"I hate my Autistic brother and wish he was dead"

[TallMan_J]

Entitled and selfish cause he wanted to live a normal life and be a normal kid.

Entitled and selfish for wishing death on their own innocent and disabled brother, as if it’s his fault. Why are you being disingenuous?

There is a difference between wanting to be the center of attention and not be completely ignored. Its easy to call shyt entitled when you ain't dealing with the shyt. Just because one of the children is disabled doesn't mean the needs of the other children are less important and they can be ignored. Is it extreme that he wishes death on his brother? Yea it is extreme cause in the end his brother can't help it that he was diagnosed with autism. Is his anger directed at the wrong person? Yea but I can understand why the poster directs it to his brother. You ain't had to deal with the shyt the poster is going through so its easy to just sit there and say he is wrong for feeling the way he does. I would rather him vent online than actually do some actual crazy shyt.

I respect your response. I even agree with it in certain aspects. Thing is, I’m the parent of an autistic child. Not necessarily “severe”, but non-verbal. He’s essentially a normal kid that doesn’t talk. I may understand what OP is going through even more than they do, them being just a sibling and not a parent.

We’re raising three kids, one of which is autistic. Similar situation, as my oldest is autistic. If one of my other two ever told me some shyt like in the OP, it would not only infuriate me, but also break my heart. If I even suspect that that they feel that way about their brother, it’s absolutely unacceptable to me. I’m raising them on always putting your family first, loyalty, and understanding. You better not EVER abandon your brother nor let anyone mistreat him.

When I’m gone, they’ll be multimillionaires. I expect them to look after him. I’m not necessarily saying you’ve got to be his parent or absolutely take care of him. That’s my wife and I’s job until we’re no longer here. However, if they decide to put him in an institution or something, they better be at least checking on him and making sure that he’s good. Make sure that he’s being properly treated and has his necessities.

I didn’t work my ass off and invest just to build wealth for no reason. I do this to pass generational wealth to them and to make sure that they’re brother has what he needs both now and when I’m gone. We provide a great life for them and show them all unconditional love and attention, so them loving him and making sure that he’s okay is the least that they could do.

People like in the OP make me sick. If they feel that way about their own disabled sibling, imagine how they view other people in society. Imagine how they look at homeless people, unattractive people, or even Black people. If they wish death on their own brother, imagine what they think of people living in poverty as they walk by them.

Not once did OP say “I truly love my brother, but….” Nope. They didn’t have that tone at all. Just wishes death upon him and whines about trivial shyt. I feel no sympathy for people like OP and I feel that they deserve all of the misery that comes upon them in their lives. True Sucka shyt. fukk them.

My apologies for the long post.

*Rant Over*

 

[TaxCollector13459]

This one is probably real.
My experience isnt as extreme as his, but I have an autistic younger brother and can relate to a lot of things in the post.
It definitely fukked up a lot of my childhood.
Ive told my parents Im not taking care of him when they die and they need to make reservations well in advance.
He is not my son or responsibility.
Its easy to judge if you havent been through it.

what was their response?

 

[SupaHotIce]

Yeah I have a friend who manages a group home. He said some of the clients have both parents in their life and financially well off. But still choose for their children to live there. Depending on how bad the condition is sometimes death is a better option for the disabled person . I know damn well if I got in a accident and lost all my motor skills and brain activity I wouldn’t want to live and be a burden on my loved ones

Is death actually an available option or are you just saying it would be better to put them out of their misery?

 

[13473]

I understand.

 

[xiceman191]

*Rant Over*

Autism is a spectrum so shyt can be wildly different from child to child. You can't take your experience and make it the default experience for everybody else. From your post it seems like you provide a great support system for your kids and you're able provide for them in multiple ways where they don't feel that they want for anything or are too burdened with having to feel like a parent of their siblings. The OP more than likely didn't have that support system or a way to channel that resentment he had to carry for years. You said that your child is essentially a normal kid that doesn't speak which is completely different from the OP's case where he is violent and has multiple meltdowns. Do you think if OP had the same support system that you give your children he would feel the same way he did in his post? Probably not. I'm not saying he is right to wish death on his brother and its definitely fukked up and he needs to go to therapy to learn how to deal with the shyt in his past but I can understand how feelings and shyt can get bottled up to a point where you have extreme reactions and thoughts to shyt. I'm glad he would rather vent his thoughts out on a forum rather act on them. I know you won't agree but that's how I feel about this situation.

 

[kwazzy100]

People that aint in that persons shoes and saying what they feel is invalid aint shyt. I can only imagine what it would be like to have your entire life focus around that situation and you basically have no life and your parents basically had you as a third parent.

I HAVE A BROTHER WITH AUTISM. I KNOW WHAT THE OP IS TALKING ABOUT. HOWEVER, WISHING DEATH ON HIM IS PUSHING IT. THAT IS STILL YOUR BLOOD.

 

[1thouwow]

I only read the title but I know I ain’t tryna deal with that either

 

[Jaylen Tatum]

Nothing wrong with what he said.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

A lot of people saying demonic or calling weird or ungrateful are also the same type of people that are never or will never be in his position


I look after all my sibling but i think i would be lowkey tight if i had to look after one constantly especially if they had a disability.

edit: hold up we might need move him away from his brother before he does something wicked

 

[Magic Mulatto]

Thank the universe I’m an only child…

 

[threattonature]

People that aint in that persons shoes and saying what they feel is invalid aint shyt. I can only imagine what it would be like to have your entire life focus around that situation and you basically have no life and your parents basically had you as a third parent.

Agreed. A very close friend of mine is the parent of an autistic child and she has regular mental breakdowns about it. She would never wish harm on the kid or death on him out loud but I'm sure the thought has crossed her mind. She speaks of getting depressed of seeing other parents able to have fun with their kids and knowing their kids will eventually grow older and leave the home while hers will be a lifetime burden. The son can only speak a few words. He has constant breakdowns. She's a single parent and can barely leave the house because no one wants to watch the kid as he gets older and stronger and harder to contain. I can imagine being a sibling to an autistic sibling would be just as frustrating.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

This is why i would try to convince my wife of aborting any baby with mental problems.

I remember back in college, we had a debate over whether it was ethical to abort a baby if you knew they had a severe disability.

It was interesting to see the range of responses. The more religious of students believed all children are a blessing no matter what. Others said it’s unfair on the child, especially if their quality of life would be horrible as well as short in some cases.

Of course there was an argument that there have been great influential people that have succeeded in life despite being dealt a bad hand from birth.

I think it’s up to the parents, I just don’t like this shaming of parents who openly admit it’s too hard raising a mentally challenged child, and equally tough for their siblings.

It’s one thing raising a child who’s blind, deaf or missing a limb. You just have to teach them to adjust physically to life. When you raise a mentally challenged child, you have to adapt to their temperament… and that can be draining emotionally and physically.

In short, I’d do the same too and wouldn’t judge others who do.

 

[Ozymandeas]

This a tough one. This why parents should not have children that have development issues. Its wrong to expect your other kids to take on that burden.

That's all I'm gonna say on it though

 

[xiceman191]

This a tough one. This why parents should not have children that have development issues. Its wrong to expect your other kids to take on that burden.

That's all I'm gonna say on it though

TBF some disabilities can't be found until after birth like autism.

 

[ALonelyDad]

This is why i would try to convince my wife of aborting any baby with mental problems.

I would try to do the same but in most cases it would be a tough sell and you will end up looking like an a$$hole. That life is not fair for anyone