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I Have 0 respect for married men who have “chores” or whose wives control the finances.
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MalaKai
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That happy wife/happy life crap is for the birds.....If you as a woman aren't happy and content within yourself, no matter what a man/husband does will change that. I've been there too.
Aint no "could", im literally telling you why men say that.
They dont want to do whatever it is you talking about and are giving you a response you cannot overcome.
MalaKai
Luv is Luv
This is not entirely true....I've seen men who can't make a decision for themselves and have to check-in with their wives/girlfriends.Aint no "could", im literally telling you why men say that.
They dont want to do whatever it is you talking about and are giving you a response you cannot overcome.
What happens when you meet a partner who is also good with money?
I'm in no way arguing or disagreeing with you, every couple is different and everyone should do what works best for them. But it's just a hard concept for me to turn over my checkbook and let someone else deal with the finances, but I know men who are ok with it.
I do however look down on men who are not strong leaders in their house. I don't even like doing business with married men sometimes because we will agree on something and then they come back the next day on some "oh I need to back out, my wife says I can't do the deal."
Complexion
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A lot of married men are treat like children.
I see I hit a nerve.
You’re inferring a lot of things I didn’t say. But hey, if these grown men want to act like their wives are their mothers, more power to them. Couldn’t be me.
Don’t say that.
I'm not married, but I'm not letting my wife turn into a maid 24/7 365 and unpaid for the rest of her life, that sounds insane. Plus I'm an OCD type of person when it comes to cleaning, so I always clean as I go.
Don't end up like the men on here: And you can go all through that subreddit for relationship issues, I just tune in for the drama.
But they aren't chores, imo, just acting like a responsible adult and treating your spouse like an actual human.
Seems to be these case that they act like it.
How'd you expect anyone to follow your lead thinking like that
Complexion
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Seems to be these case that they act like it.
In many cases, yes. The woman simply steps in to fill the void of leadership he vacated.
A lot, however, get into that from the jump as they unconsciously seek out someone exactly the same as their mother who recreates the same Patterns within. The Sopranos portrayed this dynamic perfectly with the roles of Livia Soprano and Gloria Trillo:
A lot of people spend their entire lives interacting with the same handful of people but seeing them with different faces and not realizing the true nature of the Game.
This true men and women do this shyt......ALL THE TIME.
Its like a get out of anything ticket for any situation. Your boys want to hang out, but you don't want to be bothered...."Man I can't go out this weekend my wife tripping and wants to do such and such".
Family members want you to come to the cookout this weekend, but you want to go to the football game. "Man, I can't make it this weekend my wife wants me to go somewhere with her"
Family member wants to borrow money, or borrow your car or lay up in your house till they get on their feet. You don't want to be bothered with them cause they triflin. "Man I have to check with my wife cause you know how she is with her money or her space, I think I told you she control the finances right?"
Even if you got a side chick who know you got a wife and you trying to dodge her cause you don't want to be bothered with her. "Girl I can't see you now my wife wants me to spend time with the family. I will have to come by and see you next week when I am free"....
Even women do this shyt. I know women in my life who play that shyt off at work when they want them to work over or some shyt. "Sorry John, I won't be able to work overtime this week my husband Sam is out on special assignment and won't be home for the next 7 days. So I have to come in late and leave out early to get take and get the kids to and from school".
Yet her husband Sam home this entire week on PTO. The wife just didn't want to be bothered with OT this week....
There’s too much to unpack here, but I’ll say a few things from my experiences and observing other couples.
1. A lot of men don’t set expectations, boundaries or define the roles in their relationships early on because at first they’re just happy to get some consistent coochie. These goofy nikkas typically end up in a nightmare because they handed over all decision making to their woman and when they finally challenge her it’s not the flow they were operating under, so it ends in disaster or misery.
2. Don’t get married or in a long term relationship if you’re still in the going out to clubs or being in large groups stage of your life. A marriage is supposed to be intimate and to build a family to pass your progress down to. If you have a bunch of extra people in and out of your situation, all types of fukkery is waiting on you. I’m not saying don’t have friends, but they shouldn’t be your priority at that point.
3. No one is the boss in a relationship, but a man needs to establish he’s not an errand boy or a honey do. Don’t wait for her to ask. If you know it needs to be done, just get it done. If she knows that about you, she won’t start assigning you menial tasks because she knows you take care of what you need to without having to be asked. If you don’t, she’ll start looking for stuff you need to do so she can justify what she does without feeling taken advantage of.
1. A lot of men don’t set expectations, boundaries or define the roles in their relationships early on because at first they’re just happy to get some consistent coochie. These goofy nikkas typically end up in a nightmare because they handed over all decision making to their woman and when they finally challenge her it’s not the flow they were operating under, so it ends in disaster or misery.
2. Don’t get married or in a long term relationship if you’re still in the going out to clubs or being in large groups stage of your life. A marriage is supposed to be intimate and to build a family to pass your progress down to. If you have a bunch of extra people in and out of your situation, all types of fukkery is waiting on you. I’m not saying don’t have friends, but they shouldn’t be your priority at that point.
3. No one is the boss in a relationship, but a man needs to establish he’s not an errand boy or a honey do. Don’t wait for her to ask. If you know it needs to be done, just get it done. If she knows that about you, she won’t start assigning you menial tasks because she knows you take care of what you need to without having to be asked. If you don’t, she’ll start looking for stuff you need to do so she can justify what she does without feeling taken advantage of.