I Have 0 respect for married men who have “chores” or whose wives control the finances.

[F*ckthemkids]

You do realize this not an attack on women but on man-childs like the ones I mentioned. You’re literally proving my point. You can’t be a man if you need a woman to get you to do the basics.

Act as if there are no in betweens brehs.

So if they left out the wife aspect, would you still have respect for them, or would you underlying still feel that their wife still wielded some control? A part of me thinks you would.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

You like to argue huh ? I don’t have to control them but I wouldn’t mind if I did. That’s also considering he wouldn’t mind because contrary to popular belief some of us care what the other person thinks.

I’m not arguing. You literally said in your first post “I would like it if he would let me control the finances as I’m good with money.” Literally repeating your own words. But I see you’re being combative for no reason. Good luck to you.

 

[bigdaddy88]

Why a woman gotta tell a man to do the leaves though? What kind of dude want leaves all in front of the house he works to pay for?

bruh , it dont matter if you do all the work in house, a woman will find something for u to do if she sees u having fun or relaxing ..but again the whole premise of the thread how are grown men letting women give him chores like he a kid lol.....that to me that is equivalent to a man that doesn't know how much he can spend on an item without consulting his wife because she handles the money

one thing is her reminding u to do something, another thing is damn near scheduling what u gotta do lol trust. dear please dont forget to go to the bank to , marcus dont do this, dont do that come in at this time, u gotta do this and that..trust me one is a mom talking to her son, the other is a wife talking to her man.

i know in 2022 we we are equal kumbaya, there is no such thing as the head of the household and women and men can do each others job/roll just as well as the other lol babylon got ya'll in a vicegrip

 

[ThrobbingHood]

So if they left out the wife aspect, would you still have respect for them, or would you underlying still feel that their wife still wielded some control? A part of me thinks you would.

These men im talking about, I meet in profesional/social settings. I don’t know what their home lives are like unless they choose to divulge such aspects. Statements like the ones I posted tells me all I need to know.

 

[Mindfield333]

I would hope that a “friend” so critical of the dynamic between me and my wife would have the decency to tell me instead of a message board.

 

[SunnyD]

I think the issue is more of they weren't raised by strong men. Every man I know who has a spouse that runs the house either doesn't have a good relationship with their father or their father was the same way.

I get it. Growing up I seen a lot of folks mismanage it .. so it’s a survival thing not a control.

 

[Umoja]

The thing single men don't get is that some married men are happy for the excuse to stay at home.

A lot of the time, people go out to meet social obligations.

The grumbling is taken too literally. It is typically humour that others can relate to.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

I would hope that a “friend” so critical of the dynamic between me and my wife would have the decency to tell me instead of a message board.

And if you actually read beyond the OP, you would see the men I’m referring to are colleagues or mutual friends. I wouldn’t befriend such henpecked men.

 

[ThrobbingHood]

The thing single men don't get is that some married men are happy for the excuse to stay at home.

A lot of the time, people go out to meet social obligations.

The grumbling is taken too literally. It is typically humour that others can relate to.

1. Im not single.
2. I know the difference between someone being facetious and someone who isn’t joking.

 

[SunnyD]

I’m not arguing. You literally said in your first post “I would like it if he would let me control the finances as I’m good with money.” Literally repeating your own words. But I see you’re being combative for no reason. Good luck to you.

Boy if you don’t stop. You haven’t seen me be combative. Nothing in my posts have been out the way. Thanks for the good luck though

 

[Dafunkdoc_Unlimited]

Ok, you can compare to serial killers if that’s the road you want to go down. No skin off my nose.

I'm just saying. The way you presented your argument sounds VERY similar to things they, themselves, stated. Doesn't mean you're going to do the same things they did or are even considering them.​

 

[Umoja]

1. Im not single.
2. I know the difference between someone being facetious and someone who isn’t joking.

You obviously don't. The stock phrases you brought up are nearly always mentioned when someone is being facetious.

The first line anyway. The second line doesn't result in men going home, they call their wives which is common courtesy. The third line is called behaving responsibly and I have not heard it delivered like that.

 

[97Pac]

I get it. Growing up I seen a lot of folks mismanage it .. so it’s a survival thing not a control.

With access to information and the internet no man 30+ should be walking around here financially illeterate. I also believe if you are good with money you shouldn't marry someone who isn't, that is a recipe for disaster as the number one reason for divorce is finances.

 

[Wildhundreds]

bruh , it dont matter if you do all the work in house, a woman will find something for u to do if she sees u having fun or relaxing ..but again the whole premise of the thread how are grown men letting women give him chores like he a kid lol.....that to me that is equivalent to a man that doesn't know how much he can spend on an item without consulting his wife because she handles the money

one thing is her reminding u to do something, another thing is damn near scheduling what u gotta do lol trust. dear please dont forget to go to the bank to , marcus dont do this, dont do that come in at this time, u gotta do this and that..trust me one is a mom talking to her son, the other is a wife talking to her man.

i know in 2022 we we are equal kumbaya, there is no such thing as the head of the household and women and men can do each others job/roll just as well as the other lol babylon got ya'll in a vicegrip

Not the woman im married too.

But i noticed the Coli talks about single mothers daily. This is the long term results of this. Men being ran by women because boys who weren't raised by men only know how to take orders from women. And single mother raising girls is a problem too, because they see a revolving door of men in their mothers lives, so they automatically believe men are easily replaceable. All these problems don't start when people become adults, they started the day they were born.

 

[SunnyD]

With access to information and the internet no man 30+ should be walking around here financially illeterate. I also believe if you are good with money you shouldn't marry someone who isn't, that is a recipe for disaster as the number one reason for divorce is finances.

Agreed. To make it clear because at some point ( not with you) I think something got lost in translation. I wouldn’t recommend ANY man or woman be with a financially unstable individual. I just said I was good with money. .. because I am.