I Want Kids, But She Doesn't

[VFib]

You two don't sound compatible. The topic of children is important and should be discussed before marriage is on the table. Also, never bank on changing someone's mind. With all the birth control options, if she is determined not to get pregnant, she won't.

 

[Wiles]

simple, go impregnate another bish, preferably a bad one.. don't let your cum go stale fukking with a stingy ass broad

Op need to Leave her breh

 

[Black Panther]

Talk to her about a mommy makeover.

 

[Jay Kast]

She's focused on her career, and she doesn't want stretchmarks.

I was hoping I could change her mind. She'd still be delicious after them stretchmarks.

Is adoption out of the question?

No stretch marks for her.

There's plenty of kids out there who need a supportive family.

 

[Afro]

I was hoping I could change her mind.

This is where you messed up.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

How u marry someone and not discuss children

Wtf

What's her IG btw....Let's see if I can help her with career advancement

 

[SouthernBelle]

Having children takes a toll on women's bodies. I don't plan to have children in my 30s and have a horrible body for the next 40-50 years (God-willing). As soon as I have my last child and lose weight the natural way, I'm getting anything that is still broken fixed: Mommy Makeover Before & After Pictures - RealSelf

 

[Jasmine20]

Wanted to get the opinions of the Coli brehettes:

I've been having baby fever for the longest time; maybe about two years now. Can't explain why. I've always loved kids/are good with kids, and the thought of being a father is


Unfortunately, my girl doesn't see it the same way. She's career-focused and doesn't want kids. Originally she said that we had to get our finances up, and I agreed . We've been good financially for a while and the question came up again.

She doesn't want any kids. Period.

Not sure what to do. Any advice?

She led you on and deceived you into thinking she would have kids with you one day. Divorce her. Don't waste any more time with her.

 

[Taadow]

Why in the BLOODY BLACK HELL did you marry somebody who doesn't want kids if you do??

 

[ShadowBroker]

How old are you two? If shes in her 30s thinking that way, your chances of her changing her mind is slim imo.

ETA:
Women in their 30s, Ive noticed, are baby crazy or absolutely dont want any. If y'all in your 20s, she may change her mind. I dont know if this is an allowable suggestion but perhaps couples therapy may be in order.

Western societies are running into this problem. The more educated, successful woman are the less we want to have kids. Although I want to be a mother some day, even I understand why a successful woman doesnt want children or only wants 1 kid. They dont benefit us in any way. They destroy our bodies, cash drain, ungrateful, can be the source of depression and may abandon you in your old age. That and you have to deal with the pressures of motherhood and the criticisms from other women and men about how youre raising, dressing, feeding your kid, etc.

If she doesnt want any, you should probably call it and file divorce papers. Maybe if you file it'll snap her out of it. Its possible she may resent you though if you present her with an ultimatum and has a kid for you to stay married.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Having children takes a toll on women's bodies. I don't plan to have children in my 30s and have a horrible body for the next 40-50 years (God-willing). As soon as I have my last child and lose weight the natural way, I'm getting anything that is still broken fixed: Mommy Makeover Before & After Pictures - RealSelf

Just have kids...And get a flat tea tummy from Instagram

 

[Black Panther]

How u marry someone and not discuss children

Wtf

What's her IG btw....Let's see if I can help her with career advancement

She don't use IG.

 

[Black Panther]

She led you on and deceived you into thinking she would have kids with you one day. Divorce her. Don't waste any more time with her.

Y'all are so quick to hit the divorce button.
I'm old-fashioned; marriage is for life, unless someone dies, beats, or cheats. Leaving isn't on the table.

Do I want to be a father? Yes--but I'm not willing to leave a woman who provides for me in every other way. I know a good deal when I see one.

We did talk about kids before we got married (we've been together 10 years and married for 6, BTW), but the agreement at the time was to wait five years at least.

How old are you two? If shes in her 30s thinking that way, your chances of her changing her mind is slim imo.

We're almost out of our 20's.

Is adoption out of the question?

Pretty much. Nothing against adopting, though.

 

[Jasmine20]

Y'all are so quick to hit the divorce button.
I'm old-fashioned; marriage is for life, unless someone dies, beats, or cheats. Leaving isn't on the table.

Do I want to be a father? Yes--but I'm not willing to leave a woman who provides for me in every other way. I know a good deal when I see one.

We did talk about kids before we got married (we've been together 10 years and married for 6, BTW), but the agreement at the time was to wait five years at least.



We're almost out of our 20's.




Pretty much. Nothing against adopting, though.

Lol well you wanted our opinions. And I don't usually tell people to get divorces/breakup but in your case if you really want kids like you made it seem like in the OP, then the relationship isn't going to last or you're going to start resenting her. But it seems like you're willing to overlook not having children because you love her so much, so keep what you have Just don't throw it in her face when you get upset about something.

 

[Dwolf]

This isnt going to end well for one of you