve]

I'm saying feels no sexual attraction, how would you feel?

but is she still lettin me do what i want to her??? only deal breaker... my favorite trait in a female is loyalty, second appreciation... she doin both so if she never gon cheat & she gon do her job i dont give a fukk if she dont think im the most attractive...

right now i got a chick thats paid, beautiful & im in love wit but she wants me to submit, then i got a chick thats basic but she understands what i do & how i am, never judges me.... guess who i fukk wit... guess im gonna be like the scenario chick... fukk physical beauty.. i ride wit the one that gonna be there & help me build... as long as she not makin sex borin we got an understandin...

 

[Turbulent]

Women logic sometimes is just....

it's all about ego on both sides at the end of the day.

and keeping it all the way real, if i was in that situation (married to a woman not sexually attracted to me, of course my ego would probably be bruised. but if you work out an arrangement where you can still have sex with someone sexually attracted to you (to pacify your ego) and still have a good wife he besides that flaw is a good woman/wife and she's ok with all that?? shiiiiiiiiiiiieeet....

i mean it's one thing to hypothesize, maybe in the real situation i'd couldn't do it. but in theory, i think i could. Life gives you lemons, you make ice-tea

 

[Youseenmywork]

You are not getting what you need if you have to search outside of your home for companionship....
It sounds like drama will be introduced because the side piece will want the lead role instead of being the understudy ....


DAMN..... Man who the hell hurt you like for real ....was you break up that bad .
Naw I anit cheatin I'm 30 so I care more about legacy at this point. I hate lying and dudes that lie...I say this cause it has to suck with keeping up with all them lies . If I'm dating I'm dating...if I'm in a relationship I'm in a relationship.... if I'm mingling...well



At this stage in willing to go all in and bet that 85-90 % of coli dudes have cheated...

 

[Turbulent]

You are not getting what you need if you have to search outside of your home for companionship....
It sounds like drama will be introduced because the side piece will want the lead role instead of being the understudy ....

i'm getting what i need overall even if it's not all coming from her.

It sounds like drama will be introduced because the side piece will want the lead role instead of being the understudy ....

i'll play the imaginary player game.

what she wants is her business. bottom line is i'll tell her (the side) what i need and what i'm offering her. she'll either accept it or step. she could fake and scheme/sabotage but she runs the risk of getting tossed in the bushes. as long as she believes she has a shot at the number 1 spot, she'll stay.

 

[Yup]

it's all about ego on both sides at the end of the day.

and keeping it all the way real, if i was in that situation (married to a woman not sexually attracted to me, of course my ego would probably be bruised. but if you work out an arrangement where you can still have sex with someone sexually attracted to you (to pacify your ego) and still have a good wife he besides that flaw is a good woman/wife and she's ok with all that?? shiiiiiiiiiiiieeet....

i mean it's one thing to hypothesize, maybe in the real situation i'd couldn't do it. but in theory, i think i could. Life gives you lemons, you make ice-tea

The reason I made this thread is because I have found that men on the coli underestimate how physical attraction is needed on both sides. Men will say well I make this much, I hqve this title I am going to get this woman.
You will perhaps, but if she does not desire you do you really have her?
Thing is as much as some of you complained about the tendency of women getting attached and falling in love, many of you wouldn't want a cold/emotionally detached woman.

 

[Turbulent]

but is she still lettin me do what i want to her??? only deal breaker... my favorite trait in a female is loyalty, second appreciation... she doin both so if she never gon cheat & she gon do her job i dont give a fukk if she dont think im the most attractive...

right now i got a chick thats paid, beautiful & im in love wit but she wants me to submit, then i got a chick thats basic but she understands what i do & how i am, never judges me.... guess who i fukk wit... guess im gonna be like the scenario chick... fukk physical beauty.. i ride wit the one that gonna be there & help me build... as long as she not makin sex borin we got an understandin...

i've said it many times and they always critique.

Honesty
Loyalty
Obedience
Trust in me

a woman with these four traits

 

[Youseenmywork]

i'm getting what i need overall even if it's not all coming from her.

i'll play the imaginary player game.

what she wants is her business. bottom line is i'll tell her (the side) what i need and what i'm offering her. she'll either accept it or step. she could fake and scheme/sabotage but she runs the risk of getting tossed in the bushes. as long as she believes she has a shot at the number 1 spot, she'll stay.

Women's emotions vs Male logic 101