"I stayed because I was embarrassed"

[Matriarchy Refugee]

Half of this board gets abused at their job every day and keeps showing up. The shyt ain’t that much different. It’s truly amazing what the human mind can rationalize and normalize if you give it enough time to adjust to it. This isn’t a woman thing, it’s literally human nature.

Speak for yourself. I don't know what kind of shythole you work at, but being abused at work is not common

 

[Solo ✧✦✧]

I rarely have any sympathy for them. When men find themselves in a relationship with a woman that betrayed them people respond by shrugging and saying "choose better". I pretty much have the same attitude when it comes to women and choosing an abusive spouse.

I'm not laughing or getting joy from it since their misfortune does nothing for me but I don't really want to join their pity party or hear their excuses.

 

[DragonKnight]

Yo little fakkit ass sound like a pleasure to be aroundb

 

[Luken]

These threads would be much less confusing to the uninitiated if you nikkas were actually honest about your contempt for women. Imagine coming to the coli which is a predominately Black male forum and selling the bullshyt idea that you're creating a thread to appeal to women who might end up in a dysfunctional relationship instead of appealing to the men who are the larger population of the forum.

The shyt is old, tired and transparent. This thread has nothing to do with saving women from themselves, it's a circle jerk meant to shyt on women while giving men a pass, when it's men that are actually beating these women's asses. If you find this to be a real problem, preach to the men of the coli.

 

[Matt504]

the homophobia thread is two blocks over, wrong exit.

 

[Antwon Mitchell]

She sounds like a dumbass bird headed biatch

That's all there is to it; she's just a dumbass.

How you gonna feel embarrassed to leave an abusive relationship ?

Remember what I said about questioning women's logic

 

[NinoBrown]

‘people choose to ignore and get the consequences...’

Not all gazelles can avoid being food....

 

[Canon]

i got no sympathy for women in these situations

90% knew what there getting into

 

[Cat piss martini]

alot of our women are broken women.
I know broads who got multple children
by multiple men that are doing hard time.
Ive never understood that shyt.
the void inside of a woman who make
those kinda choices.

 

[F K]

The real question is why do spouses abuse each other(especially men vs women, but not limited to men only) Is it childhood trauma, is it frustration about life, being a control freak? How do we fix this? Therapy?Counseling? We need to identify people who are at risk and get them help before they start abusing

 

[Json]

On the flip side there are plenty of stores of kids coming up in a good household with good money who gravitated towards that life as well. There are just a lot of people out there who are attracted to danger and love the rush. Now I wouldn't categorize that as the majority of women in abusive relationships but there are a large amount who love the danger of the situation.

I learned through one of my former close female friends. She was in an abusive relationship for years where we told her to get away from dude. She finally gets away and dates a few nice guys and was bored and went back to dude. He swears he had changed. He of course ends up beating her ass again. I asked for his info because I was about to go fight him myself since I don't play that abuse shyt. She refused to give it up since she loved him and didn't want to see him get hurt.

You’re calling it danger and a rush but it could just be a simple love of controlling personalities.

A wealthy person in a loving family could be a dominant personality. The father makes all the decisions, runs the finances, picks the vacations. Etc.

So the person equates a dominant personality with love.

I can’t diagnose your friend but I’d bet it was more complicated than just running back to him.


I have a Latina friend from a loving family who ended up with an emotional abusive dude(29 to her 19). She only broke free when she ended up making more money and basically shattered the man of the household image she grew up idolizing and got tired of his BS.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

The woman is dead. What other consequences do you want her to face? Your judgement isn’t going to affect her. She’s dead. The way you all keep going on and on about a story of domestic violence and focusing solely on the woman that was killed and paying little attention to the man that killed her is truly disturbing. You all are holding her more accountable than him.

 

[TELL ME YA CHEESIN FAM?]

Expound please.



I love women. They're a pleasure to be around and also a necessity for there to be balance in a mans life. I'm just tired of the females being coddled while they make shytty life choices.

I don't have time right now,but maybe coli therapists gonna chime in
But they stay for the same reason kidnapped victims ride for their captors and hoes ride for their pimps
It's deeper than just fear

You still ain't no muthafukking cop J Reid

 

[born of fire]

why not discuss the abusers and their problems instead of calling the victims idiots?

thread backfired because op thought everyone would be cool with him shytting on a dead person. like would y’all do this shyt in person? go to a battered woman’s grave and say “shoulda made better choices!” or look at a woman with a black eye and call her stupid right to her face? get therapy losers

 

[born of fire]

She sounds like a dumbass bird headed biatch

That's all there is to it; she's just a dumbass.

How you gonna feel embarrassed to leave an abusive relationship ?

Remember what I said about questioning women's logic

well considering how people in this thread are calling victims in this relationship stupid and idiots, even after death, yes i see why someone would be embarrassed to leave. it might get twisted in the victims mind that their abuser isn’t that bad or they were overreacting (because of... get this!... abuse trauma)