If you marry a woman without her completing a 1 year probationary period consisting of...

[Nintendough]

You wouldnt put hands on anybody. Stop trying to impress males on the internet, that is homosexual behavior.

And if a man wants a traditional woman he has to fulfill traditional male responsibilities. Which means holding down the fort financially 100%. If you can't do that,

Plus in any case, one should demand respect from everyone they deal with in every situation. But actual respect. Not some fantasy of servitude concocted by a bunch of unsuccessful dudes on a messageboard. The way u nikkas talk, its clear u dont know the first thing about respect.



Its so easy to type tough. Stop it. Who are you trying to impress?

Calm down lil man. DaChampIsDucktales took all the simp daps. You disagree than so be it. Stop operating in your feelings and hop off the simp soap box.

 

[Batman]

you married a white girl...you can't relate

Oh here we go.

 

[Rawtid]

Do you believe you can be a union without the law being involved? Do you date men with the intention that you may get married? What's your criteria for someone you can spend the rest of your life with. Also what sacrifice do you mean?

I couldn't put myself in that place mentally without marriage.

If I met a guy I would get his thoughts on marrige before I entered into something exclusive with him.

I don't have some set list of criteria. It's really going to depend on the me and the guy and how we get along.

When you're in a relationshp you have to make moves based on not only what's good for you, but what's good for your relationship. I think it takes a lot to consider someone else's feelings when you're making decisions especially if you're used to doing what you want. I don't know about anyone else but that is a big enough step for me without having to lose my privacy and financial freedom.

 

[Batman]

I couldn't put myself in that place mentally without marriage.

If I met a guy I would get his thoughts on marrige before I entered into something exclusive with him.

I don't have some set list of criteria. It's really going to depend on the me and the guy and how we get along.

When you're in a relationshp you have to make moves based on not only what's good for you, but what's good for your relationship. I think it takes a lot to consider someone else's feelings when you're making decisions especially if you're used to doing what you want. I don't know about anyone else but that is a big enough step for me without having to lose my privacy and financial freedom.

If the integrity of your relationship is based on a piece of paper, then that's basically how strong it is. Or however that would be worded.

 

[Chris.B]

The only man I would cook for and clean up after who isn't providing is my son just like any mother would but I feel since a lot of men didn't have a male figure in their home, they don't know how to be men, so when they look for a wife instead of looking for a partner they're looking for a mother. Any man who feels a woman should cater to him without returning the favor because "that's a woman's job" is a prime example of this mentality.

P.S. Again not talking about any specific male posters here

I can't even let this blatant disrespect of the black male slide.
There can only be one head in a family....my parents have been married for over 30 years all my brothers and sisters are educated doing big things.
2 CEO's have never successfully ran a business...there can only be 1 CEO in a house!!!!!!

 

[Mike Ock]

I don't see what you're trying to get at

No insult thrown. I'm just saying I think kids help stabilize things as far as responsibilities from each parent. So the way you saw them act might be different from the way they were before you. Having kids switches up the mentality for a lot (and hopefully for the better).

 

[InDePickWest]

Just answer this. If youre splitting bills with your future husband, and he doesnt want to cook, are your children going to eat Hot Pockets for dinner on a regular basis or are you just going to make enough food for you and your children and tell your husband to eat cereal?

I would make enough for my children and I. If he is not providing for the family Im not going to let us go close to broke feeding a man, even if I have a job, this is if he doesnt want to work, not if he got laid off for a few months or even a year or he cant work, I refuse to be that bytch working hard taking care of everything while her nikka plays PS3 all day. In my family when we ate dinner, children ate first, women second, men last. A man getting up to get his plate after the prayer was said would be chastised to hell. Ive seen it happen when my older cousin brought her first bf over. My family still doesnt let her forget that. In the Bible it says if a man doesnt work he shouldnt eat. Just how I was raised, man.

 

[Mr. Somebody]

I would make enough for my children and I. If he is not providing for the family Im not going to let us go close to broke feeding a man, even if I have a job, this is if he doesnt want to work, not if he got laid off for a few months or even a year or he cant work, I refuse to be that bytch working hard taking care of everything while her nikka plays PS3 all day. In my family when we ate dinner, children ate first, women second, men last. A man getting up to get his plate after the prayer was said would be chastised to hell. Ive seen it happen when my older cousin brought her first bf over. My family still doesnt let her forget that. In the Bible it says if a man doesnt work he shouldnt eat. Just how I was raised, man.

Very passionate post and i can feel this. Thank you. I guess im trying to understand your definition of providing. A man thats providing is one that has a job and contributes or one that pays all the bills.

 

[Chris.B]

Oh here we go.

He married a white girl....don't even give me the BS excuse of he fell in love with her and all that nonsense.....he married her because most black women are not suitable marriageable partners. They refuse to submit( yes I said submit).

get at me.

Most of you fools grew up in single parents home so u can't relate to a woman catering to a man.

 

[Rawtid]

If the integrity of your relationship is based on a piece of paper, then that's basically how strong it is. Or however that would be worded.

LOL The integrity of my relationship would not be based on a piece of paper just my willingness to sacrifice EVERYTHING. However that makes me look in your eyes is whatever.

 

[Anothergirl]

Touche.
But divorce is breaking up, so

yeah i feel you... i only differentiated because some idiot quoted you saying "well at least he avoided getting married in the first place" or some dumb shyt like that. uuuuh no ....divorce rates are higher for those that cohabitate before marriage dumbasses.

 

[Arishok]

I can't even let this blatant disrespect of the black male slide.
There can only be one head in a family....my parents have been married for over 30 years all my brothers and sisters are educated doing big things.
2 CEO's have never successfully ran a business...there can only be 1 CEO in a house!!!!!!

What blatant disrespect and when did I mention black males in particular? My post wasn't even about the "head of the household" breh.

 

[StickStickly]

You never really know someone until you live with them.

You can just do a surprise 8 hour visit at their house if you want to see how messy they are. You really don't have to live with someone. It's not like you won't ever step foot into/sleep over a potential mate's house if you're not planning on living with someone. There are plenty of ways to see what the person is really like .

 

[PartyHeart]

Just answer this. If youre splitting bills with your future husband, and he doesnt want to cook, are your children going to eat Hot Pockets for dinner on a regular basis or are you just going to make enough food for you and your children and tell your husband to eat cereal?

You should be asking yourself why a man, a father, feels ok refusing to cook for his own children apparently because he is trying to fill some standard that its not his duty but only his wife's. Why should a husband 'not want to cook' when he has hungry children looking at him? Or a wife who he supposedly loves who needs a break and he has more energy that day than her?

You guys need to know that real marriages that work are partnerships. One person slaving away to preserve the others ego is doomed to fail.

 

[LA Fisher]

He married a white girl....don't even give me the BS excuse of he fell in love with her and all that nonsense.....he married her because most black women are not suitable marriageable partners. They refuse to submit( yes I said submit).

get at me.

Most of you fools grew up in single parents home so u can't relate to a woman catering to a man.