Introverted brehs how the fukk do you get by

[KodeBlue]

Turn the charm on when convenient. Give them a slice and then go back into your personal space, making them beg for more. Rinse. Repeat.There’s value in scarcity.

One of the 48 laws of power.

 

[Spin]

Well if you're an introvert you should have at least two skills. One is being a good listener and the other is people tend to "like" you because you're easy to get along with. Much of that has to do with people love talking about themselves and introverts will let people talk about themselves (even if we aren't paying attention). I can bounce around introvert/extrovert based on the topic being discussed. I can get intense about a few subjects I really care about, but most other things I have take it or leave it attitude.

I don't go out much just to drink, but I do attend networking events with the intent of getting information or business. It also helps weed out people because you at least know others that you will meeting at your chosen event share similar interests.

 

[Vinny Lupton]

I used to be introverted... then I grew up ... how can any man be some shy wallflower dainty little girl when there are women to fukk and there is money to be made...

yaah. Dat way

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

information is a currency and privacy is a luxury. They're trying to manipulate you to get information on you so they can influence you to do what they want. They're mad you're what everybody pretends to be, self-sustaining. LOL I just lie. I tell them what they want to hear or I get them to talk about themselves, they never stop, they won't realize you didn't give up information at the end of the conversation.

I give non-answers and flip it on them. They're so stupid they don't realize I'm not listening at all. LOL try not to laugh in their face though, they don't like that shyt.

 

[Roid Jones]

 

[GreenGhxst]

nikka, just talk to people. I used to be introverted, middle school, early high school days but somewhere along the line I found it to be way more fun to interact and talk to people, over being silent.

You'll be surprised how much in common you have with people and how much more fun it is to connect.

Sometimes you have to ask yourself, am I not talking to these people because I'm shy and insecure or is it because I really don't want too.

If it's the latter don't bother then because you're being true to self, if it's the former get over it and put yourself out there.

 

[Roid Jones]

Yeah I agree but like you said online it's made out as something it's not. I also have to be real I don't get either term because talking or not talking to cats irl doesn't affect my energy one way or another. I don't know what I am lol.

The way some posters talk about their energy being sapped is ridiculous, I've seen posters saying being greeted at work makes them feel low I really think a lot of posters have underlying issues that has nothing to do with being introverted.

 

[DillaTUDE]

Never understood why nikkas get so upset about threads like this. If motherfukkers don't wanna talk what the fukk is there to get riled up about?

Dudes in here be mad as hell over the fact that some people are content with not being outgoing. Jesus.

 

[Kingshango]

Turn the charm on when convenient. Give them a slice and then go back into your personal space, making them beg for more. Rinse. Repeat.There’s value in scarcity.

Me basically.

 

[GPBear]

Work on art, smoke weed, talk shyt on thecoli

s'bout it

 

[philmonroe]

The way some posters talk about their energy being sapped is ridiculous, I've seen posters saying being greeted at work makes them feel low I really think a lot of posters have underlying issues that has nothing to do with being introverted.

Oh I agree 100%. I think the truth is most dudes are either unattractive, money not right, job not right, socially awkward or they are many/all these things rolled into one person. People don't give a fukk about folks like that unless you're famous or some shyt. If these dudes don't want to be bothered I'm positive people like eh. That goes for me and you too nobody is like please pretty hang with us. People probably being nice by asking why don't you talk as an olive branch that they can chill with them and these dudes making it seem like a bad chick on ig getting sweated by thirsty dudes lol.

I'm pretty sure these cats are cool if they keep in the circle that fits them just like everybody else but the introverts are deep, more cool, awesome is hysterical. We all know irl that ain't how it goes. I'd same the same thing if it was a monthly version of this geared towards extroverts too.

 

[philmonroe]

nikka, just talk to people. I used to be introverted, middle school, early high school days but somewhere along the line I found it to be way more fun to interact and talk to people, over being silent.

You'll be surprised how much in common you have with people and how much more fun it is to connect.

Sometimes you have to ask yourself, am I not talking to these people because I'm shy and insecure or is it because I really don't want too.

If it's the latter don't bother then because you're being true to self, if it's the former get over it and put yourself out there.

We have to be honest more times than not it's the former. Humans are social people even if on here but folks don't want interactions with folks? Nah son a lot of these dudes are shy and hide behind shyt. No different than when cats say shyt like I don't want to talk to a girl because she don't want to be bothered but she just standing there. We don't believe you you need more people lol

 

[Larry cumavelli]

Extroverts yap their mouth too much, wondering why and how people know their every move

Me, I plot everything on my mind.

damn bruh, u've also read machiavelli and sun tzu?

 

[Professor Emeritus]

The struggle is real.


Here's the classic, somewhat trollish pro-introvert essay.

Do you know someone who needs hours alone every day? Who loves quiet conversations about feelings or ideas, and can give a dynamite presentation to a big audience, but seems awkward in groups and maladroit at small talk? Who has to be dragged to parties and then needs the rest of the day to recuperate? Who growls or scowls or grunts or winces when accosted with pleasantries by people who are just trying to be nice?

