"If you make $80,000 you have no business marrying a woman that makes $35,000"

[Lord_nikon]

What she makes means nothing ,i have some exes that are bad with money in the lower and upper pay


35k + Frugal with money + Ambitious and no kids
i have no issues

 

[T’Challa’s Heir]

lol as you get older a broke bytch starts being unattractive. If you die, you want to be confident that she can hold it down if you pass prematurely. Y’all really want some dumb broke bytch spending all the insurance money and your kids don’t get shyt?

I get it men in general don’t care what a woman makes, but they should.

I think the issue is the phrasing of it and that men don’t care about it the way women want them to care about it. A woman’s salary is a relevant consideration, but an unattractive fat woman making 6 figures isn’t going to get the same boost a similarly situated man would.

I’d also argue that a decent number of women go out of their way to make men discount their salary. If she expects me to pay 90% of the bills, what good does her salary do me? It’s not like we can get a bigger house or pay it off quicker if she’s not contributing

 

[MikelArteta]

Most men don't care

 

[Umoja]

You dont need to consider the cost of divorce to get married. If your post divorce finances is part of your wedding planning then marriage isn’t for you.

That’s like not driving a car because you could get seriously injured if you get into an accident.

But it is illegal to drive without insurance . Poor example.

 

[HarlemHottie]

Your doctor is married to an attorney who doesn't cook, doesn't clean, and has the kids involved in every sport and after school program.

All those Doctors and Lawyers you mentioned would've been perfectly happy dating a college dropout if they girl they met in school never graduated. The career never factored into it.

My man is in finance. I haven't worked in 20 yrs, but we met at an ivy and his own bosses have offered me an 80k/ yr job just over drinks. Several different employers, in fact. (He has declined. We good without the wm interfering on our time.)

 

[KidJSoul]

Men generally dgaf how much a woman makes, although i get the logic. Eventually you gonna get divorce and owe alot more money to a broke woman then you would have if you have been with a successful one.

If she’s bad enough why would anyone care? Her money isn’t going to satisfy men this man.

Plus … not to go all 6 figures, 6 feet on anyone but making more than her to me is a must.

First comes the money
Then the power
Then the respect.

Honestly I personally wouldn’t care how much a woman makes. But this country penalizes u if u make significantly more than her and ur dumb enough to marry her or get her pregnant. This is the type of sh1t they need to teach in schools. If u don’t mind taking the risk of ur paychecks being garnished, by all means do you.

Us men usually don’t care how much a woman makes but maybe we should.

That's a female mindstate. And what happens when my career minded wife can't work due to pregnancy?

I will marry a woman I’m attracted to, makes me laugh and enjoy spending time with. I’m not gonna marry some miserable annoying stuck up bytch because she makes 100k a year.

Who runs away with the bag in the divorce

And what he said was solid. The title of the thread is somewhat misleading when the focus is pretty much on the implications.

When it comes to dating salary doesn't matter.

When it comes to marriage, you need to consider the cost of divorce. Still want to go through with it, get a prenup.

LMAO

MEN HAVE NEVER CARED ABOUT
HOW MUCH THEIR WIFE MAKES
AND ACTUALLY PREFERRED HER
TO A BE A STAY AT HOME MOM.

HE DOESNT SPEAK LIKE
A HETEROSEXUAL MAN.

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Yall are just setting yourselves up

More men should care about their wives' income. I'm not saying you have to marry one that currently works or will work long term but her job prospects should still factor in to your decision.

How many more stories of men marrying some bum chick only for her to leave and take half and he's miserable do y'all have to see to unserstand that a lot of women use marriage as a comeup/hustle?

Not to mention, it's about the exchange. If I'm a man, I bring home the money, provide, protect, lead, etc. That's a lot of shyt.

What does she do? Have sex and be pretty? Cook? I need more. Let her work, even if part time. Let her buy me shyt with her own money. Let her have a job and see how responsible she is with her own money, that she has some ambition, goals, etc.

This is how yall get played, being satisfied with her just cooking and sucking your dikk.

I'm NOT against stay at home wives by the way. I'm against not caring about income as a whole.

Maybe im retarded

Men generally don’t care about a women’s income and that’s exactly why men get the short end of the stick when it’s over. Perhaps men should start looking for women that’s equally yoked or at least close to it.

I’m probably going to be in the minority here but I actually care a lot about my partner’s net worth / socioeconomic status

exactly. I don’t get how nikkas aren’t holding women to high standards.

Exactly.

It's weird how many dudes are proud of not giving shyt about what their wife makes as long as she's sexy....

... and then complain about women being gold diggers.

If you're trying to raise family, build wealth, etc. Why not care about income?

I'm not saying she has to be richer then you - I get being hesitant about the dynamics because those relationships don't last long. But if you earn 80k, date a woman that earns at least 40k.

If you want to marry a housewife, shyt, she better be the best submissive housewife.

 

[Rozay Oro]

My bad, you left the gender portion of your profile blank. Didn't know you were brehettes. nothing against it either way though. if you and her are scissoring each other thats cool too

I’m a breh and rawtid a brehette. Most lesbian couples don’t even scissor, that’s a porno thang.

