I didn't get this job and it's really affecting me

[Godless Socialist CEO]

I know we laugh and shyt on each other on here and I try to keep my personal stuff off of here for the most part. But I have a really good job that I love and have been slowly moving up.

I went for a position I was certain I had. Interview was perfect but they just told me about an hour ago I didn't get the shyt.

I had know fukking idea I would feel this disappointed and worthless tbh.

I'm telling yall because we are a community and I'm ashamed to tell my friends and family.

I tried so fukking hard for that position

I don't even care if yall make fun of me I just needed to vent

Sorry

That job will not make or break you. That job is not who you are, it's a way to make money that's it. A job will never define you as a human unless you're doing some horrible shyt but that's another story completely. Tomorrow you're gonna wake up the same person and your friends and family won't think any less of you. Never let something like this break you because it means nothing in the grand scheme of things. There will always be more opportunities. Good luck moving forward

 

[Ducktales]

Bro u will outshine them and the perseverance and passion you have to succeed will eventually get you where you need to be. I felt the same as you two months ago. I felt hopeless and was literally on my very last dollar. All my bills 2 months past due. But it only took one day to turn it all around when I got a job offer and took it. You are right that we joke a lot, but at the end of the day as black men we should hope the best for eachother. I wish the best for you and your family. This should be a place to vent, and I know it will work out for you soon. Just keep pushing. Everyday is a future memory. Just keep going. No one can stop you , but yourself. Don’t ignore your mental health… meditate , exercise, eat right, and socialize so you don’t go into a dark place my brother. It took courage to even make this thread. It shows the type of person you are. Good luck

 

[King]

I know we laugh and shyt on each other on here and I try to keep my personal stuff off of here for the most part. But I have a really good job that I love and have been slowly moving up.

I went for a position I was certain I had. Interview was perfect but they just told me about an hour ago I didn't get the shyt.

I had know fukking idea I would feel this disappointed and worthless tbh.

I'm telling yall because we are a community and I'm ashamed to tell my friends and family.

I tried so fukking hard for that position

I don't even care if yall make fun of me I just needed to vent

Sorry

Pick ya nuts up off the ground.

I got more rejection letters I can’t even count em all.

I see how nikkas on here come together like the Midlife Carebears when certain mfers is having trouble finding a job tho

 

[Family Lives Matter]

Damna thread already three pages. nikka must really feel his pain in here

When I finished college it was the end of the financial crisis so I couldn't get a job in my field for shyt because every employer wanted experience.

I've been lucky since with my career and I'm doing well for myself but I can understand wanting to do better for yourself and falling short.

A few months back I interviewed for a job and the day before my step brother had got arrested for failing parole. Now all of a sudden the pressure of the getting the job suddenly became 10 fold because I realised how much it meant to Dad because I'm proof that my brother is just a fukk up and it wasn't because he had awful parents.


Sometimes it's more than just a job so I get it.

 

[BunchePark]

Smoke one on they puss ass and vibe go splack one of these hoes you gone be gucci

 

[MalaKai]

Seems like the sentiment is the same in here breh....A lot of us have gone THROUGH it including me very recently. The glass ceiling for brothas is really real. I was in your shoes and applied for a position internally that I was qualified for. I aced two panel interviews and the cats on the panel knew me and my work ethic, sang my praises etc...(one of the cats on the panel was a Marine like me so I KNEW I was good). 2 weeks pass, I inquire about the selection and I'm told that they didn't hire anybody. I'm like cool. I didn't get it I'll get something else even though i really wanted the promotion. Do you know these folks re-advertised the position and on top of that went out of their way to encourage this newly hired (she'd been there 1 year) snowbunny to apply. Of course I applied again but guess who got the job? The snowbunny.....

Talk about heated breh.....it was so bad I had co-workers who saw what had happened and were speechless. Even people in management were coming to me on some "I'm sorry, were corrupt as hell" type shyt.

Keep ya head up man...once you get your opportunity its a great feeling especially considering the shyt we have to go through to get it. One word of advice is don't get complacent.

 

[Ohene]

I'm in the same exact boat as you OP. I applied for a position in December after I was strongly advised to do so. It looked like I was going to get it, but at the last minute a stronger candidate applied (internal as well) and he got the position. That shyt hurt a lot more than I thought it would. Only difference is I didn't tell my family I was applying because I didn't want to have to answer a bunch of awkward questions if I didn't get it.