If so, do you tell this person he is "too serious," or ask if he is okay? Regard him as aloof, arrogant, rude? Redouble your efforts to draw him out?

If you answered yes to these questions, chances are that you have an introvert on your hands—and that you aren't caring for him properly. Science has learned a good deal in recent years about the habits and requirements of introverts. It has even learned, by means of brain scans, that introverts process information differently from other people (I am not making this up). If you are behind the curve on this important matter, be reassured that you are not alone. Introverts may be common, but they are also among the most misunderstood and aggrieved groups in America, possibly the world.

I know. My name is Jonathan, and I am an introvert.

Oh, for years I denied it. After all, I have good social skills. I am not morose or misanthropic. Usually. I am far from shy. I love long conversations that explore intimate thoughts or passionate interests. But at last I have self-identified and come out to my friends and colleagues. In doing so, I have found myself liberated from any number of damaging misconceptions and stereotypes. Now I am here to tell you what you need to know in order to respond sensitively and supportively to your own introverted family members, friends, and colleagues. Remember, someone you know, respect, and interact with every day is an introvert, and you are probably driving this person nuts. It pays to learn the warning signs.

What is introversion? In its modern sense, the concept goes back to the 1920s and the psychologist Carl Jung. Today it is a mainstay of personality tests, including the widely used Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Introverts are not necessarily shy. Shy people are anxious or frightened or self-excoriating in social settings; introverts generally are not. Introverts are also not misanthropic, though some of us do go along with Sartre as far as to say "Hell is other people at breakfast." Rather, introverts are people who find other people tiring.

Extroverts are energized by people, and wilt or fade when alone. They often seem bored by themselves, in both senses of the expression. Leave an extrovert alone for two minutes and he will reach for his cell phone. In contrast, after an hour or two of being socially "on," we introverts need to turn off and recharge. My own formula is roughly two hours alone for every hour of socializing. This isn't antisocial. It isn't a sign of depression. It does not call for medication. For introverts, to be alone with our thoughts is as restorative as sleeping, as nourishing as eating. Our motto: "I'm okay, you're okay—in small doses."

How many people are introverts? I performed exhaustive research on this question, in the form of a quick Google search. The answer: About 25 percent. Or: Just under half. Or—my favorite—"a minority in the regular population but a majority in the gifted population."

Are introverts misunderstood? Wildly. That, it appears, is our lot in life. "It is very difficult for an extrovert to understand an introvert," write the education experts Jill D. Burruss and Lisa Kaenzig. (They are also the source of the quotation in the previous paragraph.) Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways. Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion. As often as I have tried to explain the matter to extroverts, I have never sensed that any of them really understood. They listen for a moment and then go back to barking and yipping.

Are introverts oppressed? I would have to say so. For one thing, extroverts are overrepresented in politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Bush. Look at Bill Clinton. They seem to come fully to life only around other people. To think of the few introverts who did rise to the top in politics—Calvin Coolidge, Richard Nixon—is merely to drive home the point. With the possible exception of Ronald Reagan, whose fabled aloofness and privateness were probably signs of a deep introverted streak (many actors, I've read, are introverts, and many introverts, when socializing, feel like actors), introverts are not considered "naturals" in politics.

Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place. As Coolidge is supposed to have said, "Don't you know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still?" (He is also supposed to have said, "If you don't say anything, you won't be called on to repeat it." The only thing a true introvert dislikes more than talking about himself is repeating himself.)

With their endless appetite for talk and attention, extroverts also dominate social life, so they tend to set expectations. In our extrovertist society, being outgoing is considered normal and therefore desirable, a mark of happiness, confidence, leadership. Extroverts are seen as bighearted, vibrant, warm, empathic. "People person" is a compliment. Introverts are described with words like "guarded," "loner," "reserved," "taciturn," "self-contained," "private"—narrow, ungenerous words, words that suggest emotional parsimony and smallness of personality. Female introverts, I suspect, must suffer especially. In certain circles, particularly in the Midwest, a man can still sometimes get away with being what they used to call a strong and silent type; introverted women, lacking that alternative, are even more likely than men to be perceived as timid, withdrawn, haughty.

Are introverts arrogant? Hardly. I suppose this common misconception has to do with our being more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts. Also, it is probably due to our lack of small talk, a lack that extroverts often mistake for disdain. We tend to think before talking, whereas extroverts tend to think bytalking, which is why their meetings never last less than six hours. "Introverts," writes a perceptive fellow named Thomas P. Crouser, in an online review of a recent book called Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money? (I'm not making thatup, either), "are driven to distraction by the semi-internal dialogue extroverts tend to conduct. Introverts don't outwardly complain, instead roll their eyes and silently curse the darkness." Just so.

The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves. Still, we endure stoically, because the etiquette books—written, no doubt, by extroverts—regard declining to banter as rude and gaps in conversation as awkward. We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts' Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say "I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush."

How can I let the introvert in my life know that I support him and respect his choice? First, recognize that it's not a choice. It's not a lifestyle. It's an orientation.

Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don't say "What's the matter?" or "Are you all right?"

Third, don't say anything else, either.

Caring for Your Introvert

 

[All Women Are Queens]

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