@kant that could of been you getting slapped on the face
Thank god
Fred
Thank god
Fred
I Had To Uninvite My Father to my Wedding
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A lot of dudes don't realize that they are going to miss their dad when he is gone. My pop's and my big brother are gone and I miss those nikkas everyday.
preciate it breh.
I know i say alotta shyt but you are a good breh with a good heart
I know when i'm more relaxed, i'll feel the same way.
But respect goes both ways. The most important person in my life is my fiancee, it has to be that way.
- not my dad
- not my mom
- not my sibs
if anyone of them is more important than my fiancee, or marriage will fail 100%
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International Playa
Playa with a Passport
I agree with you 100%, because you have to live with your wife while you only have to see the other family members on occasions. My dad was difficult to get along with too, but I had to learn to accept him for what he was. He was a decent person and he only wanted the best for me, but the way he went about things was probably not the best way to do it.
I don't know the answer for how you can have a healthy mutually respectful relationship with your dad, but you seem to know that you have to do something to let him know that he can not be line stepping. The one thing that I would do is invite him to the wedding, but I would let him know that if he is going to be disrespectful to your wife then he needs to stay at home. That way you gave him the option of behaving himself or staying away, but you can look back on it and feel good that you gave him the invitation. You can just let your wife know that she is not obligated to deal with your father, but that you were unable to refuse him because you do love him. That way your wife and your dad will know that you at least tried to broker some kind of family peace and it is up to your dad to behave. Since they know that you at least tried to do something positive then I think that both of them will behave themselves during the occasion.
No problem breh. If you roasted me, idr nor care. I take most roasts in comradity we just say stuff for laughs and we're anonymous anyways.
Idk if you believe in God, although I hope you do or one day come to. It's the only way you'll be able to deal with situations like this without being resentful.
I've resented and hated my dad for over a decade. Now I just feel bad for a miserable bitter old man who's blinded by needless wrath and pride to listen to his "son".
Last time I tried to calmly speak to him by interrupting him in the middle of his BS tirades on the phone few weeks ago. Tried to meet him halfway with compassion and an open mind. He said he doesn't argue with little boys. I'm a legal fully grown adult.
Some people are lost in their nonsense, only God can change that.
Man this thread just makes me appreciate my pops even more. Man that dude cool as a fan, we have our moments where he still look at me as his "boy" and I have to tell him I'm a grown man with my own "boys". After that we cool.
Hell me and him were roommates as adults for a little while. shyt was cool, he didn't want me seeing the women he was messing with so they have dates in the back yard in his car
. Dat nikka taking tubaware out to his car for his dates.
Hell me and him were roommates as adults for a little while. shyt was cool, he didn't want me seeing the women he was messing with so they have dates in the back yard in his car
. Dat nikka taking tubaware out to his car for his dates. 
There is a level... there is a line... there is a boundary.
If you let your parents cross these with 0 repercussions, they will never respect those boundaries.
I hate it csme to this, but God knows I gave that man every opportunity to stop.... but he just couldn't help himself.
Coli parents out there, don't be your kids number 1 adversary.... do better thsn my father did
Edit: TL;DR he put his hands on my fiance
You the Nigerian breh with the short pops, right? Is your fiance ADOS?
No shyt
Now who the fukk would not assume I meant putting hands on as in attack
jwonder
Superstar
I think society has a fukked up view on your parents. It stems back to the bullshyt cac bible. Thy shall obey parents or whatever BS was written.
If someone in your life is fukking up your aura. You have to cut them loose no matter the relationship. You can try to love at a distance. But fukk it, if that route doesn't work.
WTF he put hands on your wife for?
Cleansprite
Pro
If he put his hand on your fiancé , he should know he ain’t allowed to the wedding , it’ll take time but with paitince you’ll grow passed this
dude, are you sure you want to get married so soon? Didn't you say your girl went to brazil by herself and got piped down for like a week? At least give it 9 months to make sure she carrying somebody elses baby.
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Devil Plisken…CMS
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Jahh got it clickin don’t he? lol