Conveniently overlooking the fact that she needs to tighten up her self esteem.
Insecure women eliminates herself on ‘Pop The Balloon’; black men get blamed for it
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OF COURSE attractive dark skinned women get picked LOL
That’s one of the benefits of being a pretty woman; your “look” will be appreciated by various people. If not your own, someone from another group.
Colorism is DEF a thing, but it’s most obvious when we are talking about average/less attractive women.
The average LS woman has a completely different experience in our culture than the average DS woman, that’s the point.
Every community has its own beauty standard. For us, it’s light skin. And average in the face LS woman will still regarded differently than girls who are darker than herAnd brehs can deny it all they want, but like I’ve said before, sit and have a conversation with DS HS girls or girls in undergrad and listen to what they say. You have HS and college girl who have discussed this ad naseum on social media.
For whites, for example, it’s blond hair/blue eyes. Chick could be hit in the face, but as long as she has natural blond hair and blue eyes she’s beautiful to their community. Those are the features they prefer.
That doesn’t mean brunettes, red heads, women with brown or green eyes, etc don’t have guys who are attracted to them; it’s just acknowledging that many of their men prefer blond hair and blue eyes. To the point white women dye their hair blond and wear colored contacts (who you think colored contacts were invented for? White women who wanted to fool white men and pretend to have blue eyes).
Therein lies the problem. The average to unattractive woman attributes colour as opposed to features as the reason for failure. LS on average will have long typically curly hair, green / grey / hazel eyes, pronounced cheeks & jaw. It crates the "exotic" look that isn't common. Whiteness value blonde/blue eyes is because its a recessive gene AKA meant to be a rare occurrence. Being LS won't save ugliness: Storm Reid is LS & doesn't have exotic features thus isn't more desired than Nia, Halle, Lori, Lupita who vary in complexion but have those features. Its the reason Mediterraneans love DS because the look is "foreign". I'm not denying DS work on a curve as "exotic" features that're lauded are frequent in LS, mix or other races. It doesn't mean complexion was the limiting feature. If anything I'd argue the perception ( & the argument I concede for colourism ) that DS people are more combative ( due to low inhibition ) & hardy ( plays a part in getting improper medical aid/attention ) affects them more - esp from non-blacks.
EA
A Pound & A Prayer
We‘re really having an epidemic for losers. If you don’t think you’re attractive enough for the men on the show, why the hell are you on a dating show? Pop the Balloon is psyops 
These are the same dudes that also say they don't approach women because they're all getting flew out by celebrities and letting the pookie and ray-rays smash too. Or the woman wants all their money and will up and leave them. Or they're just trying to get free food out of them. So a lot of their opinions are filled with the very same insecurities and assumptions as the women they try to call out.
You got it exactly right.
Remember when they stalked that Tabitha chick for like 2 or 3 years straight just because she was light skinned.
Every thread they made was calling her fat but saying how much they still wanted her.
It got so bad she came on the forum to cussed them out and they loved that she was just paying them attention.
They act like there aren't 100s of threads on this forum with their colorism on display.
Colorism definitely exists and yep, SOME black men prefer light skin or white women or whoever. No denial.
Like others said tho, the reason why a lot of black men tuned out this discussion years ago is because it became THE default crutch why a woman who might just so happen to be dark skinned hasn't gotten chosen. Maybe it IS your complexion (I'm acknowledging it!!). Maybe you're fat. Maybe you're skinny. Maybe your teeth are jacked up. Maybe it's your acne. Maybe your breath stink. Maybe you stink. Maybe you're a bum. Maybe you're just a bytch. It could be anything but admitting that might require being honest with yourselves about what you lack.
Nobody's entitled to anybody and yeah this 100% applies to men always whining about why they lonely too. Dark skinned people would've gone extinct a long time if no black men wanted you. "Well she's not his preference." So what if that's the case. Most people don't end up with their preference. That's why most couples are just average ass people.
Me, I tune out to a point not because I don't think colorism is real but mainly I don't feel black women ever acknowledge the role THEY played in putting these complexes onto their daughters from a very young age. Regardless of what some men may prefer, the mother's are the ones that put the 'Just For Me" relaxers on their 3 year old daughter's heads and so on. And what kinda weird shyt is that anyway if you're trying to impress upon preschooler what will make them more attractive in the future (IF that was the logic behind it)? Growing up some of the most hateful insults about dark skinned people as a whole I heard came from black women. Hell the black men y'all say constantly shyt on dark skinned women probably got it from momma too.
