if she never reaches out to you first...

[No_bammer_weed]

Its extremely easy to send a text tho. Its not really an interruption because you can respond at any time

Naw....if you're on the go and moving a lot in your day to day activities, texting can be a nuisance because you have to stop what you're doing.

 

[No_bammer_weed]

just wondering how all of y'all deal with this.

You communicating with a girl trying to see what's up, and she never reaches out to you first... it's always you reaching out to her first, and if you don't reach out, you'll never hear from her.

the convo is decent enough when I do reach out.... but I can go a week without saying anything to her, and she wont even shoot me a text to see if I'm okay

I'm feeling like I'm ready to end this...

and chalk it up to the game...

Dont listen to these damaged, bird brain niccas around here. They just want to see you miserable. The fact that she's not hitting you up first when y'all are in the initial stages of getting to know each other doesnt hold any real significance and could be for a variety of reasons. I dont even know why you're worried about that. More than likely shes shy and insecure, and wants to confirm that you still want to pursue her by not sweating you. If she didnt like you she wouldnt pick up the phone. Trust.

And even if she is fukkin someone else and perhaps prioritizing him over you...so? Y'all are just casually talking. Shes not your girl. If I just started talking to some girl I recently met, I definitely wouldnt consider it any of her business who Im fukkin. If things graduate between the two of you, then you can start talking about exclusivity.

If you like her, continue to pursue. There's nothing wrong with hitting her up first as long as you're not playing yourself and calling or texting her excessively. Stop having such a fragile ego. Once she connects with you, she'll start to initiate.

 

[smARTmouf]

Dont listen to these damaged, bird brain niccas around here. They just want to see you miserable. The fact that she's not hitting you up first when y'all are in the initial stages of getting to know each other doesnt hold any real significance and could be for a variety of reasons. I dont even know why you're worried about that. More than likely shes shy and insecure, and wants to confirm that you still want to pursue her by not sweating you. If she didnt like you she wouldnt pick up the phone. Trust.

And even if she is fukkin someone else and perhaps prioritizing him over you...so? Y'all are just casually talking. Shes not your girl. If I just started talking to some girl I recently met, I definitely wouldnt consider it any of her business who Im fukkin. If things graduate between the two of you, then you can start talking about exclusivity.

If you like her, continue to pursue. There's nothing wrong with hitting her up first as long as you're not playing yourself and calling or texting her excessively. Stop having such a fragile ego. Once she connects with you, she'll start to initiate.

Breh... if a woman likes you, she's not going to wait until you reach out to her first EVERY time....She's not going to go a week with out contact. She just isn't. Would YOU do that to someone you were into? It's not rocket science.

He's putting too much in the bucket and not getting anything back. At some point you have to respect yourself and stop. She knows what she's doing.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Dont listen to these damaged, bird brain niccas around here. They just want to see you miserable. The fact that she's not hitting you up first when y'all are in the initial stages of getting to know each other doesnt hold any real significance and could be for a variety of reasons. I dont even know why you're worried about that. More than likely shes shy and insecure, and wants to confirm that you still want to pursue her by not sweating you. If she didnt like you she wouldnt pick up the phone. Trust.

And even if she is fukkin someone else and perhaps prioritizing him over you...so? Y'all are just casually talking. Shes not your girl. If I just started talking to some girl I recently met, I definitely wouldnt consider it any of her business who Im fukkin. If things graduate between the two of you, then you can start talking about exclusivity.

If you like her, continue to pursue. There's nothing wrong with hitting her up first as long as you're not playing yourself and calling or texting her excessively. Stop having such a fragile ego. Once she connects with you, she'll start to initiate.

realest post in this thread. Thanks, bruh.

(sorry for that mix-up in the other thread)

 

[No_bammer_weed]

Breh... if a woman likes you, she's not going to wait until you reach out to her first EVERY time....She's not going to go a week with out contact. She just isn't. Would YOU do that to someone you were into? It's not rocket science.

He's putting too much in the bucket and not getting anything back. At some point you have to respect yourself and stop. She knows what she's doing.

Thats just being petty and neurotically insecure. Theres nothing wrong with a woman not being overly eager to hit you up when y'all are just getting to know each other. Thats probably a good thing actually. It more than likely means shes not desperate and clingy, and has a healthy approach to relationships.

Now if they've been dating for a minute and she never hits him up then we can talk.

 

[Neo. The Only. The One.]

Naw....if you're on the go and moving a lot in your day to day activities, texting can be a nuisance because you have to stop what you're doing.

I mean, to be honest: I miss texts all the time.

Sometimes I see them, forget to respond, sometimes I think I responded already and don't realize I didn't till I look back at it... sometimes I'm just too busy to respond for several hours at a time.

