I'm dating this single mom

[The Mad Titan]

There are some amazing single mothers out there. Some that just got screwed by previous relationship and no good men. And there are plenty of no good reckless single mothers. Meeting and getting to know a good single mom is an experience. I dated one for a bit and based on my character she introduced me to her kid early, it kinda "just happen" because you know kids come 1st. So I ended up meeting the lil one probably like 2 months in.

He was a cool kid, we played wii and mobile games together all the time.


She had only be with 2 people one being her kids father and she was making 6 figures smart, and was into anime, comics, and really chill.


I couldn't do it though, I knew I wasn't ready for a kid that is already there at the time. I want kids but I wasn't ready to jump into a pre made family lol at that time.



If you not ready to take care of a child dont waste this woman's time, especially if she's a good chick. One thing about single mom's that I've noticed is they are very emotional, taking care of kids and then messing with men is alot.


Dudes gonna say just smash and enjoy it.... I say let her go before it becomes something nasty, unless you ready to really commit. Dont take that lightly.


Leave the single women for the savages or the dudes thats willing and ready to commit to that life.

 

[DarkHorse23]

not at all. Not every single mom got knocked up by a "thug". They sometimes would be in a relationship with a good guy and it didnt work out.

ok sure.......

 

[PAWG connoisseur]

Single moms are trash.

Negged. One starred.

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Beautiful story. You go girl!

men can't get pregnant.


it's liek this we can up and disappear after the nut, and well...you can't that baby is with you for 9months of pure bliss




we don't call ya'll hoes for just fun. it's to protect you from that 9 months of pleasure


we tryna help you potential whores save yourselves from that pain. worse still, we want to prevent you from that eternal internal tumoil of knowing you extinguished life from your womb. you know that ol' killas remorse




also you loose women. empresses my ass


btw queen means the king's whore just an fyi

 

[ezrathegreat]

Ol Russell Wilson azz brehs

 

[DarkHorse23]

No you don't. You simply have years and years of bitterness around not being "chose" by the girls you desired in middle-school, high-school, and young adulthood (I doubt you went to college).

Instead of looking in the mirror and really peering into the essence of who you are, your wants, your desires, your needs, your ambitions, your flaws, your insecurities, and your fears, you decided to walk around and play victim all day long.

People change. The girls you wanted back then are not the same girls. The person you were back then should not be the person you are now. You should understand this change and flow with it, instead you're stuck with the imagine of who you were back then and the hurt and pain you endured during that time.

The truth is, they didn't want you back then because you were lame. The truth is, they don't want you now because you walk around with a chip on your shoulder, still in victim mode, looking to hurt anyone who you come into contact with.

Smarten up man.

Initially i wasn't going to respond to this, but hey "fukk it" i got some free time before i'm off to enjoy easter dinner. So i'll entertain this.

(1) I did go to college, so try again (Quinnipiac University, Class of 2015)

(2) Calling me "bitter" doesn't negate anything that i've said. That's a classic deflection that women use(maybe you're one) when they know something a man has said is true.

(3) Who says i HAVEN'T done a self assessment of myself? You're making assumptions without knowing me. I know i have flaws, insecurities, weaknesses, i've never claimed to be perfect. Once again though the subject of this thread isn't about putting me on trial, it's about whether OP should continue dating this woman or keep it casual. And in my opinion i don't think he should, and nor would I. So yes i'd rather be single than be with a woman who is unattractive and with 2-3 kids. I'd rather fukk escorts the rest of my life than be the "clean up" dude. So nah "breh" you don't know me and you should "smarten up".

(4) fukk you

....peace

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

My last 2 gf's (current and previous of 7 years) both had a kid.

Listen people here might play you and acting all sideways like its fukked up, but it aint easy being a single mother, a lot of times they have their shyt together MUCH more then a women with no kids. A lof of them had very rough patches in life. I am still friends with my ex and her daughter is best friends with my niece to this day. I dated her for 6 years, her kid was 1 when we started dated, we broke up when she was 7 and i helped raise her, changed diapers and shyt. It was never planned and didn't really think it out, it just happens man. I still love that girl, her family still trust me picking her up and having her chill with my niece.

My current, she hid the fact she had a kid for our first bunch of dates, i guess she wanted to feel me out and make sure i wasnt a piece of shyt before i met her, she was also worried i would dip on her when she told me. Not only did i not dip, but i told her about my ex, and even let her know she has to be cool with it, I am not messing with my ex on the dl or anything, so it can be difficult for a girl to accept that, but its simple I will never let a new gf break that friendship my ex's daughter and niece have, they are literally best friends.