But yep no denying colorism is real, y'all just dilute its impact by constantly defaulting to it on everything and we tune out because we're always the reason why.
Like others said tho, the reason why a lot of black men tuned out this discussion years ago is because it became THE default crutch why a woman who might just so happen to be dark skinned hasn't gotten chosen. Maybe it IS your complexion (I'm acknowledging it!!). Maybe you're fat. Maybe you're skinny. Maybe your teeth are jacked up. Maybe it's your acne. Maybe your breath stink. Maybe you stink. Maybe you're a bum. Maybe you're just a bytch. It could be anything but admitting that might require being honest with yourselves about what you lack.
Nobody's entitled to anybody and yeah this 100% applies to men always whining about why they lonely too. Dark skinned people would've gone extinct a long time if no black men wanted you. "Well she's not his preference." So what if that's the case. Most people don't end up with their preference. That's why most couples are just average ass people.
Me, I tune out to a point not because I don't think colorism is real but mainly I don't feel black women ever acknowledge the role THEY played in putting these complexes onto their daughters from a very young age. Regardless of what some men may prefer, the mother's are the ones that put the 'Just For Me" relaxers on their 3 year old daughter's heads and so on. And what kinda weird shyt is that anyway if you're trying to impress upon preschooler what will make them more attractive in the future (IF that was the logic behind it)? Growing up some of the most hateful insults about dark skinned people as a whole I heard came from black women. Hell the black men y'all say constantly shyt on dark skinned women probably got it from momma too.
But yep no denying colorism is real, y'all just dilute its impact by constantly defaulting to it on everything and we tune out because we're always the reason why.
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nairdas
I've Destroyed Whole Planets
Okay, 9 times out of 10 the person that wouldn't be in a relationship with you because of your skin tone probably wouldn't fukk you either. Getting dikk is where you start and it's up to you as a person to find a decent man out of that and you being good enough to keep. Because 98% of the men that talks to you are trying to fukk you anyway. Women like to delude themselves out of that fact.
Json
Superstar
This is what I don’t get.We‘re really having an epidemic for losers. If you don’t think you’re attractive enough for the men on the show, why the hell are you on a dating show? Pop the Balloon is psyops
You already put yourself in front of a camera to be judged. That’s like entering a beauty pageant and then taking yourself out cause you think your body shape won’t win.
African Peasant
Veteran
It's both, especially when their color is what people attack first
Whent tha rapper attacked darski, he did not attack their eyes or cheekbone, he called them "darkbutt"
Even a beautiful DS woman will feel a certain way about that attack
O.T.I.S.
Veteran
Seen this episode ( on MTR of all places 
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She wasn’t the only one who did it. An immature lightskin chick who kept talking about “providers” also kamikazed herself too just to ask for her balloon back right away.
So all them hoes in those comments lying… they just looking for another reason to shyt on black men.
Some of the baddest females on there be darkskinned. Thats their own insecurities… I wouldn’t have given them the balloons back… they don’t do that for the men.
And lightskinned nikkas stay with a darkskinned chick anyway. Both are judged by color
)She wasn’t the only one who did it. An immature lightskin chick who kept talking about “providers” also kamikazed herself too just to ask for her balloon back right away.
So all them hoes in those comments lying… they just looking for another reason to shyt on black men.
Some of the baddest females on there be darkskinned. Thats their own insecurities… I wouldn’t have given them the balloons back… they don’t do that for the men.
And lightskinned nikkas stay with a darkskinned chick anyway. Both are judged by color
You always duck my rebuttalsAll of this.
All of this.
Someone claimed I disappear when colorism is discussed, but that’s far from true.
Black women on this board have discussed these exact points for years on here. Dudes don’t want to listen, or say that we are holding on to experiences from HS and need to get over it.
But dudes are allowed to remember the dark skinned girls who didn’t like them when they were kids, and that’s a perfectly good reason to decide to PAWG or chase Latinas when they are grown.
That’s why I don’t bother with the disingenuous conversations.
I’ve had HBCU educated negros tell me to my face they don’t like “nappy” hair
(texturism).
Which is why when many of our men say they prefer natural hair and hate weaves, the natural hair many are referring to is hair with a looser texture; finding Black women with softer, looser hair. Let the latinas tell you what Black men they date say about Black women's hair, or how it’s so nice they can let their hair get wet and it’s still straight/curly, etc.
