If I meet a partner who is good with money as well .. we will decide who will “manage” it. I’m not opposed to it. I’m not opposed to allowing a man to lead. My taking on a task wouldn’t make anyone less of a man .. unless he feels that way and hopefully he’s able to communicate that with me. I don’t mind falling back and have.
I Have 0 respect for married men who have “chores” or whose wives control the finances.
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beenz
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I have ALWAYS been in charge of the finances, but then again, I'm divorced now 
On the Coli it does
Unless it is a family member being abused, you should not worry about the relationship dynamics between a husband and wife, What works for them may not work for you, but that is something that they have to hash out to make their marriage work.
Not budding into the business of other people's marriages and keeping focus on our relationship with each other through the ups and downs is how my wife and I remained married for 26 years so far.
So what I am simply saying is focus on your relationship with your woman, not the relationships of other people you see. You are only an outsider looking in, so your perception of what is going on will be limited at best.
Not budding into the business of other people's marriages and keeping focus on our relationship with each other through the ups and downs is how my wife and I remained married for 26 years so far.
So what I am simply saying is focus on your relationship with your woman, not the relationships of other people you see. You are only an outsider looking in, so your perception of what is going on will be limited at best.
I don’t respect grown ass men trying to dikk police other men’s marriages when they don’t qknow anything about healthy relationship dynamics and aint never seen what decent partnership looks like.
But seriously, who cares what works in some households.
If it works it works. If a man gives a fukk about a random stranger’s opinions of his living arrangements, that’s worse if we keeping it real.
But seriously, who cares what works in some households.
If it works it works. If a man gives a fukk about a random stranger’s opinions of his living arrangements, that’s worse if we keeping it real.
My only push back would be, if you’re actually good with finances?Are there men on The Coli like this ? I’m serious. Some men aren’t leaders. It sucks to hear but it’s the truth. I said some men I didn’t say black men to clarify. I would hope my significant other would let me “ control” the finances BUT not as a form of controlling him. I’m just really good with money
Do you spend just to spend or is there a balance of wants Vs needs.
Some people see money, think all of it needs to be spent, no matter how much it is or “grows” over time.
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Happy single men shouldn't really be around happily married men, two completely different lifestyles and neither side is likely to understand the other. Priorities are not the same.
I mean, y'all can hang out, listen to music, and discuss politics every few months or so, but other than that,
Chores = Responsibility. I would never hang with a dude who wants to kick it before getting his work/chores done. That's a loser.
Budget = Responsibility. Some women are better at budgeting than men, doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
All these hard lines in the sand just prove you don't actually fukk with women like that.
I mean, y'all can hang out, listen to music, and discuss politics every few months or so, but other than that,
Chores = Responsibility. I would never hang with a dude who wants to kick it before getting his work/chores done. That's a loser.
Budget = Responsibility. Some women are better at budgeting than men, doesn't happen often, but it does happen.
All these hard lines in the sand just prove you don't actually fukk with women like that.
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Most of these are just a polite way of getting out of things they don't want to do. I use the same tricks all the time. For exampleSome of you men are really going out sad.
“Oh I can’t leave the house until I’ve finished clearing the leaves on the lawn, I don’t want my wife yelling at me. ”
“Oh I have to be home by 9pm otherwise my wife will start to worry/get suspicious.”
“Oh I better let my wife know how much I’m spending tonight. She says we’re on a budget.”
“My wife is better at handling money than me. She lets me have an allowance.”
I wish I was making this up. These henpecked eunuchs are literally scared their wife will bytch slap the moment they tip toe in the house, one minute after their curfew.
How can you live an existence as a “man” like this?
“Oh I can’t leave the house until I’ve finished clearing the leaves on the lawn, I don’t want my wife yelling at me. ”
I'ma get up with y'all when I feel like it. I really just want to be in the house chillin and I know y'all not about to pull up and scoop me anyway so it's not like y'all will see the yard clearly not done. I'm really just gonna be on my couch until I stop being entertained by this video game then I'll link up with y'all cuz I haven't seen y'all in a minute and y'all still the guys.
“Oh I have to be home by 9pm otherwise my wife will start to worry/get suspicious.”
I'm tired and not really trying to hang out with y'all that long so let me just use my wife as cover to go home and sit my ass back on my couch, GTA Online is calling and I'm an early riser regardless of how early or late I stay up so I'm definitely not missing a good nights sleep fukking with y'all.
“Oh I better let my wife know how much I’m spending tonight. She says we’re on a budget.”
I'm really only trying to have one drink at most tonight and I know y'all like to buy rounds and go in on a table when y'all go out. Don't count on me for any of that shyt, I'm good in the general area with my one $9 beer. Y'all can fukk y'all own money off.
“My wife is better at handling money than me. She lets me have an allowance.”
That's just a ho ass nikka right there. I ain't defending that at all.
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Stay single and selfish brehSome of you men are really going out sad.
“Oh I can’t leave the house until I’ve finished clearing the leaves on the lawn, I don’t want my wife yelling at me. ”
“Oh I have to be home by 9pm otherwise my wife will start to worry/get suspicious.”
“Oh I better let my wife know how much I’m spending tonight. She says we’re on a budget.”
“My wife is better at handling money than me. She lets me have an allowance.”
I wish I was making this up. These henpecked eunuchs are literally scared their wife will bytch slap the moment they tip toe in the house, one minute after their curfew.
How can you live an existence as a “man” like this?
I agree. Like maybe you want to go to that Nas concert ( random example) but rents due. Some folks are choosing Nas but I’m always choosing rent. I’m not paying to breathe the same air as Nas
. I’ll go without if it means I’m good. Home always comes first and anything else is bonus .. but I don’t believe in spending like crazy. .. it’s just something within me.
You’re framing it in a weird way, but aren’t some of those things just being considerate of your wife? Not the “or she’ll yell at me” part, but just taking them into consideration before you do certain things.Some of you men are really going out sad.
“Oh I can’t leave the house until I’ve finished clearing the leaves on the lawn, I don’t want my wife yelling at me. ”
“Oh I have to be home by 9pm otherwise my wife will start to worry/get suspicious.”
“Oh I better let my wife know how much I’m spending tonight. She says we’re on a budget.”
“My wife is better at handling money than me. She lets me have an allowance.”
I wish I was making this up. These henpecked eunuchs are literally scared their wife will bytch slap the moment they tip toe in the house, one minute after their curfew.
How can you live an existence as a “man” like this?
Your wife should be thinking the same way in certain instances. Not spending too much money, not staying out partying all night with her girls, etc.
The real issue would be marrying someone with unreasonable expectations for you. But if y’all are on the same page about what to expect from each other, this shouldn’t bother you because you’re just doing what you understand your spouse expects from you and she’s doing the same.