I just took an L with this girl in the library

[Kenyan West]

good job breh

next time a little more and less

 

[FaTaL]

 

[Ashyneezz]

hmmm, how long ofa gap was there between when she said "thank you" and walked off?

If she walked off immediately, you lost.

If she waited a few secs to see if you were gonna say something else, then you still got another shot.

It wasn't really immediately but she kinda looked at me then said thank you n walked off. It all happened so fast

Even if I took an L today Ima talk to her again Thursday. This time Im gonna be prepared

 

[Ashyneezz]

you need to engage convo breh, not just say "i think you're cute" and smile like the gonna leap into your arms and shyt

I know breh I couldn't really think of anything. I usually start of with a joke about something that happened in the area we were in but it was in the library and nothing was happening except folks reading

 

[Ashyneezz]

Your game sucks

But + points for actually talking to her

My game doesn't suck. I would compare it to Danny Granger. I have my weaknesses but I can also look like an all-star at times


And in HS I use to be on that "nah let me not say anything to her" nonsense till I was schooled on the nuances of the game..."closed mouths don't get fed"

 

[Ashyneezz]

was she black also? or what

Nah messican...

 

[bangbreh]

Here what I did with a nurse at the hospital I work at...

Been seeing her around with her friends for the past few weeks and never said nothing. Finally I saw her in the cafeteria alone and said fukk IT YOLO! Got my food, sat down and started talking like I been knew this chick. No introduction, no "hi my name is...", no "is it cool if I sit down...", no compliments, no nothing.

At first she was looking like but then she started talking back like I wasn't some random nikka she never met before. 5 minutes later this chick is telling me about her mom and aunt feuding or some shyt and she don't even know my name. We went out that same night.

they do wanna be entertained and surprised.
nikka came in and said "your cute", sorry breh...i used to do that shyt. that shyt ain't ever work unless you tell that by holdin her by her shirt w/your face in hers like this

 

[Mantle Drunk]

at least you talked to her breh, I'd have been behind the shelves trying to get a whiff of her hair

Next time you see her, casually say hello and try and make light of the prior situation - if you act scary around her again it'll just come across like you've got autism.

I want a update on this.

 

[Ashyneezz]

This. To her you are now the awkward, thirsty guy from the library.

Going forward, you should start off conversations with something disarming that will put them at ease with talking to some random guy. For instance: the next time you approach a girl in the library, start off by asking her what she's studying and pretend it's something you're interested in taking a class on or whatever. THEN you transition into flirting. Just being like "what's your name, you're cute " is too blunt for most girls

That was the first time I ever tried to get at a girl in the library. Nothing is really going on around there so it was hard to bring something up.

 

[Ashyneezz]

you got rejected but didn't take a true L ...you built up the cajones to approach her and never have to go through life wondering "what if" which is worse than being rejected

however, to bounce back this is what you do...

Ima take some of this but Ima change it up and make it my own. We don't plagiarize round here

 

[Ashyneezz]

I had a similar situation happen last year. I know the feeling breh.

The library is like the worst place, 'cause it's an unstable environment. Not only do you have to whisper, but if there are people around they can hear you trying to spit your game. LOL.

My only advice is just get that one conversation opener to get her comfortable. Ask about her classes, what year she is, blah blah blah ... then after that, make up an excuse to leave, don't linger, and get her number.

There was actually this cute girl next to my table who I was nervous was gonna see me take an L then give me the

 

[Ashyneezz]

i would bet all my coli cash on this girl not wanting anything to do with you. i can tell you come off as creepy right off the bat cause you are telling internet strangers her library schedule which you have memorized. you basically admited you watch this broad, she has probably noticed, now with that in addition to your creepster interaction with her she basically thinks youre a stalker.

 

[Ashyneezz]

good job breh

next time a little more and less

My Kenyan brotha

 

[Ashyneezz]

That's not an L

That's ground work

You still got a chance, barring she already made up her mind about you

She probably already did

But that could be changed if I come correct on Thursday

 

[kermit da hustla]

this is an L. approaching her again makes you look persistent. that makes you look thirsty. that makes you look like someone who can't get laid. that will turn her off.

keep it moving.