I am 35 and ready to have kids ASAP, its crazy
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SupaHotIce
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Moving the goalpost because you know a lot of parents are dead insideTell them they can rewind time and change their decisions and live a different life using the knowledge they have now…
…but their children will disappear forever…
I’m pretty sure the vast majority of mentally healthy ones will turn that down.
Like I said… it’s something you have to experience to understand.
You have a generation of iPad kids because parents don't want to interact with their children
Ok. I’m going off my experience only.
If a lot of your friends/family don’t give a fukk about they kids like that I can’t argue with what you experience in your circle.
YOURE TALKING TO A WOMAN WHO NEVER HAD KIDS AND IS PAST THE AGE WHERE SHE CAN
THE ANTI KID CROWD IS GUNA BE THE ONES THAT NEVER HAD THE ENERGY, WILL, AND DETERMINATION TO TAKE THE LEAP
IIVI
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I’m seeing this a whole lot and it’s not just words/cope.
We live in a time where a woman can get a higher paying job and live “their best life” like any other dude.
warning:Paula Abdul left Emilio Estevez because she really wanted kids and he didn’t. To this day she has no kids but you can tell she’s lived quite a life. Dolly Parton, Stevie Nicks, etc. a lot of “carefree” types don’t want that element in their lives.
Exactly like men/passport bros/city boys, there are women who do the same but usually give that “world travelers/wanderers” label/vibe.
I honestly know some women who personally just hate kids as well.
Having a family just to have a family is old school culture thinking. People need to ask themselves why they want one, consider odds, what the most statistically accurate outcome would be for their child (108 billion ordinary people have come and gone in this world who’ve done nothing special), etc. before they make a child. Consider the likely outcome, not the optimal/generously optimistic outcome one.
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THIS IS EMBARRASSING
YOU LITERALLY LOOK AT YOURSELF AS LESS THAN
AND NOW U CANT DELETE THE POST BECAUSE I QUOTED IT
DAMN SHAME
The vast majority of the problems people face come from dating, fukking and having children.I’m seeing this a whole lot and it’s not just words/cope.
We live in a time where a woman can get a higher paying job and live “their best life”.
Paula Abdul left Emilio Estevez because she really wanted kids and he didn’t. To this day she has no kids but you can tell she’s lived quite a life. Dolly Parton, Stevie Nicks, etc. a lot of “carefree” types don’t want that element in their lives.
If you get even one out of your life you'll be mentally better than the majority of people.
Case and point, I have neighbors. I think they are Arab and dude has MONEY! He has a Rolls Royce, they pay for a nanny to come watch the baby almost daily and they have a maid service that comes out once a week with 3 house cleaners.
The wives doesn't work. She's so lonely she runs out the house whenever she sees my mom. Like will literally wait at the window.
But she can't stand me because she thinks her husband might look at me. The baby will wave to me and she hates that shyt.
Everytime I see her acting goofy I think, "What is the point of having all the stuff women say that want but still being unhappy." I don't get it. I'd rather be free and grind it out myself.
IIVI
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Like I said in my edited post, I think a lot of people don’t play the odds.
People who want to have kids assume the highly optimistic, optimal outcome for their child rather than the likely outcome: they won’t be anything special.
The Earth’s history is filled with 108 billion ordinary people who have walked it. There have been only a handful of exceptional people like an Einstein. 108 billion people vs 10-50 household names we remember.
Most people’s kids are going to be ordinary and mid af not some superstar.
So a realistic parent should be expecting an average outcome for their child even after a large investment of time, money and energy.
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Mirin4rmfar
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no, I'm blocked on everything because she thought I was cheating on her. I did not 
.My life is at Peace. My ex though is what I would say is a good woman has emotional issues.
Out of all the Gen Z babies in my family (there are A LOT). Only one is exceptional. He went to MIT but he was an affair baby so the family doesn't fukk with his mom and him by proxy.
It's too bad. I really think he's the best thst side of the family has to offer.
King_Kamala61
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Get that woman back. Take her to couples counseling and start a family.
You have time to find another person. But 18 years is a long time to co-parent. If the relationship doesn’t work out you have to hope yall are on the same page on school, extracurriculars, religion, holidays, working through growing pains the kids may experience, potential medical issues, in-laws and extended family… it’s a lot of headaches if you aren’t on the same page. Because parenting is everyday and kids grow into their own little personalities with wants and needs you would never imagine. It’s incredibly rewarding but also very hands on.
Your biology is kicking your ass. Don't do it without stability. The feeling will pass eventuallythought I was going to be getting ready for marriage this year, did not happened as planned. Actively dating, low key prepared to get a woman pregnant and have my first child. It's so wierd. I went from being okay if I had a kid to my ex to yeah, need to find a chick to get pregnant ASAP
I got that same feeling around that age and boy I'm glad I didn't submit to nature's demands
Bigen King
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Get that woman back. Take her to couples counseling and start a family.
You have time to find another person. But 18 years is a long time to co-parent. If the relationship doesn’t work out you have to hope yall are on the same page on school, extracurriculars, religion, holidays, working through growing pains the kids may experience, potential medical issues, in-laws and extended family… it’s a lot of headaches if you aren’t on the same page. Because parenting is everyday and kids grow into their own little personalities with wants and needs you would never imagine. It’s incredibly rewarding but also very hands on.
Hate to break it to you. If it's been over a month it might be too late now. Ain't females just sitting around waiting for their ex to get his shyt together and get out of that peter pan mindset. Issa wrap. She on too the next..
bourgeoisie tall freak
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get back with the ex is a terrible idea
yall not together for a reason, the kid is going to exacerbate.
i just came back from hanging out with my friends bm on a road trip. they had one of them get back together babies. idk what she thought he was going to ask her to marry and it would be happy ever after blended family or some ish? but both of them had other kids in between time and now all they do is fight and talk ish. she confiding to me on the road trip about how she asked for meds to help out with her mental as an unwed mother of 3 with no real money. the last 3 women i know that had kids have been on meds for their mental.
i guess if you want to choose to knock a woman up just go the extra extra mile to do better cuz these mothers are struggling out here
yall not together for a reason, the kid is going to exacerbate.
i just came back from hanging out with my friends bm on a road trip. they had one of them get back together babies. idk what she thought he was going to ask her to marry and it would be happy ever after blended family or some ish? but both of them had other kids in between time and now all they do is fight and talk ish. she confiding to me on the road trip about how she asked for meds to help out with her mental as an unwed mother of 3 with no real money. the last 3 women i know that had kids have been on meds for their mental.
i guess if you want to choose to knock a woman up just go the extra extra mile to do better cuz these mothers are struggling out here