Is cheating the worst thing in a relationship?

[Ashley Banks]

I don't think a cheater is necessarily a bad person.

That's way too much of a black-and-white opinion.

You have to understand that life is complicated.
Relationships are complicated.
Infidelity can be complicated.

I'm not condoning cheating but you really gotta be careful about making broad comments about this kind of thing.

I mean, (and this is just an example)...
I don't condone murder.

Are all murderers evil people? Or could you come up with a scenario where you could sympathize a little bit?

Like suppose a man has a 6 year old daughter who gets abused and killed by a pedophile.
That's a horrible, horrible situation.

The child's father finds the abuser and shoots him dead on the spot.

That father is a murderer.
But a lot of people would sympathize and understand the motive, even if they disapprove of the act.

Right?

Now that's an example.
Is that the same as someone who cheats? No.
It isn't.

Just for the goddamn fukkfaced coli c*nts who are gonna tell me "murder aint the same as cheating"...I KNOW.

But I was just illustrating a point where something that people are overwhelmingly against could also be viewed from a sympathetic perspective.

So does cheating make you a bad person?
My answer is....maybe.

It depends on the situation.
You don't condone it, but you don't go making definitive judgments about another person's character, either.

cheaters are bad people, get over it breh. you're a bad person.

 

[Remote]

cheaters are bad people, get over it breh. you're a bad person.

You're young and naive.
And so you don't understand the nuances of life yet.

You'll eventually grow though.

Good luck.

 

[Easy-E]

Who killed themselves?



That's some sad shyt.
Doubt it was from the cheating though. They probably had emotional issues from the jump.

I'm sure you mean the guy @beanz was talking about and the lady @Sunshine meantioned

Surely u didn't just drop that ? 4 the latter

 

[Ashley Banks]

You're young and naive.
And so you don't understand the nuances of life yet.

You'll eventually grow though.

Good luck.

Intentionally hurting people makes you a bad person, breh. "growing" won't change that.

and I'm not that young, I'm 22.

 

[Remote]

Intentionally hurting people makes you a bad person, breh. "growing" won't change that.

and I'm not that young, I'm 22.

The problem is that you think in every instance of someone cheating, that they willfully did it to hurt their partner.

You have this insane tunnel vision where you think everything in life is deliberate and black and white.
Life doesn't work that way.

 

[Born2BKing]

I know women that have killed themselves after getting cheated on, My mom was depressed for a long time after she found out my dad cheated and had a miscarriage because of all the stress it caused, I know men that have stayed with women that cheated on them. All that means is PEOPLE react differently to being cheated on. It doesn't mean men cheating hurts less.

One of my homeboys was one of the smoothest nikkas you'd ever meet. Got a lot of chicks and cheated on his girl from time to time. Well another one of my homeboys found out that his girl was cheating on him with some other nikka and told him. I just knew he was going to throw ol girl to the bushes because he had plenty of women to choose from. Well 8 months later, he married the cheating broad. Surprised the shyt out of me.

 

[Ashley Banks]

One of my homeboys was one of the smoothest nikkas you'd ever meet. Got a lot of chicks and cheated on his girl from time to time. Well another one of my homeboys found out that his girl was cheating on him with some other nikka and told him. I just knew he was going to throw ol girl to the bushes because he had plenty of women to choose from. Well 8 months later, he married the cheating broad. Surprised the shyt out of me.

my uncle did the same thing except his wife cheated with his (adult) son and he caught them and still married her WTF and he tries to say "she's a sweet person" "you should get to know her"

guess this means women cheating doesn't hurt as much

 

[Born2BKing]

my uncle did the same thing except his wife cheated with his (adult) son and he caught them and still married her WTF and he tries to say "she's a sweet person" "you should get to know her"

guess this means women cheating doesn't hurt as much

A lot of dudes will forgive their girl if she cheats. I've seen it time and time again. They can talk a big game but they go crawling back once they find out another dude is blowing his girls back out.

 

[Ashley Banks]

The problem is that you think in every instance of someone cheating, that they willfully did it to hurt their partner.

You have this insane tunnel vision where you think everything in life is deliberate and black and white.
Life doesn't work that way.

Yes, because an adult doesn't know that cheating on their partner would hurt them. You know doing something will hurt the person you "love" yet you still do it. "I did it and I knew It would hurt you, but I didn't mean to hurt you"

lol how would you even know this?

 

[Ashley Banks]

A lot of dudes will forgive their girl if she cheats. I've seen it time and time again. They can talk a big game but they go crawling back once they find out another dude is blowing his girls back out.

I know. I've seen it tons of times. It's really sad.

 

[Remote]

Yes, because an adult doesn't know that cheating on their partner would hurt them. You know doing something will hurt the person you "love" yet you still do it. "I did it and I knew It would hurt you, but I didn't mean to hurt you"

lol how would you even know this?

Why don't you address the murder scenario which shows that sometimes people can sympathize with abhorrent behavior?

You're really acting like a typical woman here.

 

[Born2BKing]

Yes, because an adult doesn't know that cheating on their partner would hurt them. You know doing something will hurt the person you "love" yet you still do it. "I did it and I knew It would hurt you, but I didn't mean to hurt you"

lol how would you even know this?

This means they didn't attend for the person to find out, which in turn will prevent them from being hurt.

 

[MikelArteta]

Cheaters are scum only cheaters think cheaters are scum.

And that goes for all you emotional cheaters as wel

 

[Ashley Banks]

Why don't you address the murder scenario which shows that sometimes people can sympathize with abhorrent behavior?

Sometimes, there's a good reason to kill. Like defending yourself, defending your family member or someone you love, or even defending a stranger.

Give me a good reason for someone to cheat.

This means they didn't attend for the person to find out, which in turn will prevent them from being hurt.

But they still knew it would hurt them.

 

[Born2BKing]

I know. I've seen it tons of times. It's really sad.

nikkas be like "did you suck his dikk?? bytch, did....you...suck..his dikk?"