"I hate my Autistic brother and wish he was dead"

[Piff Perkins]

 

[Mike809]

I would try to do the same but in most cases it would be a tough sell and you will end up looking like an a$$hole. That life is not fair for anyone

im not actually married, but this is something i would discuss with any potential wife.
We have to be on the same page on something that can alter the rest of your life.

 

[Rell84shots]

It's easier to judge him than to walk in his shoes
imagine watching other children have normal lives while you were essentially a 3rd parent
and u are expected to take care of him for the rest of your natural life after mom and dad pass, 24/7 of hard work

I wouldn't wish that on no one.

I have an autistic family member, not severe as they are always happy but still its lot of work.

You're not comprehending what we're saying. It's perfectly normal for him to feel resentful about his upbringing, but he's focusing his anger on the wrong person. You don't wish death on someone because they were born with a disability.

 

[pete clemenza]

Its extreme what that person wrote but I won't judge. I knew a couple of people in that situation back in the days and that's a very very tough life. A situation like that would drain you to the point of no return. I knew a girl once who's mom was a deaf mute and she had to do all the translating for her since she was a kid and when she got older she got burnt out from the whole situation went off the deep end, ran away a couple of times, tired to kill herself, etc. But the mom was a functional adult though and that autistic story sounds way worse. He probably doesn't wish his brother dead but he's at the end of the ropes with the entire situation and wants to live his life.

 

[BarackStar]

Shoulda pulled the plug on him while everyone was sleep a long time ago if you feel like that otherwise shut up with all the bytching

 

[NeilCartwright]

Sad situation. My girls nephew is autistic, not sure where on the spectrum he falls. He doesn’t talk much, plays on his iPad thing and has some tantrums here and that. He’s a slender kid so not very strong. Incredibly loving though.

Idk what I’d do…if I had a kid who was violent. I might have to do a home. It would break my heart but what can you do?

 

[Cloutius Maximus]

for same reason they hit crazy growth spurt, my aunt son is severely autistic. unlike his normal siblings, he grew to be 6'4 , over 230 with crazy strength.

theres a theory that autism is casued by high exposure to testosterone when the child is a fetus. could explain why there are way more autistic men then women and the growth spurt caused by excess testosterone

 

[DaddyFresh]

Is death actually an available option or are you just saying it would be better to put them out of their misery?

Better to put them out. That is not a option

 

[BunchePark]

Father of 4

One who is autistic

Y'all would really kill ya own child because they not "normal"

Y'all wild as fukk on this site man

Be thankful bruh

 

[Rembrandt]

Title sounds like a Maury episode

 

[Rembrandt]

Meanwhile a young Ashton Kutcher was going to college to be a research scientist to try to find a cure/improve treatment for his twin brother’s cerebral palsy.

Lmaooooo, until he dropped out to be an actor. Very passionate

 

[The Devil's Advocate]

Definite cac or incel c00n, writing this.

Sadly this has nothing to do with race. People who have a handicap will tell you the horrible ways people treat them. Mainly for this same reason. The people feel bad if they don’t take care of them and hate with a passion, having to take care of them

it’s not even mentally handicapped people. It’s any unhealthy people. You can get a group of cancer patients around and they’ll have the same stories

 

[R.B.J1]

The OP should convince his mother to put his brother in a government funded group home. They have all types of psychotropic meds that would help his brother. They have meds that would turn his brother into a mellow fellow.

 

[FlyGuy]

I don't know how to phrase it properly -- my friend's brother is also autistic, and is also prone to violent episodes on a near daily basis. He was in a care home, but his family felt they were neglecting him, so they've been taking care of him for maybe 3 or 4 years now.

I've never met his brother, and I actually don't think I've been over to his home since his brother has moved in. He doesn't talk about it very much, but he does tell me stories from time to time. Oftentimes, he mentions that his brother is quite strong, and it takes a lot of effort to restrain him between himself, his stepfather and two siblings.

He has also explained that to sort of work with people on the spectrum, you have to analyze their behavior, and why they're doing what they're doing. He told me there's like 4 or 5 main drivers -- attention seeking, escape, stimulation, or seeking a tangible good/reward. So, for example, if he wants a candy bar and he's not given it, he'll start punching holes in walls.

Understanding the behavior is important, because caretakers need to understand what they're potentially rewarding, and the consequences of doing so.

I definitely feel sympathy for the writer. Taking care of others is not easy. At least with the terminally ill, you know it won't be your whole life.

TEAMS

Tangible
Escape
Attention
Medical
Sensory

 

[etrofllenrod504]

People grow up hating they siblings under less. This falls completely on the parents. When you show favoritism or don't take the time to explain to kids reasons for actions, this can be the end result. Alot of times parents believe they can just do shyt without consequence because "I'm the parent I don't have to explain myself to my child". Guess what those kids grow up and also become adults and harbor all those negative emotions.