I just checked my girl on some sh!t I thought was disrespectful

[Wiles]

I would have asked once and walked off.
mold would have been growing off that
plate and coffee table before i touched it.

That's how u handle it don't even get mad

 

[iLLusoYuN_Da_Adidas_King]

In any scenario when you feel the need to check someone... DO IT.

 

[Wiles]

You were being soft for getting her plate in the first place so she just spoke to you as she saw fit.

fukk you cleaning off the table for, b? She don't respect that shyt.









anyway, virgin.

It's crazy u sound more like a virgin then the op

 

[Gold]

He's African American.....Part of my family back home was disappointed, but oh well Afric00ns gonna c00n.

They probably already had your marriage planned out with someone back home you never met .

 

[agnosticlady]

They probably already had your marriage planned out with someone back home you never met .

Who knows, lol. Maybe they did. They would always tell me to come back home and marry a Nigerian man. Not all of them are like that, but some of my Nigerian relatives are straight up whack

 

[agnosticlady]

They probably already had your marriage planned out with someone back home you never met .

A close friend of my fathers has a daughter who married an African-American. The mother refused to talk to her and said she would never forgive her unless she divorced him. I said if that was my mom she shouldn't hold her breath

 

[Ghost Utmost]

I stay with her. Aint no way I'm checking her phone because I aint insecure. She already under pressure to lose 15 lbs by the end of November or else I'm out.

Breh, hopefully you are trolling.

If not you have serious mental problems. Life together is not supposed to be some set of trials and land mines to avoid. Being together is supposed to be a positive thing.

If you don't love her just leave her alone. If she meets November's challenge, what's December's ultimatum?

 

[Jimi Swagger]

Should be shacking up anyway. Eternal Purgatory type stuff.

 

[Sccit]

WELCOME TO THE EVERY DAY LIFE OF POWER STRUGGLES OF THE MALE/FEMALE EGO

 

[user1]

So we sitting here in the living room and eating dinner. She happened to buy dinner tonight (fried fish from Crockettes in Montclair NJ) because she didn't take anything out to defrost this morning to make or I could make. So I'm sitting down flipping through the channels for something to watch and I settled on ABC to check the news out or watch Jeopardy afterwards. She fixed me a plate of food, which was some fried whiting. I said "thanks Babe" then got up to get some hot sauce to put on the coffee table for us to use plus get her some electrolyte water to drink. Now what occurred after us finish eating is what pissed me off. I finished my meal, she was done with hers too so I got up with my plate and went over to where she was sitting to get her plate. I stood in front of her and asked her to give me her plate but she did not respond to my request for the plate so I motioned with my hand to give me the plate but she kept looking at the TV. I eventually asked again then she gave me her plate. As I was leaving to go to the kitchen she said "why you aint just bend down and get the plate?". I said "what you just say?", she responded by saying "why didn't you just bend down and get the plate". . I let it ride for maybe 20 seconds while I was in the kitchen scraping the bones in the trash and was thinking ...then I got pissed even more about it Then came back and sat down and she asked "why you seem tight"? I said "what you said awhile ago was disrespectful", she asked "how was it disrespectful?" I said, "all you had to do was just give me the plate so I could take it but for whatever reason you saw fit to ask me to bend down and get it, I don't bend down to no one". She then was like "there you go with that manly stuff. I was like "what manly stuff, I just felt I was disrespected and it has nothing to do with manly stuff" She then was like "if I disrespected you, I apologize, i know its things you Jamaican men don't tolerate", then I said "ok apology accepted" but now she all tight and silent. Now i don't know what prompted her words but I also don't want her to take certain liberties with me. Yes I do speak my mind but at times my words do cut and I come off insensitive and cold due to my years of being HOH's. I already know the answer but was I wrong for checking her?

Sounds like you are insecure and too proud. You were probably mad she didn't cook so instead of saying that you picked a fight about a plate and comment. So feminine. And you trying to hard to sound innocent. I doubt you said any of that shyt nicely Mr. Hard On Hoes. stop frontin.

 

[Gold]

Who knows, lol. Maybe they did. They would always tell me to come back home and marry a Nigerian man. Not all of them are like that, but some of my Nigerian relatives are straight up whack

Spoiler: Spoiler tagging this so I wont derail the thread

I put this on everything what i'm about to tell you is 100% true.

~6 years ago, my mom ran into one of her secondary school friends in Dallas by coincidence. They chopped it up for a bit and it just so happened she had a daughter my age (21ish at the time).


My mom kept talking her (the daughter) up so much talking about amazing she was (my mom had gone over to their house a lot) and she would make a wonderful wife.


I eventually go over to her place and talk to her just to get my moms off my back.

She is... not ugly but not attractive... just average. Which isn't a problem for me.

After all the basic questions are out of the way (name, where you from, where did you go to school etc) I ask her "what do you do for fun? What are your hobbies?"


She says, "I enjoy drawing"

I say, "Oh that's cool, me too. What do you like to draw?"

Then she says with a complete deadpan face, "I like drawing dikks "

I look at her for a sec... start laughing cuz I know I misheard her, but before I can even ask she pulls out a sketch book and starts flipping through the pages of all of these really detailed pencil drawings of dikks


"I like the shape, the way the viens pop out, the texture" She's talking like this is the most normal shyt in the world


I left of course, and when I got home my mom was like "See I told you she is a good girl "

I was like... "I dont think so"

Moms was like "She would make a good wife. She's from a good family, trust me I know these people "

I figure I might as well break it to her "Mom... she draws dikks... penises. She has an entire book full of penises that she drew herself. She showed them to me after getting to know me for maybe 3minutes "




My mom sat there for a sec, turned away


..... then turned back at me and said "All I know is... she's from a good family "


Nigerian parents

 

[Dog Based Gremlin]

watch Jeopardy, brehs

 

[GoFlipAPack]

I'm going to side with your girl. If she was done and you could clearly see she was done and the plate was on the table then why not pick it up yourself? It just seems pointless to ask her to hand it to you. Seems like an excercise in futility if you will when I see see she's done I pick it up myself. As far as you getting your panties in a bunch talking about "I don't bend down to nobody" with that nonsense. She's your girlfriend either treat her like your equal or continue to wonder if you were wrong about stupid arguments over nothing

 

[TLR Is Mental Poison]

Define your manhood by whether or not your woman hands you a plate brehs

 

[skeetsinternal]

Breh, hopefully you are trolling.

If not you have serious mental problems. Life together is not supposed to be some set of trials and land mines to avoid. Being together is supposed to be a positive thing.

If you don't love her just leave her alone. If she meets November's challenge, what's December's ultimatum?

We already squashed last night's beef....
She sent me this text below, she going thru some stuff...

"And please forgive me in advance. When I'm anxious I'm very snappy and edgy. "



But to answer you, I would say we not a cookie cut type of couple. Every couple is different and as you can see by most people's comments they might handle things differently and more than likely get different outcomes. The weight loss goal was something she set and she was told from the start how I feel about big women. We as men have to set standards, if you been on the coli you would know I ain't have standards with women. I was concerned with just doing numbers. She working on the weight tho but December might be a difficult time