It’s not, shyt was a 0 out of 10.
I have a confession and it's killing me
- Thread starter Basil of Baker Street
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It’s not, shyt was a 0 out of 10.
I really just think she feels like "Damn, I can't keep living like this. I wanna get back to how I used to be."
If OP doesn't break up with her she eventually will move on and get with someone that's on her wavelength.
I know people here are cynical of people become reformed but it does happen. If OP ain't on the same page then just bail.
This shyt got me weak. You gotta let yo shawtys know off the rip that if she ain't fukking someone else will.
Basil of Baker Street
Banned
She was not celibate even growing up. She racked up bodies fairly quickly so no that's not true.
Thatrogueassdiaz
We're on the blood path now
I would say MAYBE she went back to the church--but didn't OP say she's withholding all intimacy, including regular physical touch? If you can't track where this is coming from then she's cheating man. Women are weird, they can't have their hearts in two places. Even if she hasn't yet fukked someone, she could just stop having sex because her heart is guilty about the OTHER dude.
Honestly it doesn't matter if she's cheating or wants marriage. Bottom line is you both don't want the same things, anymore. It hurts, I know, we've all been through it, but this is part of living, part of being a complete human being. Everything happens for a reason. When you find the strength, let her go. The time will come when you're ready. I don't necessarily think you have to rush things, as I think breakups go through stages, but you must know that it will get worse and your heart will gradually ache more until it breaks.
Good luck.
Honestly it doesn't matter if she's cheating or wants marriage. Bottom line is you both don't want the same things, anymore. It hurts, I know, we've all been through it, but this is part of living, part of being a complete human being. Everything happens for a reason. When you find the strength, let her go. The time will come when you're ready. I don't necessarily think you have to rush things, as I think breakups go through stages, but you must know that it will get worse and your heart will gradually ache more until it breaks.
Good luck.
Basil of Baker Street
Banned
Should have phrased that better, she may want to keep her faith 100% this time around.
No half assing it essentially. No being lukewarm.
Jhoon
Spontaneous Mishaps and Hijinks
I know a church girl. She claims she has slept with a bunch of men. However, she can’t fukk. She can suck a mean dikk. But when it comes to her knowing her way around a dikk — shorty is the worst fukk of my life. I usually had to imagine fukking her younger cousin.
Dog Based Gremlin
Veteran
Cheated last week
Can’t just go celibate on people in the middle of a relationship. If it’s for religious reasons she shouldn’t be in a relationship at all.
You should tell her that y’all should split until she’s comfortable/secure with herself, and yalls relationship.
You should tell her that y’all should split until she’s comfortable/secure with herself, and yalls relationship.
Taadow
The StarchBishop™️
Couple of possibilities here
1.) She could be spiritually legit. It's never too late to clean your act up and if she is serious and not trying to play you, then she is making some life-changing decisions that u either fit into or not. If not, then make a clean break and get the hell outta there. When u try to reach the next level spiritually you gotta be prepared to lose some stuff. She can't expect you to take this journey with her if u not about it, and at some point her journey needs to teach her how to communicate. Losing you might be one of the lessons she gotta learn to be better. If u do decide to try with her, you would be best served to speak with her about her lack of communication skills and how that compromises the relationship.
2.) She could be trifling and using God as an excuse, but really her feelings have changed. There could be an underlying rift between you guys that isn't being addressed and that's the real reason why she is withdrawing. She might not be cheating but just wanting to keep u around while she spirals downwards until she gains the courage to address it with u truthfully. Tell her how this shyt looks to you and why it's unacceptable. Then let it go if she can't adjust.
3.) She could be cheating and planning an exit. Even if it is, it still doesn't change how u move. Confront her, communicate that the behavior is unacceptable and then KIM.
But don't continue with your feelings in the mix in a gray zone without bringing it to a head and moving accordingly. Life's too short.
1.) She could be spiritually legit. It's never too late to clean your act up and if she is serious and not trying to play you, then she is making some life-changing decisions that u either fit into or not. If not, then make a clean break and get the hell outta there. When u try to reach the next level spiritually you gotta be prepared to lose some stuff. She can't expect you to take this journey with her if u not about it, and at some point her journey needs to teach her how to communicate. Losing you might be one of the lessons she gotta learn to be better. If u do decide to try with her, you would be best served to speak with her about her lack of communication skills and how that compromises the relationship.
2.) She could be trifling and using God as an excuse, but really her feelings have changed. There could be an underlying rift between you guys that isn't being addressed and that's the real reason why she is withdrawing. She might not be cheating but just wanting to keep u around while she spirals downwards until she gains the courage to address it with u truthfully. Tell her how this shyt looks to you and why it's unacceptable. Then let it go if she can't adjust.
3.) She could be cheating and planning an exit. Even if it is, it still doesn't change how u move. Confront her, communicate that the behavior is unacceptable and then KIM.
But don't continue with your feelings in the mix in a gray zone without bringing it to a head and moving accordingly. Life's too short.