If you marry a woman without her completing a 1 year probationary period consisting of...

[LA Fisher]

My bad....when you said "you can't be a bum nikka" I thought you meant a broke person with no money. I must have got it wrong then.

 

[ebonykiss]

Practice for what?

Practice living together before you fully commit yourself to that person

 

[LA Fisher]

Yall act like marriage is something you have to do. Stop complaining about it theres tons of women willing to sit on your face and throw something on the stove before she dips out. If suddenly, the majority of women are unfit for marriage, what happens to the men?


fukk outta here, yall aint victims and what kind of man blames all his problems on women. Seems like you boys need to look in the mirror.

Do you plan to cook for your man every night?

 

[Rawtid]

Yah but its still important for women to see how your and your man interact, as soon as you get engaged I think you should try living together for a bit, not saying anyone has to sell their own apartment/home just yet , you definitely need the practice

I agree with this. Live together for a bit but just know you can go the fukk back home if shyt goes awry. At least if keep separate living spaces you can back to your respective corners, cool off and reunite with the intent to fix what went wrong. You shack up and shyt goes wrong, there is no where to go and that often creates a hostile living environment making the relationship irreparable.

 

[Ohnoits]

I don't plan on ever living with a man unless we're married.

You never really know someone until you live with them.

 

[Bruh Man 5th Flo]

They say that statistically, couples that live together before marriage have a higher rate of breaking up

lol the irony....i'm about to fire my girl after xmas

 

[Arishok]

Why do I get the feeling that most people who would be against this didn't grow up with a large amount of siblings?

 

[Remote]

lol the irony....i'm about to fire my girl after xmas

You trying to get that last gift?

 

[InDePickWest]

Um, friend, no matter the race, thats a cultural thing. One of my Nigerian lady friends i once asked if Nigerian women cook, She wrote back to me * an african woman that does not cook is an abomination* so yes i think it is cultural. Maybe its just a city girl thing for a woman not to cook and think shes a man.

My mother told me not to cook for a man who doesnt provide for me. In the old days women used to cook for men because they were outside working to put food on the table for the family, you nikkas thats sitting on your ass can grab a can opener, a thing of tuna slab some mayo on a bun and call yourselves full.

BUT if the man is in fact..being a man, treating the woman right, and providing for her then yeah..the least she could do is cook for him ..not everynight but the majority.

 

[Arishok]

My mother told me not to cook for a man who doesnt provide for me. In the old days women used to cook for men because they were outside working to put food on the table for the family, you nikkas thats sitting on your ass can grab a can opener, a thing of tuna slab some mayo on a bun and call yourselves full.

BUT if the man is in fact..being a man, treating the woman right, and providing for her then yeah..the least she could do is cook for him ..not everynight but the majority.

The thing I love about my mom and dad is their partnership. When my dad is working late, even if my mom just got off work and cleaned up the house, she would still cook for him. And in turn, my dad would cook for my mom on his days off when she was working late.

 

[InDePickWest]

Do you plan to cook for your man every night?

I like to cook so yeah but he doesnt allow me to pay for things in his presence. Hes a real man. Ive said it before Ive never cooked for any previous bf but this one I value. He cooks for me sometimes too. Yall make it seem like a woman cooking for you is her bowing down to you..and if thats the case what woman would even want to be in your presence let alone sit down and have a meal with you? Most of you guys have lil real life experience

 

[Mike Ock]

Damn, Ma. You're equating your fiancee to a co-worker. Ya'll broads are cold out here in these streets

yeah man...don't forget ya hat and coat bro.

 

[Wild self]

Men are too scared to make demands.
It's a shame that some guys are scared to ask for a home cooked meal every night
But But But she's too busy to clean the house and cook

LOL @ a female running the house.

 

[InDePickWest]

The thing I love about my mom and dad is their partnership. When my dad is working late, even if my mom just got off work and cleaned up the house, she would still cook for him. And in turn, my dad would cook for my mom on his days off when she was working late.

Thank you. Relationships are a partnership. No one person is lesser than the other. These boys make a relationship/marriage sound like slavery..good luck finding a happy wife who stays faithful till the end with yall type of beliefs.

 

[Rawtid]

Out of curiosity, are you willing to "sacrifice" anything for someone you're not married to? And you tone makes it seem like this is a dude you're just dating instead of the man that you're making concerted plans to marry.

Just like you may say there is a difference between a boyfriend and husband, is there no difference between a boyfriend and a fiance?

Peace

Once you're exclusive with someone, you sacrifice. There is no way around it. The level of sacrifice and what you choose to sacrifice is going to vary depending on where you are in your relationship. Of course there is a difference between a fiance and a boyfriend and I wouldn't mind staying with my fiance for a few months and vice versa so we can see what it's like but actually sharing financial obligations and relinquishing my space is something I'd consider only for some I'm married to.