i understand how you feel but on some level i ultimately have to disagree because over time, i've stopped believing in entitlement itself. in other words, i don't think anyone is entitled to anything or "deserves" anything. life is just about options and leverage when you reduce it to the most common denominator (although at this point we'd be going on a philosophical tangent). if we keep it on this subject, I could find a girl and tell her "if you're in a relationship with me, i expect you to pay for everything, cook, clean, submit, obey, and let me disrespect you but i'm not gonna give you the same and if you're not down with that, you're

" as much of a jerk that would make me, if she's ok with it, she chose. entitlement or fairness has nothing to do with it.