I have been married for 12 years, with my husband for 14. I am 32 and he is 35. We have 2 beautiful daughters.
I could write a lot of excuses for what I have done but I won't. I am in a class at the local community college. We had a few group exercises and projects and I met a man.
First we talked after class, then exchanged numbers and started texting innocently. Then we began flirting and sharing things about our past and relationships. Now, I realize that was the wrong thing to do.
I can't stop thinking about this man. He is handsome and funny and sensitive. We've never even hugged or held hands but have shared our feelings for one another.
I love my husband and logically, I know a relationship won't work with this other guy, but I cannot stop THINKING about him. I want this guy out of my head so badly but every time he texts or calls I rush to the phone. Please help!
Thank you so much for all your responses!
This guy actually talks to me and seems to enjoy it! Talking or flirting with my husband is like pulling teeth. He comes home from work and does his own thing, spends a little bit of time with our kids and that's it.
I forgot what it is like to have someone tell me I am funny and beautiful and smart. My husband is a good provider but he can be so cold sometimes
The om is separated with no kids. He knows I am married with kids. We talk about everything under the sun. I don't think he is trying to have sex with me...otherwise he would have made a move before now. He says he doesn't want to go too far if I won't separate from my husband. He doesn't want to be "that guy."
I married my husband because I was young and thought I was in love. He is definitely the strong stoic kind of guy and I just don't think that's the kind of man I WANT. He doesn't believe in counseling or even talking about marriage problems to other people.
I have TOLD my husband time and time again what I need. Once, I even wrote a list. I've never cut him off sexually and in fact, I request that we make love more often and he told me every married couple has a drop off in sex. That I should be grateful that we don't hate each other. I don't want to nag or b*tch at him so it just seems easier to get my emotional needs fulfilled elsewhere.
Also, I will NOT tell my husband about the om. He'd go to the school and try to kick his butt. He works in law enforcement and carries a gun and it just would be a bad situation all around.
Harsh comments don't bother me and I thank you all for the time you have spent. I have no one else to talk to about this.