I actually thought I had it in the bag until the very last minute we had a zoom meeting and he said I did not get it. I was sick. It's been like 3 weeks now and I'm finally starting to feel better. Keep your head up.

yup i been there

even with my current job, i was so tired of rejection that during the process I didnt tell anyone except my cousin what was going on. and even then i only told my cuz after the final around
all i said is im interviewing for a dope job, hope i get it . you reach a point wher eyou get tired of disappointing thsoe who are rooting for u

 

[Easy-E]

Yup. Especially when it becomes months, then years. You get tired, not confident, robotic, you think it’s you, when there are so many other factors outside of you.

@Morethan1

Took me years to get a steady 9 to 5 after college.

Graduated in 20 fukking 10.

 

[JoseLuisGotcha]

I know we laugh and shyt on each other on here and I try to keep my personal stuff off of here for the most part. But I have a really good job that I love and have been slowly moving up.

I went for a position I was certain I had. Interview was perfect but they just told me about an hour ago I didn't get the shyt.

I had know fukking idea I would feel this disappointed and worthless tbh.

I'm telling yall because we are a community and I'm ashamed to tell my friends and family.

I tried so fukking hard for that position

I don't even care if yall make fun of me I just needed to vent

Sorry

it’s cool bruh when God closes one door he opens another …you just need a little tough love …here hold this neg and use it as motivation

 

[Frangala]

Job process is demoralizing but you have no choice but to persevere especially with obligations (bills, wife, kids etc...) further compounded in the era of covid when you cannot really get out and network. You have to keep going. Your employer already showed you its cards.

Personally I am in the same type of position. Already paid below market and employer wanted me to relocate to another city but was not willing to increase my earnings by a significant amount.

So I have been grinding since October. Been getting interviews sometimes they go well and I have not heard back (literally got ghosted by middle management of the firm not some recruiter or HR person), sometimes they don't go well.

That's part of the process but what other choices do we have but to keep going especially if you are in a competitive industry

 

[MushroomX]

I know we laugh and shyt on each other on here and I try to keep my personal stuff off of here for the most part. But I have a really good job that I love and have been slowly moving up.

I went for a position I was certain I had. Interview was perfect but they just told me about an hour ago I didn't get the shyt.

I had know fukking idea I would feel this disappointed and worthless tbh.

I'm telling yall because we are a community and I'm ashamed to tell my friends and family.

I tried so fukking hard for that position

I don't even care if yall make fun of me I just needed to vent

Sorry

You have nothing to be sorry about, but, what it should do is make you hungry. Be depressed, cry it out, whatever you need to vent your loss, but stay hungry. This world is just getting tougher, and for you, until you get 5 years of experience you will always feel helpless because there really is no entry level jobs.

However just stay hungry, go after the next job. Because I see alot of kids who believe their degree gets them the job, when really it just gives you a chance to get the job with no further promises. For some of these kids, it crushes them, and they can handle it and look to side gigs or some quick-money scheme to pay the bills that are coming.

We will all take our L's, we will all get scared up, but just keep pushing forward.

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Them be da breaks nikka
Get another job
There are @Morethan1 outchea

 

[Smokin Rider]

Tough break, just keep your head high, do what you suppose to and jump on the next opportunity when it comes your way. You gonna be fine my guy

 

[Controversy]

Story time

In February, I interviewed for a high-level finance position at a research university. I ended up having about 6 or 7 different interviews. Each interview ranged from really good to excellent. The employer asked for references.

At the same time I was interviewing at the research university, a recruiter from an elite university reached out to me asking if I was interested in applying for a Finance Exec role.

I was super confident I'd get the first job, but I didn't get it. It came down to me and another candidate. The other candidate had 2 masters and about 5 more years of experience. I was disappointed but I don't put all my eggs in one basket.

The elite university put me through the ringer, 5 interviews. I ended up getting an offer there. It was a higher paying position, with more responsibility (50 direct reports vs 12), a bigger budget (20x bigger), and I was happy to accept.

I missed out on a good opportunity and was blessed to receive an even better one.

Keep your head up OP.

 

[iLLusoYuN_Da_Adidas_King]

I know we laugh and shyt on each other on here and I try to keep my personal stuff off of here for the most part. But I have a really good job that I love and have been slowly moving up.

I went for a position I was certain I had. Interview was perfect but they just told me about an hour ago I didn't get the shyt.

I had know fukking idea I would feel this disappointed and worthless tbh.

I'm telling yall because we are a community and I'm ashamed to tell my friends and family.

I tried so fukking hard for that position

I don't even care if yall make fun of me I just needed to vent

Sorry

Better oppurtunity is coming for you.
Don't worry about it.