I swear this is why I barely have friends

[Music Fiend]

She's the first girl I've come across to do those things so I guess I've been living under a rock. I read about it and see movies about it but I never actually experienced it myself until I crossed paths with her. I never had an actual group of girlfriends and it's not because of insecurities or character flaws, I just really enjoyed being by myself and being my own company. It wasn't until recently that I would hang out with my roommates and noticed how they treated their girl friends. Yes, I do let people walk all over me and punk me and that is one of my biggest faults that's why I made this thread. But I do know for sure that I treat people how they want to be treated even if I don't get the same thing back.

I used to be like you and I'm a man. I think once you really start to put yourself out there and get your own life, you don't have time to think or care about stupid things like that. Insecure people need friends too. You just don't have to let em know how to mess with you. Back whnn I was overly senstive, i had some good homies aorund me who would tell me, nikka stop being sensitive.I wasn't moody or bytchy, but I'd take offense to small things. Not everything needs to be said, I understand, but thats where you learn to peep and not make big deals but be on the watch.

Understandable...

Men and women have traits about themselves that are shallow, I'm introverted and perceptive as well which allows me to notice the dumb shyt that people do so I typically roll dolo anyway. You shouldn't be afraid of enjoying your own company...people who fukk with that will notice and you'll end up surrounding yourself with good company You just need to grow a spine and if they have a problem with it then there's you answer.

Idk bruh. Only to a certain degree. I feel like people like this are everywhere, its just own nature. She may not even mean to rain on ur parade cuz she may not even be putting herself in your shoes.

I know the most social people I know who are actually good people but can navigate the room. They can peep things without letting it effect them. Take note of character but you don't have to do the same and talk about her. Just gotta know who ur dealing with and know thats just who she is.

 

[Rusty Kuntz]

Maybe I'm missing something, but this seems much ado about nothing.

Have you mentioned any of what you've told us to her? Or are you one of those people that discusses things with everybody and their momma except for the person you have an actual issue with?

 

[iBrowse]

Idk bruh. Only to a certain degree. I feel like people like this are everywhere, its just own nature. She may not even mean to rain on ur parade cuz she may not even be putting herself in your shoes.

I know the most social people I know who are actually good people but can navigate the room. They can peep things without letting it effect them. Take note of character but you don't have to do the same and talk about her. Just gotta know who ur dealing with and know thats just who she is.

I understand that. With the field I work in I have to know how to politik and deal with different personalities accordingly. I'm strictly talking from the perspective of friendships (or even getting into a relationship if you will)...these type of interactions are more interpersonal than those that you have when you are at an event being sociable. If you want someone in your life you got to take them for who they are.

 

[Music Fiend]

I understand that. With the field I work in I have to know how to politik and deal with different personalities accordingly. I'm strictly talking from the perspective of friendships (or even getting into a relationship if you will)...these type of interactions are more interpersonal than those that you have when you are at an event being sociable. If you want someone in your life you got to take them for who they are.

Too true. It's in that expectation of how people should be that causes people to judge.

 

[GrindtooFilthy]

Because we are smarter than y'all thats why. Our brains operate that way. Y'all are just too simple to understand anything unless it's written out for you.

pass off ramblings as logical statements brehettes

 

[RhodyRum]

I'm not one of those individuals that opens up to people even if the simplest things so when I do, I think it's because I trust you. So I decide to tell my roommate for the past 2 years about a guy I have a crush on. I show her pictures of him and she goes "wow he looks very familiar, I'm pretty sure we matched on tinder" so I ask her, did anything come from it and she says no he never messaged her or anything. So in my head, I'm like what was really the point of telling that?
Mind you, her ex boyfriend used to like me way before I even knew her. When she told me about him, it was clear that she still had feelings for him but I never said anything b/c me and her ex never talked whatsoever. I wasn't interested at all and the most we ever shared was eye contact. I really feel like in a grand scheme of thinks stuff like that isn't a big issue and I doubt he even remembers me like that cuz this was over 3 years ago.
I'm really irritated right now.

This story, analogously, is to stupid what women is to stupid

 

[Zero]

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[William F. Russell]

Tell a story clouded by your emotions and ask random online posters to provide logical analysis, brehettes...

 

[Aceofspades404]

Tell a story clouded by your emotions and ask random online posters to provide logical analysis, brehettes...

Nikka you dapped every negative post in here.
You still mad that I didn't pick up your phone call
You still mad that I didn't save you as a contact in my phone
Passive aggressive ass.

 

[rahji]

I feel like she only said it to rain on my parade, kinda like rubbing it in my face. "Ooh the guy you liked matched me on tinder" it's like she's boasting cuz he noticed her.

This where people get their self esteem from.... pathetic

 

[newarkhiphop]

Nikka you dapped every negative post in here.
You still mad that I didn't pick up your phone call
You still mad that I didn't save you as a contact in my phone
Passive aggressive ass.

 

[iBrowse]

Nikka you dapped every negative post in here.
You still mad that I didn't pick up your phone call
You still mad that I didn't save you as a contact in my phone
Passive aggressive ass.

@SuperCoolP_Cal nh

What happened brehtheren

 

[KOOL-AID]

You've lived with her for 2 years. You think you know her pretty well. You think she doesn't know how to push your buttons? You're acting as if she stole your boyfriend. You seem overly sensitive. Making a mountain out of a mole hill.

You seem to be into biblical shyt. How about KJV Proverbs 19:11? Or Psalms 119:165? Stop getting ur panties in a bunch over nothing.

I love it when u dish out ether.

 

[Donald J Trump]

@trilldealbaby you just need some dikk:web2:

 

[Aceofspades404]

@Shugg Ross I'm perfectly fine. God bless you.