 

[Bboystyle]

Your lady can make bank and still get you for alimony if the marriage falls through.

Coli nikkas be saying shyt just to say it

 

[KidJSoul]

Marry up, not down my ninjas (and by up, that doesn't necessarilly mean money. Mindset bruhs.)

Exactly. She don't need to be as rich as you or even have a life long 60 hr career but damn, I'm hearing dudes here say they don't give a fukk about her income or job and just straight ridiculous

I hope they at least care about her values and long term plan

 

[Piff Perkins]

I'm an accountant, and i was actually married to an engineer once.
But i didn't marry her because she was engineer. We just met in college. You drawing conclusions based on employment when it has more to do with general proximity. All those Doctors and Lawyers you mentioned would've been perfectly happy dating a college dropout if they girl they met in school never graduated. The career never factored into it.

What is proximity in a relationship or even friendship perspective: successful people tend to be around successful people. There's also the social status aspect. You know who isn't perfectly happy dating a college dropout? Doctors who want a successful woman to trot out at the hospital benefit dinner, or the alumni dinner, or the host of other events these people go to. If you've been in those situations you've watched the "so what do you do" barbs that get slung by wives at these events. I've seen those not-so-friendly laughs and "good for you, I don't know how I'd stay sane at home with my children" bars first hand.

In short these aren't conclusions, it's a general fact on how marriage and dating practices of successful men and women. The upper middle class of this country is fueled by white suburban households where both parents work. Where two parents making six figures each are doing everything humanly possible to ensure little Bobby joins every club, plays every sport, and checks every box to ensure he gets into best best university possible. I'm not surprised Kevin Samuels doesn't understand this, as a gay man whose never had a heterosexual relationship, and lived much of his adult life broke shacking up with single women. But I'm surprised successful brehs like yourself are caping for this too. If you're an accountant...who are your white coworkers married to? Who is your boss married to? Who is the CEO married to? Overall in this country, the average answer is: someone who makes equal or near as much money.

 

[Insensitive]

I'm going to judge my partner holistically and part of that judgement....includes her fukking salary.

Y'all don't know the half when the she's broke AF AND she's got a bad attitude.

 

[Afro]

When you both have something to lose, you have less of a chance to get screwed

 

[KidJSoul]

This is categorically not true based on a variety of stats. The highest earning men tend to marry high earning women. Doctors tend to marry lawyers. Lawyers tend to marry financial advisers. Engineers marry accountants. Brehs running with this bullshyt from Kevin Samuels like it's reality. I can't think of a better illustration that a lot of people don't know successful people, have never been to the suburbs, etc. Your doctor is married to an attorney who doesn't cook, doesn't clean, and has the kids involved in every sport and after school program.

This

 

[KidJSoul]

My man is in finance. I haven't worked in 20 yrs, but we met at an ivy and his own bosses have offered me an 80k/ yr job just over drinks. Several different employers, in fact. (He has declined. We good without the wm interfering on our time.)

Obviously, there's nothing wrong with a partner that doesn't work.

I just get confused with people who don't care AT ALL about their partner working. Because you need to vet harder at that point

If it works for you and your spouse then hey, hats off to you

 

[CHICAGO]

Yall are just setting yourselves up

More men should care about their wives' income. I'm not saying you have to marry one that currently works or will work long term but her job prospects should still factor in to your decision.

How many more stories of men marrying some bum chick only for her to leave and take half and he's miserable do y'all have to see to unserstand that a lot of women use marriage as a comeup/hustle?

Not to mention, it's about the exchange. If I'm a man, I bring home the money, provide, protect, lead, etc. That's a lot of shyt.

What does she do? Have sex and be pretty? Cook? I need more. Let her work, even if part time. Let her buy me shyt with her own money. Let her have a job and see how responsible she is with her own money, that she has some ambition, goals, etc.

This is how yall get played, being satisfied with her just cooking and sucking your dikk.

I'm NOT against stay at home wives by the way. I'm against not caring about income as a whole.

Maybe im retarded




Exactly.

It's weird how many dudes are proud of not giving shyt about what their wife makes as long as she's sexy....

... and then complain about women being gold diggers.

If you're trying to raise family, build wealth, etc. Why not care about income?

I'm not saying she has to be richer then you - I get being hesitant about the dynamics because those relationships don't last long. But if you earn 80k, date a woman that earns at least 40k.

If you want to marry a housewife, shyt, she better be the best submissive housewife.

WHEN YOU GET MARRIED
AND HAVE KIDS YOURE
GONNA REALIZE YOU WANT
YOUR YOUNG CHILDREN IN
YOU OR YOUR WIFES PRESENCE AT ALL TIMES.

I CAN TELL A LOT OF YOU
CATS HAVENT LIVED LIFE YET.

ALL THAT WORK shyt IS COOL
WHEN NO KIDS ARE INVOLVED.

ITS BEEN SET UP LIKE
THIS FOR CENTURIES FOR A REASON.

MARRIED WOMEN WORKING
IS SOME NEW shyt.

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