I already mentioned in another thread yesterday how because of my facial features (nose), dudes ask me if I’m mixed with something. When I would blow my hair out or rock a curly weave Hispanic ppl would walk up to me speaking Spanish thinking I was Dominican or something, and brehs who thought I wasn’t “just Black” or “regular”’would be legit disappointed when I confirmed I was Black and Black.
I mentioned on here before how when I was younger, dudes would literally hold my hand, look down, run their fingers across my hand and VERBALLY CONFIRM that they could see the veins in my hand. Why would they do that? Because I’m brown skinned. I’m dark to them, but not so dark that they can’t see through my skin.
I mentioned the “Blue Vein Society” cuz that shyt is textbook colorism from OUR history and OUR people.
This sis breaks it down well
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And it’s not that I don’t acknowledge that Black men can experience colorism from women in our community. Some of us can be just as ignorant and hurtful about certain things, but I won’t say it is on the same scale.
As it was noted in this thread, even this site is proof. The way y’all categorize/describe women strictly based on skin color or ethnicity. DS women thread, LS women thread, Caribbean women thread, PAWG thread, Latina threads, etc. Can’t just be “drop pics of beautiful women” thread.
The way y’all categorize women/looks is completely different, and the difference is always the fact that women are judged initially/primarily on looks/attractiveness, and when dark skin is considered less attractive in general, you will always be considered less than LS women simply because of your skin. You have to be an above average darker skinned woman to balance the playing field.
As men, y’all aren’t primarily judged on looks. Being fit, having your life in order, hell just knowing how to talk to women will get you in there because women/society doesn’t judge y’all the same way.
At the end of the day, men generally do the approaching, y’all are hunters. The women who usually get the most attention are LS.
And the LS baby with “good hair” is a moot point. Part of the desire for a LS or different race partner for both sexes is to reduce their features in their next generation.
Damaged Black women may be more VOCAL about it, but the damaged men running to Becky or Maria have the exact same desire.
@KidJSoul don’t do it; I’ve never ducked a colorism discussion.
You didn't address any of what I said.
Everything you said is true, I don't deny colorism against bw and I already said bm act obtuse on the issue.
But you never acknowledge the points I bring up in response because it would force you to do some of the same reflection you want BM to do. At best you say "some bm experience colorism but it's not on the same level".
(Also... saying "black men are allowed to remember the dark skinned girls who didn't like then as kids" is wrong. No one allows brehs to open up about colorism. They get dismissed. Even on this forum they do, quit capping. Again, look at how Terrel Owen's got slandered. If you can bring up lil wayne's lyric, I can bring up TO)
Json
Superstar
I’m isolating this but I agree with your post in a certain context.
In the real world you are right. In the context of an artificial dating show it’s just her insecurities.
She’s already make a choice to give up control and be judged by signing up. She just popped the balloon to maintain control based on a made up story. That’s the crux of the problem. That’s the real insecurity, imo. Just give the dude a chance.
She could have stank breath or a bad personality or just not gel. Any number of things before her skin tone.
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Majority of women really have to find something more productive to do with their 
in 2025
in 2025
But that’s the point—
DS work on a curve in OUR OWN COMMUNITY because of the things you mentioned. It’s what dark skin represents to US as a community (yes because of white supremacy and slavery)
The LS, mixed, non-Black, exotic, etc chicks have a leg up over DS women.
You say Storm Reid is LS but is not exotic (I.e. “regular”) so she isn’t desired more than the women you listed.
But you’re still proving my point. She might not be more desired than darker women who are considered more attractive than her, but the point is if you put her in HS or on a college campus, her being a regular cute LS girl would make her more desired simply because she’s lighter than the other regular girls walking around.
The DS girls who also don’t have exotic features get pushed aside or checked for as an afterthought when someone like Storm is around (and I think she’s adorable and a good actress).
We all understand this shyt is rooted in slavery. Horrible traits are associated with dark skin, and people still desire someone with less strong features— meaning looser hair, lighter skin, less prominent west African features, etc.
If any of those traits are deemed hyper masculine, DS men can still benefit from them, or overcome them with success, stability, etc all the things that yall are ultimately judged on.
Anyway, this stuff will probably never end.
It’s whatever. Folks will continue to get in where they fit in, or they won’t.
I have another long day ahead of me and so I bid y’all adieu.