So this is highly possible.

 

[Colicat]

Breh... if a woman likes you, she's not going to wait until you reach out to her first EVERY time....She's not going to go a week with out contact. She just isn't. Would YOU do that to someone you were into? It's not rocket science.

He's putting too much in the bucket and not getting anything back. At some point you have to respect yourself and stop. She knows what she's doing.

I have gone a week before without contacting a dude that I not only liked but viewed as husband material... I fell back on the contact because he wasn't expressing much interest in me....I figured he just wasn't that into me.... even though I was very much so into him....

OP just call and ask what is up.... Do you want to have a relationship with this person or are you just interested in sexing her?

 

[smARTmouf]

Thats just being petty and neurotically insecure. Theres nothing wrong with a woman not being overly eager to hit you up when y'all are just getting to know each other. Thats probably a good thing actually. It more than likely means shes not desperate and clingy, and has a healthy approach to relationships.

Now if they've been dating for a minute and she never hits him up then we can talk.

I guess we'll agree to disagree.

One way or another, a woman will let you know how she feels. If she requires a man to chase her, is she really worth it?...That's a tell-tale sign of a self-serving bytch that's going to give you head aches anyway... It's just common courtesy...

 

[smARTmouf]

I have gone a week before without contacting a dude that I not only liked but viewed as husband material... I fell back on the contact because he wasn't expressing much interest in me....I figured he just wasn't that into me.... even though I was very much so into him....

OP just call and ask what is up.... Do you want to have a relationship with this person or are you just interested in sexing her?

The caveat in your situation is it didn't begin like that. You made an adjustment based on HIM....OP starting things off and not getting no type of love...In the beginning I bet you wouldn't have gone that week...It was only when you fell back did you give that week..

 

[Colicat]

The caveat in your situation is it didn't begin like that. You made an adjustment based on HIM....OP starting things off and not getting no type of love...In the beginning I bet you wouldn't have gone that week...It was only when you fell back did you give that week..

True, but the OP didn't really specify if it was the beginning or if they have been seeing each other for a minute

 

[King Sun]

 

[Mr. Somebody]

just wondering how all of y'all deal with this.

You communicating with a girl trying to see what's up, and she never reaches out to you first... it's always you reaching out to her first, and if you don't reach out, you'll never hear from her.

the convo is decent enough when I do reach out.... but I can go a week without saying anything to her, and she wont even shoot me a text to see if I'm okay

I'm feeling like I'm ready to end this...

and chalk it up to the game...

She doesnt like you that much. May be better off as friends because friend? When i started dating my wife, I had to realize if i was ready for this or not because she did nothing but show interest, obedience and cooperation at all times friend. When its real, they wont leave you alone, unless you ask them to

 

[Dig]

Who's that in yo avi breh

Check out that miracle watts thread. Ion remember baby name but I got the pic frm there

 

[Lil Big Daddy]

just wondering how all of y'all deal with this.

You communicating with a girl trying to see what's up, and she never reaches out to you first... it's always you reaching out to her first, and if you don't reach out, you'll never hear from her.

the convo is decent enough when I do reach out.... but I can go a week without saying anything to her, and she wont even shoot me a text to see if I'm okay

I'm feeling like I'm ready to end this...

and chalk it up to the game...

I would end that shyt. Or just end my feelings towards her but keep fukkin her. Either way, fk dat bytch. I knew a chick like that.. stopped hittin her up first and never heard from her again. bytch seent' me downtown lookin fresh with my lil thottie lookin fresh like a month later and hit me up for 3 days straight. i was like everytime i seen her name pop up in my phone
shiiiiiiiiiiitt theres a difference between pursuin a woman and chasin her. i aint no mf'n chaser

 

[Box Cutta]

just wondering how all of y'all deal with this.

You communicating with a girl trying to see what's up, and she never reaches out to you first... it's always you reaching out to her first, and if you don't reach out, you'll never hear from her.

the convo is decent enough when I do reach out.... but I can go a week without saying anything to her, and she wont even shoot me a text to see if I'm okay

I'm feeling like I'm ready to end this...

and chalk it up to the game...

I mean...if she's the only girl you're fukking with than you might want to consider making one final push and if she remains distant...drop her.

But if you have a little harem of ladies you do the same stuff with....nothing wrong with keeping her in the mix *just in case*.

For me, it's just a matter of where your focus is. Is she apart of a mosaic.......or are you giving her your complete attention.... ???

But honestly....I personally make it a rule not to fukk with this messaging/twitter/facebook/technology based interaction too heavily. I kind of hate what this shyt has done to us....human coupling used to be so much easier and less confusing.