I just checked my girl on some sh!t I thought was disrespectful

[DreadBrown]

@skeetsinternal

I was going to say you overreacted but then I read you're Jamaican so I understand.

Certain violation yaad man nuh tek suh easy

We don't bow and we never stoop low

 

[Remote]

(Stands there with hand out implying he wants the plate)

(Asks for the plate)

(Asks for the plate again)

Do you have any idea how hard it was for OP to not just flip the fucc out right then?

Biitch give me the fukkin plate! I'm trying to do yo ass a fukkin favor so you don't have to get up.

 

[Rawtid]

I wouldn't say you were "wrong" but you being upset seems kind of unwarranted. Didn't seem like a big deal but i'm glad you two talked it out and hopefully she doesn't do it again.

 

[Kamikaze Revy]

 

[AkaDemiK]

I would have asked once and walked off.
mold would have been growing off that
plate and coffee table before i touched it.

 

[eufemism]

"I don't bow down to no one"



you being kinda a bytch tho I could see myself getting pissed off at it if I was in a bad mood, but in general you mad overreacted

 

[skokiaan]

stinks of sexual frustration..when last u really blow her back? why u caught feelings so fast and ran to the kitchen to cry? the whole scenario should have been the other way round where she the one complaining after ''making you dinner etc''

 

[Imlinkin]

You got an 'alpha' man test.

Females intentionally start sh!t with men in order to be put in their place. Like T. Sotomoisture said, they want to see if you can 'handle' a 'skrong' black woman. Why should we need to 'handle' anything other than a wild animal is the perfect retort to that bs.

So we sitting here in the living room and eating dinner. She happened to buy dinner tonight (fried fish from Crockettes in Montclair NJ) because she didn't take anything out to defrost this morning to make or I could make. So I'm sitting down flipping through the channels for something to watch and I settled on ABC to check the news out or watch Jeopardy afterwards. She fixed me a plate of food, which was some fried whiting. I said "thanks Babe" then got up to get some hot sauce to put on the coffee table for us to use plus get her some electrolyte water to drink. Now what occurred after us finish eating is what pissed me off. I finished my meal, she was done with hers too so I got up with my plate and went over to where she was sitting to get her plate. I stood in front of her and asked her to give me her plate but she did not respond to my request for the plate so I motioned with my hand to give me the plate but she kept looking at the TV. I eventually asked again then she gave me her plate. As I was leaving to go to the kitchen she said "why you aint just bend down and get the plate?". I said "what you just say?", she responded by saying "why didn't you just bend down and get the plate". . I let it ride for maybe 20 seconds while I was in the kitchen scraping the bones in the trash and was thinking ...then I got pissed even more about it Then came back and sat down and she asked "why you seem tight"? I said "what you said awhile ago was disrespectful", she asked "how was it disrespectful?" I said, "all you had to do was just give me the plate so I could take it but for whatever reason you saw fit to ask me to bend down and get it, I don't bend down to no one". She then was like "there you go with that manly stuff. I was like "what manly stuff, I just felt I was disrespected and it has nothing to do with manly stuff" She then was like "if I disrespected you, I apologize, i know its things you Jamaican men don't tolerate", then I said "ok apology accepted" but now she all tight and silent. Now i don't know what prompted her words but I also don't want her to take certain liberties with me. Yes I do speak my mind but at times my words do cut and I come off insensitive and cold due to my years of being HOH's. I already know the answer but was I wrong for checking her?

 

[Gold]

She doesn't respect you breh, plain and simple.

That would have been the end of the relationship for me. . But then again... I love being single.

But in all seriousness... I would hope she would have a reason to excuse her behavior (work stress, bad day, etc)

 

[Miggs]

If her plate empty just take it dont ask thats where men run into issues by asking a woman shyt....Dont ask breh just do...

 

[Gold]

If her plate empty just take it dont ask thats where men run into issues by asking a woman shyt....Dont ask breh just do...

 

[↓R↑LYB]

Get her to make a account on The Coli so I can pos rep her.

Women hand out Ls to dudes everyday, b.

 

[WOAHMYGOODNESS]

This nikka is a hoot

 

[Black Cac]

If you saw she was finished, why didn't you just grab it? Why did she have to hand it to you? Jafaicans

 

[agnosticlady]

I totally agree with u. Not tryna woman bash but some of them tend to take advantage of our kindness. Constantly test us until they get checked. Thats why some of us leave and become hoh at times. The plate thing maybe small now but shyt woulda got worse if he didnt check it. It seems like they want challenges where its unwarranted. It comes off like a need for us to provoke fear in them just for the rush. Not on some abuse shyt but on some if he dont take shyt then he can protect me on some provider shyt. If not then he'll be my bytch and i'll just use him up and leave etc. That's why i make it clear from jump that I dont tolerate disrespect from women. Ima very cool calm laid back dude most of the times. So outbursts are suprising on some light skinned shyt

You are 100% correct. I have seen it take place many times. Don't get me wrong. I have also seen men take advantage of a woman's kindness. With that being said, a lot of women will do as much as a man allows her to do. If he did not let her know that she was out of line she would have tested him many times over, and even take joy in disrespecting him.Eventually she WILL she start messing around with another man. I just left my job at a cosmetic place. One of of my former coworkers prided herself on how she would cuss out her boyfriend and start drama with him. She is messing around with another guy some stores over and she always laughs about how she test's him, and how he wants to be with her. My boyfriend is also a very laid back guy, but if I tried to disrespect him or test him on some petty stuff he would bounce immediately. Stay away from women who want to test your laid back personality and kindness. Those are the type of women who believe that a man does not truly love them unless he is cussing them out, beating them, or doing something crazy to them. In other words they are crazy.