If taken seriously by both sides and no shady shyt going on, it can be a great thing man, and i will say this now, its not always easy man, especially if baby daddy drama rises.

If you stick with it bro, congrats and that kid dont deserve her moms to have guys running in/out of her life.

one of a few "best case scenarios" a lot of these type of relationships go sideways then a mf. it's usually SM that want a well-to-do "nice guy" code for man they can take advantage of.

 

[TeFLoNBoMBz]

why yall end up breaking up

She started a new job and I caught her cheating with her co worker.

 

[LurkMoar]

it didn't work out with them. they separated, but the kids still maintain a relationship with her baby daddy. they go live with him over the summer in Memphis.

Abort



These are not the nikkas to be fukked with

 

[DarkHorse23]

Couple things: This is real advice, hope you aren't trolling.

1. Getting close to the kids early on will cause both you and the child to form a really strong bond. Even if pops is in their lives, they are going to form a bond with anybody in their space and spending time with them. You should set those expectations appropriately and not go too hard too fast.

If you don't plan on being there in the long term, you're only setting them up for hurt. If their mother has feelings for you and views you as a good figure in their lives, she may not necessarily see this so it is up to you to create boundaries and set expectations.

2. You have to be honest with yourself and mature quickly if you do decide to pursue this long-term. If it works out, more might be expected of you. If it doesn't work out, don't be one of those guys on that, "damn, this bytch a single mom, I shouldn't have given her the time of day" bitter stuff that a lot of dudes get on.

Just be honest about what you want, where you see yourself, and if they factor into it (and if so, how).

3. LOGOFF THE INTERNET, ESPECIALLY THE COLI, AND LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE. Don't take advice from internet sociopaths who have little to no relationship experience and view everything through an imaginary lens.

STFU bytch ass nikka

 

[Dameon Farrow]

Why even ask anyone on this site about dating???

It's your life, it's your heart, it's your dikk

Do what u want to do

Really not the best place to ask for advice on these matters because the same dudes talking all this negative talk will be the same dude talking about they haven't had a woman in forever or all in no fap threads telling on themselves. I'd tell OP to go with his gut.

@Raheem95 most of these dudes see no parts of a female. That's real.

 

[wickedsm]

one of a few "best case scenarios" a lot of these type of relationships go sideways then a mf. it's usually SM that want a well-to-do "nice guy" code for man they can take advantage of.

serious question for you or any of the brehs here
do relationships with childless women not go sideways too?
just reading from you guys on here i hear all kinds of negative shyt about relationships with any women
[or missed relationships]

- and yes i realize that relationships involving 1 or more partner with children is more challenging

 

[meth68]

one of a few "best case scenarios" a lot of these type of relationships go sideways then a mf. it's usually SM that want a well-to-do "nice guy" code for man they can take advantage of.

My guard is always up, it just sucks that a lot of guys pre-judge all single mothers out there. They are def not all the same, a lot of times they are done with the bullshyt and just want a dude that accepts her situation, once they find that they can turn out to be the best gf/wife you ever find. Maybe i been lucky

 

[1 other person]

serious question for you or any of the brehs here
do relationships with childless women not go sideways too?
just reading from you guys on here i hear all kinds of negative shyt about relationships with any women
[or missed relationships]

- and yes i realize that relationships involving 1 or more partner with children is more challenging

Of course. But why settle being 2nd or 3rd in whatever relationship, when you can date a childless woman and be 1st? Is that a hard concept to understand? I know you're just playing devil's advocate but lets be reality here.............

 

[Rick Fox at UNC]

My previous relationship was with a single mom. Her son was 4 when we met and we split when he was 10. I pretty much raised him. I put him in sports, helped with homework took him places, etc. Out of all the bullshyt we went through the most hurtful part is when you break up you realize you have no rights to the child. I spent 6 years with him and that was my lil homie. I'll advise any dude to be careful b/c the kids will grow on you and vice versa you and if you break up it hurts twice as much.




I had to burn my cape after that.

Man look...

You seriously have to check yourself like, "I'm not this kids father, I'm not this kids father, he has a father and he has a mother, he will be alright."

Cats have no idea man.

not at all. Not every single mom got knocked up by a "thug". They sometimes would be in a relationship with a good guy and it didnt work out.

Truth. I'm sure there are messes out the bunch, but a lot situations are women who have kids during marriage and it just doesn't work out.