"I want to date Black Men. Why is it so hard?". Why do these women think it's their blackness?

[Piff Perkins]

What does "desexualized" even mean in the context she uses it in? The vast majority of men don't find her attractive and understandably so. Is she suggesting that a man who wants to simply be friends with her instead of date is desexualizing her? Because lord knows if she hit me up on a dating site and I didn't outright ignore her, I'd only be interested in being online friends.

 

[FeloniousMonk]

She better get like Lizzo and "feel herself". Cause thats her fate if she think she can be busted and disgusted and attract men.

Lizzo skr8 tho

SHe cute in the face, huge in the waist.

 

[Londilon]

Lizzo skr8 tho

SHe cute in the face, huge in the waist.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Explain wym on this one breh, hard to find what you're pointing to exactly I've been responding to a lot of cats


I'm not absolving, I'm stating what I know as someone who actually knows her and not someone making assumptions about someone they've never met. I also don't need to absolve anything to point out that we've got a good chunk of cheating and abusive men in our community, and we shouldn't be cool with that. I believe we're the most gifted, emotionally intelligent, and most in touch with our humanity of any people in the world, we're better than this, should take care of our women better, and hold ourselves to a higher standard than, "yeah those dudes are out there"

You don't always know how someone is until you get to really know them. They're not walking around being abusive on the first date, they're not making it clear that they're cheaters, a lot of this is shyt that you find out as you actually are in a relationship with that person over a period of time. We find out the same things about women, I've been with tons of women who seemed like really good chicks, and over time you find out some of them are bat shyt crazy, I think anyone who has been with enough chicks can attest to that

I agree that a lot of people make poor decisions, I said a lot of it is on women too, but that doesn't mean some of the issues in our community don't stem from some of us ourselves. And it is easier for us to say as men more detached from the situation like it's easier for dumb cacs to tell brehs to pick themselves up by their bootstraps, becuase it's basic accountability and work ethic

I obviously don't know your friend so you know better. But you're using her as an example and generalizing her situation to describe a trend you see in the black community, aren't you? What I'm saying is that this tendency you're talking about, that is very very close to the "black men ain't shyt and that's why my dating life is hell" trope (you said there was a whole lot of cheaters and abusers etc etc), is untrue from what I see, and stems from the lack of accountability people suffer from.

And I deeply disagree with what you're talking about when you say you don't know a person is an abuser until they abuse you. Not in most cases. There are always telltale signs that people choose to ignore. You're talking about abusers not abusing on the first date, well... Maybe entering a relationship in the first date isn't a good thing to do. And I know you didn't literally mean it but same concept: I feel like plenty people rush head first in these relationships without taking their time and explore the relationship safely.

And the rare situation of the narcissist lying deceiver that nobody can see coming is not enough to justify always ending up in abusive relationship. So unless your friend was terribly unlucky, and in that case, this is not something to be put on the back of Black males, she has some soul searching to do as to why she keeps getting played.

No, I do not believe black men cheat more than any other race nor do I believe that they abuse their women more and I find it weird, well not really because nothing surprises me, that a black person would believe that. That we're more prone to cheat and be violent.

 

[Vilify]

A fat black feminist I mean womanist.
what's not to love..

 

[number21]

Imma quote what I said to the other two brehs because it applies here too:
I think the high volume of cats quoting and combating what I'm saying all without trying to accept or acknowledge at all that some of us have some shyt to deal with and instead are immediately pointing the finger at our women who none of yall know but are making assumptions about speaks for itself.

We shouldn't have this volume of cheaters and abusers in our community. That's a problem. It's hard to know a man is actually abusive or going to cheat on you before you end up in a relationship with him, cats know how to play their cards. She doesn't like that treatment, that's why she gets out of the relationships. She's been with a good dude now and is happier than she's ever been.

The dark skinned one is constantly getting passed up for her light skinned friends or white girls hanging around

If you can't sympathize or empathize with the black women in your life or have the willingness to at least hear them out and understand their struggles you need to question if you love our women in the first place instead of just wanting to fukk em and use em. That doesn't mean you listen to everything they say, I said myself a lot of times it's on them, you gotta hold them accountable, but you may have some self examination to do

But breh the fact that theres a good amount of ain't shyt dudes in the community doesn't excuse your first friend from picking bad dudes. I'm sure she saw warning signals but ignore them for whatever reason. That's good shes with a good dude now and I hope she has a fruitful relationship with him.


Well, that doesn't dispell my notion that she's ignoring the type of dudes that is giving her attention. Actually, it backs it.


Obviously I can sympathize for the black women in my life but I will call them out and be tough to help guide them. So, I would still be going with the same mindset that I had displayed in here. For random black women, nah. No, sympathy at all just the hard truth. That is as much love I can give to a woman who ain't family, someone I'm trying to get with, or someone who I'm with.

 

[Goombreh]

Why is it always these ugly ass walruses writing articles like this ?

 

[Geode]

Her issue is that shes just not attractive. Yeah if she was skinny shoe would have more suitors. But if she was actually pretty, even at that size, she'd have guys willing to be seen outside with her.

Also, her teeth are indeed fukked up. And I can tell she has those diabetes cheeks under that makeup. I try not to judge people, but once you get the dark cheeks, (or the deep dark circles under the eyes for guys) it's overdue for you to evaluate your health.

 

[Dr3-C]

Aint that P.M Dawn?

I'm set adrift on memories of youuuu

 

[Payroll]

 

[Bondye Vodou]

bytch looks like she'd eat a nikka.

 

[MaxPain]

bytch look like Takeo Spikes with dreads.

Hamburger Helper eating ass.

 

[Mindfield333]

Well, you must have skimmed through them, because most of the replies point this out directly.

Yeah i didn’t go far lol

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

I’m fat bodied and yes

"Fat bodied"

 

[NZA]

the personality matches the looks, lol